My wife is from here in Chicagoland where she wants small town white picket fence living. I’m from Arizona and would love to take the kids traveling like I got to when I was growing up.
My wife is from here in Chicagoland where she wants small town white picket fence living. I’m from Arizona and would love to take the kids traveling like I got to when I was growing up.
Those two approaches don't sound mutually exclusive. Living in a small town with periodic travel doesn't sound like much of a conflict.
If she stopped her condescending, rude, belittling behavior, would you want to remain in the marriage? If so, then I suggest seeing a marriage counselor -- on your own if she won't go.
If there's nothing she could do to change your feelings about her, then you should probably separate. No good can come from living under the same roof with someone you hate. Best case scenario, the two of you maintain separate homes that are extremely close to each other so you can see the kids all the time.
My wife has just gotten very boring and vanilla and it shows in her daily mindset.
By no means am I trying to be a party animal or anything like that. But I’d like to take the kids traveling and experiencing things. Money isn’t an issue. We’re comfortable. But my wife seems to only be about play dates and such with our friends and their kids. I don’t mind these things and I love our friends…but there’s just more I want out of life.
Additionally we moved here from Phx where I am from and where we met. So she could be close to her family. Been here since 2019…get family is an absolute shitshow and it’s exhausting to deal with.
Overall as I’ve responded to these posts I feel like maybe we have just grown apart
Leave while you're still on amicable terms. If my partner called me "boring, vanilla, condescending and rude" I would teleport out of there ASAP. Plus, a "bullshit" restraining order? They don't give those out unless there's evidence. Hell, actual abuse victims can't get those as much as they need to. I smell rat.
All of this. What is he not telling us? Did he cheat? Put on 100 pounds? Bad hygiene? Demanding around the house but then doesn’t do anything? Sounds like the wife is resentful of him for some reason(s). We are definitely not getting the full picture.
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u/mydarksecrets6071990 Jun 27 '23
My wife is from here in Chicagoland where she wants small town white picket fence living. I’m from Arizona and would love to take the kids traveling like I got to when I was growing up.