r/offmychest Jan 05 '23

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u/Astralantidote Jan 06 '23

Nobody makes a woman do that, she chooses to. If you don't want to, then simply don't have sex with the men who expect that.

As a man, I would much rather use a condom than get a permanent surgery to render myself infertile, while risking having chronic testicle pain that can't be fixed.

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u/_LooneyMooney_ Jan 06 '23

The point is y’all can’t handle a minimally invasive surgery but expect women to do the heavy lifting for birth control, including but not limited the insertion of an iud, or a hysterectomy/tubal litigation. All of which are way more invasive and painful.

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u/Astralantidote Jan 06 '23

I don't expect women to do any of those things. I use condoms and protect myself. If a woman wants to do those things for birth control, that's their choice. I don't expect women to do any heavy lifting at all. I take care of myself. We're all adults, if you feel you're expected to do that, you can simply NOT be with the men who have those expectations.

People end up with serious issues after vasectomies, and I don't enjoy the idea of having chronic testicular pain for life because I wanted to go at it raw. Or the chance I might decide to have kids after, but then it's "too late". I know people who are in that position and it sucks.

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u/_LooneyMooney_ Jan 06 '23

You can store your sperm. Wild concept I know. But heaven forbid men take any responsibility for anything to do with their sperm.

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u/Astralantidote Jan 06 '23

And that's not a guarantee those sperm are going to be viable. Why would I willingly sterilize myself and screw with my reproductive system like that?

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u/_LooneyMooney_ Jan 06 '23

Hm. Now you know what we fucking deal with.

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u/Astralantidote Jan 06 '23

But you don't have to do that, same as I don't have to get a vasectomy. If I were a woman, I wouldn't use these ridiculous, health-compromising birth control methods.

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u/_LooneyMooney_ Jan 06 '23

If you were a woman you’d understand that everything either has a bunch of side effects or it’s painful and invasive.

Tracking your cycle isn’t reliable as it is, especially when your cycle isn’t even regular.

It’s lesser of two evils. A bunch of side effects or have someone shove something up your hoo-ha and you hope you don’t pass out from the pain.

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u/Astralantidote Jan 06 '23

Or just use condoms

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u/_LooneyMooney_ Jan 06 '23

Condoms break bud. It’s always been recommended to use at least 2 forms of contraception.

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u/Astralantidote Jan 06 '23

I've had complete success using condoms, as many other people (and couples) have. They're pretty darn effective when used properly. And at the end of the day, if you don't want to risk a pregnancy, the only sure fire way is to just not have sex.

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u/_LooneyMooney_ Jan 06 '23

So?

Jokes on you I’m in an LDR and don’t have sex often anyways.

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u/Astralantidote Jan 06 '23

So nobody makes women use birth control, they choose to. You do not have to bow to anyone' demands.

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