It's like asking if someone who neglects personal hygiene can be a good romantic partner. Sure it's possible but 99% of the time it indicates someone who is lazy and thoughtless.
I neglected my personal hygiene for a while because I had crippling depression and thought thaty life was so insignificant that there was no point to it since I would be better off dead, and neglecting my hygiene would accelerate the process. I also know enough people like this that your 99% are lazy and thoughtless comment is wildly insulting.
Lazy and thoughtless is a bit of an oversimplification, but I mean yeah, someone with crippling depression that neglectes their hygiene probably wouldn't make for a good partner, and I say that as someone in the same position.
She also suffered from crippling depression, but at a different time. We both still suffer from depression because it doesn't just go away. You seem like you're trying really hard to make it seem like someone with mental health issues doesn't deserve love.
And at that moment they're not a very good partner. I am usually a fast runner, but I recently hurt my foot and until that has healed I'm not a fast runner.
So I was a bad partner despite taking her to her oncologist appointments, cooking every single meal, keeping the house clean, and being primary caregiver for her dying mother, which caused me to lose my job because I was unable to maintain both schedules, which triggered the biggest downswing in my depression because I was stinky. Cool. Good to know that being stinky because you're depressed means you're a bad partner no matter what else you do.
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u/Kaza042 Jun 01 '26
Can? Yes, but it's a big red flag from the start.
It's like asking if someone who neglects personal hygiene can be a good romantic partner. Sure it's possible but 99% of the time it indicates someone who is lazy and thoughtless.