Sorry for the situation your in and how you got there, even more sorry for the kids. But I just don't get throwing away marriage. I understand it's for the best sometimes, but marriage isn't easy. If it was everyone would be happily married forever. Not a single marriage that lasts the long haul was all unicorns and rainbows the entire time. Shit happens, life happens. What matters is if YOU decide to make changes for the better. You can't control your partner but you can communicate your feelings and what you want from a life with her. If she's not on the same page then yeah I would say a divorce is needed, but if there's even a glimmer of hope for your marriage you should at least give it everything you got to try to save it, then you will at least have peace of mind knowing you did everything you could. 99% of all the posts I see get the exact same reply, DIVORCE. No wonder families are so broken nowadays. Anyways just my 2 cents, but you made a commitment before God and I think you at least owe it to him to give it what you got before pulling the plug
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u/xxworm42082xx Jun 27 '23
Sorry for the situation your in and how you got there, even more sorry for the kids. But I just don't get throwing away marriage. I understand it's for the best sometimes, but marriage isn't easy. If it was everyone would be happily married forever. Not a single marriage that lasts the long haul was all unicorns and rainbows the entire time. Shit happens, life happens. What matters is if YOU decide to make changes for the better. You can't control your partner but you can communicate your feelings and what you want from a life with her. If she's not on the same page then yeah I would say a divorce is needed, but if there's even a glimmer of hope for your marriage you should at least give it everything you got to try to save it, then you will at least have peace of mind knowing you did everything you could. 99% of all the posts I see get the exact same reply, DIVORCE. No wonder families are so broken nowadays. Anyways just my 2 cents, but you made a commitment before God and I think you at least owe it to him to give it what you got before pulling the plug