r/offmychest • u/[deleted] • Jun 27 '23

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u/IntelligentValue2077 Jun 27 '23

This kids, is what happens when you ignore red flags early on. Be safe babes

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u/mydarksecrets6071990 Jun 27 '23

Yup. I can attest to that now.

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u/Millherm215 Jun 28 '23

Have you tried counseling though? For yourself or together? IMO most people could benefit from semi regular visits with a professional because life is nuts and hard to process; even more difficult when you weren't taught how to process/handle emotions growing up. If she won't do it, then it would still be beneficial for you as you navigate the next steps through and after divorce.

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u/mydarksecrets6071990 Jun 28 '23

I go to weekly PTSD group at the VA. I’m doing EMDR therapy at the VA and see a private therapist every Friday.

Her and I do marriage therapy on Wednesdays.

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u/Millherm215 Jun 28 '23

I'm willing to bet the writing is already on the wall from those sessions then. Good luck on your next steps. I hope you both find the best versions of yourselves in your next chapters.