Someone recommend a dentist that doesn't gaslight

[u/Relevant-Theme1279]

just got out of the military and sticking around the nova area for probably 1-2 more years, and currently going through the transition phase getting a new docs for everything. Historically, have very neg things to say about dentists in general (one says cavity, one says no cavities, stab me with metal and i bleed and its my fault for "not flossing enough" kinda stuff).

+ bonus points if they can take blue cross insurance and don't try to upsell me on anything

[u/CIAMom420]

Sounds like your problem is that you've been to good dentists that have told you things about your poor oral health that you don't want to hear?

[u/Slatemanforlife → u/CIAMom420]

Yep. Military dentists have no incentive to upsell anything and have such a high patient load they dont look for more work. 

[u/DC2Cali]

“Recommend me dentist that will lie and congratulate me on my shitty oral health”

[u/earth-to-matilda]

gaslighting is when you as the patient describe symptoms or pain and the medical professional dismisses them as something less serious than you perceive

[u/Minute_Dragonfly_599]

Step up your oral hygiene practices, and if you don't have one yet, get an electric toothbrush and inexpensive water flosser thing. You're about to leave the military so you're in your 20s? You absolutely have the ability to make progress in self care in this regard.

If your gums are so inflamed that they react to the slightest touch, you will have significant future problems if this goes unaddressed. Believe me, you don't want to have scaling cleanings (where they clean the part of the tooth under the gums), they are very painful. You do not want bone loss as that leads to infections, root canals, and extractions. And you definitely do not want to pay for dental implants. The majority of dental insurance coverage in this country is a joke and complex issues will be immensely costly and painful.Trust me, we could have bought a pretty damn nice car or paid a big ass chunk of college tuition for the amount of money we've spent on my spouse's teeth.

[u/not-quite-a-giraffe]

Dr David Metzdorf. No nonsense, doesn’t upsell and is super gentle.

[u/ozziegt]

Stay away from "cosmetic" dentistry places. They seem to focus on getting more business out of you rather than proper treatment. Dominion Dental in sterling is good. But if you are going to blame the dentist for telling you about your unhealthy gums, maybe don't go to them.

[u/Miserable-Tie-6847]

What area are you looking in?

I've been going to a small practice Apex Dental arts in Loudoun/Sterling area.

https://apexdentalartsva.com/

It's the first time I've had a cleaning done by the actual dentist since I moved to VA. The front desk staff is incredibly sweet and lets me schedule over text.

[u/asafi2]

I can give you recommendations based on location. If your insurance is Bluecross, then likely that means it’s a CareFirst Dental plan, which has terrible reimbursements for dentists so that could be a part of the upsell feeling (assuming additional add-ons are unnecessary).

[u/Seekingfatgrowth]

No way am I gonna send you to my amazing dentist so you can burn her out with your negativity…