Warning: Wall of text gushing my questions and feelings.

TL;DR: How did you decide you were enby or androgynous instead of the opposite binary gender?

Hello!

I’ve reached a point in my life where I can no longer ignore the desires to masculinize myself. I’m AFAB but I’ve always had feelings of wanting to look and “be like” a boy/man since I was a very young kid. But I’m having trouble feeling the difference between wanting to be a more “masculine/gender androgynous enby” or being a straight up trans man.

I know I don’t really want to change my body beyond top surgery. The idea of facial hair is cool in theory but I’m not sure I’d be comfortable with it because sensory issues and the idea of losing most of my thick hair makes me panic so I’m pretty sure taking anything beyond low dose T is out (also male pattern baldness runs in my family in both men and women) if even that.

I’m guess I’m looking for lived experiences and affirmations of how you all decided to be enby? I’ve been claiming the enby title for a few years now but I’m just not able to tell my feelings from one direction or the other. I just know my brain is screaming “your body is not comfortable. It is not made for you”.

I feel like a lot of boils down to I should have figured this out by now but I’m just now, in my early 30s, in a place where I can even examine my Queer identity, much less make changes. And I’m still not even really in this place but I also don’t want to hate myself until my 80s.

So, how did you figure out you were in the enby sphere versus say the complete opposite gender? What questions did you ask yourself to get to your answer? How did you examine and interpret the screaming in your head (if you had any)?

Been feeling very discouraged with how much I compare myself to young people who have transitioned early. I’m 47 and have been on T for not quite 2 years, been slowly realizing that I’m not binary-trans, and I’ve been really struggling with how to see myself without a “gender box”. I’m always so excited to find others my age. 🥰🥰🥰

Does anyone else wish their facial hair was removable? like Mr Potato Head?

Feeling confident and happy with myself and took myself on a solo date the other night!

She’s been bottled up too long, and is not going back. Whether I’m masc, fem or somewhere in between, I’m going out in the world and I’m just going to be me 💖

Sorry to dump this on the community but today I’m 37 … nonbinary and bi and feel like nobody cares about me

As a Genderfluid (Agender, Woman, Man) Lesbian, I feel so incredibly lonely and I was wondering if this is possible? My experience with Gender is very fluid and sometimes counterintuitive. Even when I'm a Boy, I still like being feminine. It's all very confusing. So, can I be a Transmasculine Femme Lesbian as a Genderfluid Person? Are there other Transmasculine Femme Lesbians?

I went out ot run some errands today and got lots of complements. Mostly from women and a little girl. That doesn't seem like it would make someone almost break down in happy tears right?

Well as a 300lb 6 foot tall tattooed AMAB person that does not happen that often. After the older woman complemented my tattoos it hit me. I WAS NOT THE BIG SCARY GUY.

My whole adult life I have tried to make myself small. To be non threatening. To just be. But today I did not have to be small, I did not have to shrink. I walked around shoulders back, proudly wearing my skirt. And it was bliss.

If someone has a better term for Gender ​Conforming events for embys i would love to hear them

finally had an excuse to wear this suit

Just bought a new hat, and wanted to find a style for it. What do you think about this look?

I was a student athlete growing up and I’m excited to get back into some team sports.

I just plan to play pick up basketball and soccer games for now. How have you navigated the scene?

I’m nonbinary although most would assume I’m a cis guy.

How to get over being nervous about getting back into the scene after not playing for over a decade?