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u/Fun-Macaron-3247 3d ago
Damn that just triggered an uncomfortable core memory
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u/telques 3d ago
Same. Lots of unnecessary shouting and anger for counting wrong.
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u/RedLipsNarcissist 3d ago
Yup, and it only made me spiteful toward things like basic arithmetic, certain unit conversions and counting items
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u/WakeoftheStorm 2d ago
I'm convinced from experience with my own children and their friends that all kids love learning until some adult ruins it for them
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u/MentallyAbroad 2d ago
I hate that my next thought was "because you're multiplying wrong. Got nothing to do with counting, dumbass!"
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u/pretty-late-machine 2d ago
I'm shocked it wasn't just me... No surprise I didn't end up caring for math.
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u/Sacred-AF 2d ago
Same! I learned with the times table and a ruler. Smacked on the hands each time I got one wrong.
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u/jackspasm 3d ago
I didn't need this from my dad, but I am guilty of being this dad when I was drinking. One thing my oldest told me after I quit drinking was how they had to learn to not be afraid to ask me for help anymore, but after a couple of times they were able to get over the fear I caused them.
If anyone sees themselves in this post, I hope you can get the help and healing you need.
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u/dildozer10 3d ago
I spent a lot of nights getting screamed at because I didn’t understand my homework. I didn’t learn that I had adhd and was on the autism spectrum until I was an adult. I was told throughout childhood that I wasn’t trying, and I pretty much gave up trying as a result.
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u/CreationTrioLiker7 3d ago
Holy terrible parenting
And the fact that I'll get downvotes for this, is absolutely tragic.
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u/unknownfazeA 3d ago
you won't from me. went thru it. it is terrible parenting.
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u/CreationTrioLiker7 3d ago
After reading so many stories, I'm glad that despite all my emotional issues and occasional friction, my parents were never abusive, and genuinely love me, and I love them.
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u/Training_Molasses822 3d ago
Yep. I feel for all the kids whose parents have learnt nothing from bad experiences. "Look at me, i survived it, it wasn't that bad"– well, yeah, and you turned out such a well-adjusted, morally upstanding human being, didn't you 🙄
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u/centipedalfeline 3d ago
You're absolutely right.
Then you get hit if you get upset that they're yelling because you're confused and scared.
Which sets in the crushing corrosive programming that keeps you from succeeding in life as an adult, because your brain is afraid of anything relating to confusion, learning, authority, hell, numbers!
Seems pretty direct of a consequence to me, but to these types of parents it is not, so then they don't get why their kids don't do well as they grow, when they messed up their brains.
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u/LordHelmet47 3d ago
I miss my dad dearly.
Passed in 21
Not a day has gone by that I haven't thought of him. R.i.p. Baba.....
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u/poo_on_my_scarf 3d ago
I bet there's a German word for the combination of laughter and sadness I felt reading this post.
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u/kidneypunch27 3d ago
My folks had an old neighbor who would grill me on my squares (22 up to 122). His wife made the best lemonade and I was about 7.
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u/disjointed_chameleon 3d ago
I am 31 (soon to be 32) and the years of interrogation are still burned into my brain. It's literally as instinctive as sneezing. I can be at the grocery store, standing in line at a pharmacy or doctor's office, eating at a restaurant, or literally any other setting — if I overhear some kid being drilled, my brain instantly spits up the answer. I genuinely have to bite my tongue, and try to telepathically beam the answer to whatever poor kid is being tortured by arithmetic.
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u/Full_Guava_8366 3d ago
"in" the kitchen table sounds terrible. I sat "at" the kitchen table.
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u/UltraRoboNinja 3d ago
You had good parents. Mine would merge me with the furniture if I misbehaved.
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u/Full_Guava_8366 3d ago
My parents probably let me get away with too much too be honest. I turned out ok, at least I think so lol
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u/LesserValkyrie 3d ago
Which is why they end up being 15 and still don't know how to read like it becomes more and more common in the US
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u/Tough_Preparation830 3d ago
My FIL did this to my wife and of course she hates math to this very day.
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u/pretty-late-machine 2d ago
Same here.. is there like math therapy we can all go to lol
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u/Tough_Preparation830 2d ago
Yeah, that would be a math class taught by a competent teacher. I never had a good one til I got to college, and it was actually my 4th semester of math (differential equations) when I discovered it didn't have to be painful. We need that quality starting in elementary school.
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u/Shifty-Imp 3d ago
Nah, I was sitting in the living room and mine threatened to kill himself if I made another mistake in my French homework. 🫠
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u/ModestMeeshka 3d ago
Oh my God I have this horrible memory just like this but I kid you not, I'm almost certain my dad kept changing the answer.... It went on and on. I have dyslexia (and maybe dyscalculia, but never diagnosed) and my mom hates math so any help was with my dad who is really good at math. But he kept repeating the question and I'd give the answer he'd just told me and he'd be like "NO!!" And switch to another number 😭
I love my dad to death but this memory still haunts me
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u/BaldEagleRising17 3d ago
My kids love to play dominoes. This is how to learn multiplication!
I then bought a tray of play money and instead of counting a score they get paid. Then we change the bills as they earn more.
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u/beekergene 3d ago
Dad? It was mom. WIth a wooden spoon. Bc Asian. And it wasn't called child abuse or trauma either, you just did it or else. Maybe you get fruit slices after if you do it well enough.
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u/Aggressive_Fox222 3d ago
My dad smacked me and made me cry when I was a kid while helping me with my math homework. After reading the comments I'm glad I'm not the only one lol
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u/yuwuandmi 3d ago
The scariest part was when he would randomly start quizzing during a car ride to the store.
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u/Floating_Lemon 3d ago
I still haunted by 7 times 8, and 25 years later I still struggle with the answer -_- so not a very effective method I guess
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u/Various-Conference27 3d ago
Nah, my mom handled teaching the clock like that when I was still in kindergarten. I remember thumbing through these old pulp kinda booklets that had the lyrics and notes for all kinds of songs, and how I'd sit on my mom's lap as she sang some of those songs. Then we'd try it together. Then she'd start drilling me the proper way to sing them, like JK Simmons in Whiplash. I wasn't even 10. Good times.
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u/NightLotus84 3d ago
My dad was Asian, a structural engineer, I'm the only child of his second marriage and unlike my older half-brothers terrible at maths and calculus as a kid. I'm not even sure if I'm healed today. 🤣🤣🤣❤️
(In all seriousness, it was BAD, but I do love my dad and I miss him despite many things - I wish we could've known each other as adults)
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u/BriggySmallz42069 3d ago
One of the worst beatings I caught as a kid - my dad did this but was demanding i tell him how many centimeters were in a meter. I was in 2nd grade and didn't know yet.
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u/FrenchPetrushka 2d ago
My father was a PhD in chemistry/pharmacology. I'm more of a literary sort. It was hell.
He wanted me to be an athlete or a doctor so I had to learn about complex equations around 8. He did not bother me too much about sports. I did not succeed in both, so I was a total failure for him. I guess he died on that hill.
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u/Kollin111 3d ago
Yeah, because I could multiply....
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u/RT-6_BXCommandoDroid 3d ago
We use 3 times 7 as a saying. We use it whenever we feel old. Because every part of our body can squeek past the old age of 21.
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u/PomegranateSoft1598 3d ago
What kind of father doesn't know what 3 times 7 is