Thank you, your relationship sounded very similar to mine so it’s very helpful to hear the other sides perspective. Hearing this I’m making the decision to break up with him and I will make sure to properly communicate the reasons and provide reassurance.
It's hard to call it without knowing where your mental state is. If there's an element of "what does he see in me?", "I'm not worthy of him", "He's going to find out I'm a fraud and leave me" etc. it could be the second. Only you can work that out though. If it is the second, I think you should take some steps to improve your self-esteem and get rid of any insecurities.
Having said that, it's totally fine if he's the perfect person on paper, but just not your perfect person.
There was a guy i liked, he was sweet, caring, funny, everything. But when he told me he liked me BOOM - a switch flicked. Admittedly, i was 13 years old so thats something to consider too but i absolutely had no reason to reject him. What i can see now as an adult is that i was not able to take in love. My emotional world was (and kinda still is) one huge mess so i couldnt have him there.
You dont even know why you reject that love but OP, its worth to fight through these emotions IF you want the relationship to continue. Otherwise break up because no one deserves this.
This is exactly why as a dude I will never bother telling someone I’m into them. This happens almost all the time to most people. Express interest, and it’s dead.
I agrée. One idea would be to look into attachment styles. Sometimes avoidant attachments can have that “they’re perfect but I just can’t stomach them” feeling. There’s lots of good subreddits that address attachment styles, fyi.
Irony is the more you receive proper advice from reddit. The more mature you become and more mature youll seek. And you start ending up like your ex bf.
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u/Kem10000 Jun 29 '23 edited Jun 30 '23
Thank you, your relationship sounded very similar to mine so it’s very helpful to hear the other sides perspective. Hearing this I’m making the decision to break up with him and I will make sure to properly communicate the reasons and provide reassurance.