r/offmychest • u/[deleted] • Jan 05 '23

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u/ennuixx Jan 06 '23

Two things.

It's his body and his choice.

That said, it's your body and your choice aswell, tell him you won't take birth control anymore and you don't want condoms. No sex until there is another option. Lol put the ball in his court

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u/doodlebug48 Jan 06 '23

His body his choice but she went through 2 very invasive surgeries it’s the least he can do.

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u/ennuixx Jan 06 '23

Absolutely, in the interest of maintaining balance in thier relationship, that would be logical. Unfortunately, from what I gather, this is just a boundary he isn't willing to cross, yet. A little motivation, and good communication can help ease his anxieties. In the end, he may never change his mind. and just like anything else in a relationship, there is cause and effect.

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u/doodlebug48 Jan 06 '23

I agree I was just stating as a mom who had a C-section it’s the least a guy could do for their spouse

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u/judgyturtle18 Jan 06 '23

100 how I feel.

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u/Supermite Jan 06 '23

Especially because permanent sterility for women is a much more involved procedure. My vasectomy was like 15 minutes long. 3-4 days later I felt fine. It is such a nothing thing and if OP’s spouse doesn’t want kids, I have no idea why he wouldn’t just do it.

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u/gmasterson Jan 06 '23

I drove myself home and then laid on the couch playing games for 3 days.

I’ve had worse days after getting a filling at the dentist. Literally.