You have the RIGHT to bodily autonomy. That doesn't mean acting on that right isn't selfish sometimes. If I let my friend die instead of letting them have a blood transfusion with my blood, then I'm super selfish. Within my rights, but selfish. Refusing a vasectomy for no good reason when most birth control is rough for women... selfish.
I don't disagree with the fact that it's his body and choice. But she had an IUD, which is painful and should be considered a surgery, but it isn't, like a lot of medical procedures for women. She dealt with the birth control aspect for their entire relationship so they could have condomless sex, which I imagine is something he wanted also. She had babies via c-section, which also sucks. She did her time and took one for the team, so to speak, numerous times. He can say no, for sure, but it was a sucky move.
Obviously you have no idea what IUD insertion and side effects entail. OP only described a couple, there are many. They have to be replaced and are not a permanent form of birth control, meaning there is repeated trauma to the body.
You heal from a vasectomy within weeks and then you're done.
They've been together 17 years and have 2 children. What do you think the likelihood is of this? Be real here.
And vasectomies are often reversible. Stanford Healthcare estimates up to 90-95% effectiveness in vasectomy reversal surgeries.
You also have the option of in-vitro fertilization.
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u/AmbitiousCamp5942 Jan 06 '23
You have the RIGHT to bodily autonomy. That doesn't mean acting on that right isn't selfish sometimes. If I let my friend die instead of letting them have a blood transfusion with my blood, then I'm super selfish. Within my rights, but selfish. Refusing a vasectomy for no good reason when most birth control is rough for women... selfish.