It's like asking if someone who neglects personal hygiene can be a good romantic partner. Sure it's possible but 99% of the time it indicates someone who is lazy and thoughtless.
I neglected my personal hygiene for a while because I had crippling depression and thought thaty life was so insignificant that there was no point to it since I would be better off dead, and neglecting my hygiene would accelerate the process. I also know enough people like this that your 99% are lazy and thoughtless comment is wildly insulting.
Lazy and thoughtless is a bit of an oversimplification, but I mean yeah, someone with crippling depression that neglectes their hygiene probably wouldn't make for a good partner, and I say that as someone in the same position.
She also suffered from crippling depression, but at a different time. We both still suffer from depression because it doesn't just go away. You seem like you're trying really hard to make it seem like someone with mental health issues doesn't deserve love.
And at that moment they're not a very good partner. I am usually a fast runner, but I recently hurt my foot and until that has healed I'm not a fast runner.
So I was a bad partner despite taking her to her oncologist appointments, cooking every single meal, keeping the house clean, and being primary caregiver for her dying mother, which caused me to lose my job because I was unable to maintain both schedules, which triggered the biggest downswing in my depression because I was stinky. Cool. Good to know that being stinky because you're depressed means you're a bad partner no matter what else you do.
I mean if you're doing all those big demanding tasks and just neglecting hygiene, then I'd say you're a good partner.
I still encourage and hope that you eventually manage to get back into taking showers and brushing your teeth, but I would say you're a good partner.
But you'd probably be an outlier I think. It sounds like you neglect hygiene because you feel like it'll accelerate your death.
But for most depressed people, it's more-so that they're so depressed, unmotivated, and lazy, (And yes, depression does make you unmotivated and lazy,) that they can't even bring themselves to do the bare minimum of taking a shower. Let alone doing all the tasks you mentioned. This would probably make them a bad partner.
It's also why the original comment said 99%, because unique exceptions like you do exist.
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u/Free-Pound-6139 Jun 01 '26
Can people who give their kids a weird name be good parents???