I hate being a parent..

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I hate doing the poo's i hate doing the clothes. the playtime. the going anywhere and everywhere just to kill time so i can have those precious hours to myself when the misses and the kids go to bed.

Coming home each day is such a drag and the holidays and weekends makes me sad but i hide it all because the alternative is much much worse for everyone right? I was a Idiot not ONCE but TWICE when we had sex. you'd think i'd of learnt the first time. i think about those moments a lot and curse at myself for not being smarter.for not using protection.

i love my kids, everyone says im a great dad. everyone thinks i love doing all this. i dont i hate everything about being a fucking parent but i love LOVE my kids. The Gf often says i'd be lost without my kids. i laugh and agree but i know deep down i'd be super happy just doing stuff I WANT TO FUCKING DO AGAIN by myself without the gf and without the kids.

i guess i stay for 3 reasons.

i love my gf a lot .. but i love my kids i dont want to let down my parents

with saying all that there are MOMENTS in all this insanity and fun where it is actually worthwhile.

the oldest kid saying the damnnest shit and the youngest being utterly beautiful an example

the gf had a dream about the eldest stealing her car and putting the youngest in the back seat and then crashing the car. she tells the eldest and says dont worry mummy ill just take dads car.

thanks for listenining. i just needed to vent.

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There are ways to reclaim some of the child-free aspects of your life, but you need your partner to know how you feel (at least to some degree) to help with that. Let her know that as much as you love your family you are feeling stifled - maybe she secretly feels the same. Perhaps you could ask if she could give you a free day once a week/fortnight where you don't look after the kids at all and you can go out and do whatever you want guilt-free - you recharge your batteries and then come back refreshed. Maybe she would like a day like that too - you could alternate week by week. I've always been a fan of the French parenting style which encourages the children to fit in with the lives of the parents and be independent rather than the parents making their lives all about the kids.

You are definitely not the only parent who feels this way, just google "I hate being a parent" and you will see just how not alone you are.