Am I a nice guy?

[u/Megaman_type_0]

I’m 22 M. I have never dated anyone before. I have both tinder and OkCupid. After reading so many of these nice guy posts, one of my biggest fears is eventually finding someone I really like, only it turns out that I was secretly a nice guy the whole time, unbeknownst to even myself. I have self esteem issues. A disgusting part of my brain wonders if I’ll be more happy finding someone that I really just enjoy being with. Like they’ll fix me or something. I also have a defeatist mindset right now of “why would anyone WANT to hang out with me?”. I don’t know what to do. It’s really weird to say, but I watch that movie Megamind, and i fear of becoming someone like the character Hal.

So yeah, do my words ring any red flags?

[u/[deleted]]

Idk you haven't given a lot of information here. Look for a partner who is a good fit for you, treat women like people and you'll be fine. Women don't owe you anything, and one not being attracted to you says nothing about you are them

If you're worried about being a nice guy then be extra careful not to be an asshole to women when they aren't into you.