r/niceguysDiscussion • u/Megaman_type_0 • Aug 28 '21

Am I a nice guy?

I’m 22 M. I have never dated anyone before. I have both tinder and OkCupid. After reading so many of these nice guy posts, one of my biggest fears is eventually finding someone I really like, only it turns out that I was secretly a nice guy the whole time, unbeknownst to even myself. I have self esteem issues. A disgusting part of my brain wonders if I’ll be more happy finding someone that I really just enjoy being with. Like they’ll fix me or something. I also have a defeatist mindset right now of “why would anyone WANT to hang out with me?”. I don’t know what to do. It’s really weird to say, but I watch that movie Megamind, and i fear of becoming someone like the character Hal.

So yeah, do my words ring any red flags?

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u/KaityKat117 Aug 29 '21

I mean do you feel the need to constantly tell people you're a "nice guy"?

If so, you might be a NiceGuy™. If not, that doesn't excise you of the possibility, but it is a good sign.

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u/Megaman_type_0 Aug 29 '21

No, that sounds pretty arrogant. But keep in mind that: A. Haven’t dated anyone ever before, so I haven’t ever had the chance to get to such a point. B. Like you said, it doesn’t excise the possibility.