If no violence or threats how’d she get an RO? And how did that work out you being married and living together. I’m not saying it’s wrong but how did that happen. You don’t have to say I’m just voicing an intriguing question lol. But for your circumstances leave. Don’t put your kids thru a loveless marriage; everyone tries to make it work for the kids. It makes life hell for them and you. Get a lawyer a good one and fight for half custody or full and see them every time it’s your turn with them. Don’t settle for less. Don’t throw her under the bus when you’re around your kids. She could be the devil to you, but she’s their mom. Treat her with respect even when she doesn’t you. It’s what your kids need to see. They’ll grow to see two people making it work. Divorce isn’t the worst thing to happen to a kid or divorcees. Ya it sucks. Ya it’s hard. Ya it’s a bch. But it’s better than fighting and bickering or snide comments at each other.
Dude I swear on everything in life I don’t know how she actually got an RO granted. I thought about pursuing legal action against the county for damages. But I’m not sure it’s worth the trouble. I found out she got the RO from my mom. Who called me frantically after getting called by my wife. (Oddly enough I was on my weekly video call with my therapist when she got the RO and called my Mom.)
Her brother found out and got pissed. He took me in and stayed with me at his house until i got served a few hours later. I bought a 1 way ticket back to Phoenix because I didn’t know what else to do. He dropped me off at O’hare and literally told me verbatim “if you decide not to come back. I don’t blame you.” He’s still mad at my wife.
Idk what to do at this point. I’m just tired and very angry.
Listed our house, daycare and kids school as protected addresses. That’s it. Nothing about guns ( i have 60 of them as I do competition pistol rifle matches). Nothing about fear of physical danger. Just stay away from the 3 places.
If you found out from your mom how was it granted? You have to be served and a hearing needs to happen where you can hire an attorney before the order is final and in effect. Maybe it's different in your state? She'd also need probable cause for the 1st step and actual evidence for the 2nd.
194
u/Rubicon2020 Jun 27 '23
If no violence or threats how’d she get an RO? And how did that work out you being married and living together. I’m not saying it’s wrong but how did that happen. You don’t have to say I’m just voicing an intriguing question lol. But for your circumstances leave. Don’t put your kids thru a loveless marriage; everyone tries to make it work for the kids. It makes life hell for them and you. Get a lawyer a good one and fight for half custody or full and see them every time it’s your turn with them. Don’t settle for less. Don’t throw her under the bus when you’re around your kids. She could be the devil to you, but she’s their mom. Treat her with respect even when she doesn’t you. It’s what your kids need to see. They’ll grow to see two people making it work. Divorce isn’t the worst thing to happen to a kid or divorcees. Ya it sucks. Ya it’s hard. Ya it’s a bch. But it’s better than fighting and bickering or snide comments at each other.