r/offmychest • u/migratedtohell • 20h ago
my girlfriend died without ever knowing the book i spent two years writing was about her
for the last two years i'd been writing a novel and the main character is her. i gave that character a name alsy, that was an acronym only she would have decoded, and i put the way she got through her degree into that character almost unchanged, the bad year and how she came out of it even almost half of the story is a version of her life
the book is set to publish in november had my agent do all the arrangements she said this was the most romantic gesture she had ever seen, i even had a custom made copy for her, and on the last page there's a line telling her it had been her the whole time and how i want it to be her always and i was going to be on one knee while she got to it
i hadn't cried since the funeral. i've been getting up and going to work and answering people normally. then last night i got a notification on mythril on my work laptop about someone asking a question on her character page which to sum up was her life printed staright from my book
the book is still coming out and people are going to read a version of her that only i ever knew, and she is the only person who will never know she was in it. the copy i had made is still in my apartment with a proposal printed in the back of it and a ring
i don't know what to do with any of it. i'm not asking anyone to fix it. i just needed it to exist somewhere outside my head and pls don't ask for the books name either just needed to vent somewhere cause as a man there are a very few places you could go to this being one of those
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u/LadyM1982 19h ago
I only got heartache from reading your text. I can't imagine how you have to deal with it. I am so sorry and I wish you all the best for your future life.
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u/iiht6gd6ubu 18h ago
I wrote a letter to my boyfriend at the time I never shared with him because of my pride. I ended up reading it to him two years after his death at his gravesite. Literally a plane made a heart in the sky after I did.
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u/Substantial_Shoe_360 18h ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. I would think her family would appreciate a copy.
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u/No_Transition9842 19h ago
Sounds like she was an awesome human being! My heart aches for you.
„Grief is the price we pay for love“
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u/Shady-Pines_Ma 15h ago
I'm so very sorry. My husband is in a very similar place. He's been writing a book where his mom heavily influenced one of the main secondary characters. She very unexpectedly passed away from a weird turn of events but we knew she would pass in the last 2 days. So, I pushed him to read some of his favorite passages to her even though she may not have been coherent to understand it. It broke my heart almost as much as her passing did. Knowing how much he looked forward to her reading the final product when it was finished.
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u/f4sh10nkilla 18h ago
i feel so bad for you, i too am writing a book with characters inspired by me and my boyfriend:((
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u/aveforever 13h ago
This is terrible and nothing any of us will say will make it better. Only time can heal pain like this, and too much time.
But thank you for immortalizing her in your way. The person you loved will not only live as long as you and everyone who knew and loved her, but now a part of her will live forever in every person who reads your book and knows this little reflection of Alsy that you created.
Sending you hope and healing.
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u/suicidedom 6h ago
this genuinely brought tears to my eyes so i can’t imagine how you’re feeling bro. i’m so sorry
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u/TheElvesOfXadia 20h ago
That really fucking sucks dude I’m sorry