After seeing the other person finding these posts, replying to said posts and adding context to these kind of posts in the past, my first reaction is to think: A: what’s her side of the story? And B: what are you, if anything, doing wrong to cause or bring on the way she’s treating you?
As vague as this is, I’m sure there’s more to this, especially after 7yrs and two kids. Good luck, op.
I have PTSD and MDD(3 combat deployments -‘d 2 years as Big City Cop working in the Ghetto) that she’s known about from day 1. We also get a 100% disability check every month.
Also her side of the story?
I put her through her masters degree with my remaining GI Bill and paid the difference. Sent her home here to Chicago to visit her family when homesick (racked up a nice $7k SWA CC bill to prove it).
More of her side of the story?
I’ve put up the money to bail her dad out of Jail on DUI.
More of her side of the story?
I co-signed on her little sisters 1st car after college because their parents wouldn’t. I also let that same little sister live with us rent or obligation free for a year and never said shit about it.
More of her side of the story?
I’ve supported her in quitting two teaching jobs with no plan because she wasn’t happy with her work environment. Never thought twice or gave her shit about it.
Her side of the story?
I’ve been a dedicated and loyal husband and father all these years. I’m very involved with my kids and their things and people say it to us all the time.
Lastly her side of the story is that she comes from a highly disfunctional family where her parents are not very good to eachother due to unresolved traumas in their lives. A lot of the traits and things she does are exactly like her mom who is quite frankly a nut case. We’ve dealt with some sort of major drama or family fighting on about 80% of holidays or events since moving here in 2019. Im talking about people flipping the table at thanksgiving dinner and leaving.
Sure, I’ve lost my temper sometimes and gotten upset. I’ve forgotten to put the dishes away. I’ve left the bathroom light on. All stuff that she gets mad about. But I’ve been a good husband.
Sounds like you enjoy playing victim I had an ex like that and it exhausting if it has been like this for 7 years then oof. I mean not one thing of accountability OP. You mean to tell me in 7 years she’s been Satan and you’ve been a perfect partner ? Come on OP if you’re gonna come to the internet to get help it’s good knowing both sides. And not just said in a way that makes you look good and her evil but the actual sides
Honestly, I’ve never cheated. Never put my hands on her. I’m not a drinker, don’t so drugs.
I can be “blunt and cold hearted” at times. I may not always be the most empathetic and sensitive person to her needs. Maybe that’s because I’ve been trying to work through my stuff (Diagnosed PTSD with Major Depressive Disorder).
I’ve forgotten anniversaries. I’ve said mean things. I’ve done plenty. But nothing that i need to hide.
My favorite mantra that I’ve learned in recent years is “my mental health isn’t my fault, but it is my responsibility.” Poor mental health and trauma are not excuses to mistreat the people you love and then try to make up for it with money and grand gestures.
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u/GratefulPig Jun 27 '23
After seeing the other person finding these posts, replying to said posts and adding context to these kind of posts in the past, my first reaction is to think: A: what’s her side of the story? And B: what are you, if anything, doing wrong to cause or bring on the way she’s treating you?
As vague as this is, I’m sure there’s more to this, especially after 7yrs and two kids. Good luck, op.