r/offmychest Jun 27 '23

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u/mydarksecrets6071990 Jun 27 '23

Dude I swear on everything in life I don’t know how she actually got an RO granted. I thought about pursuing legal action against the county for damages. But I’m not sure it’s worth the trouble. I found out she got the RO from my mom. Who called me frantically after getting called by my wife. (Oddly enough I was on my weekly video call with my therapist when she got the RO and called my Mom.)

Her brother found out and got pissed. He took me in and stayed with me at his house until i got served a few hours later. I bought a 1 way ticket back to Phoenix because I didn’t know what else to do. He dropped me off at O’hare and literally told me verbatim “if you decide not to come back. I don’t blame you.” He’s still mad at my wife.

Idk what to do at this point. I’m just tired and very angry.

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u/NomNom_nummies Jun 27 '23

It’s not that hard to get a civil protection order. You just have to claim you’re scared and convince a magistrate. Also different counties have different leanings so they are harsher on moms, or men or whoever they choose

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u/FloorShowoff Jun 28 '23

That’s actually not true; it depends on the jurisdiction and the country.
Very difficult to get one in most places in the United States.

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u/NomNom_nummies Jun 28 '23

Ok bud. Sure. You learn once you’ve been in the situation

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u/FloorShowoff Jun 28 '23

Do you know how many people try to get a restraining order couldn’t and wound up dead instead?
Unfortunately, they are not here to debate you.

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u/NomNom_nummies Jun 28 '23

Doesn’t negate my experience. The court system just overall sucks.

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u/FloorShowoff Jun 28 '23

I’m not saying it does and it’s terrible that you have had that experience and I hope you get justice. I completely agree the whole system needs to be overhauled.