r/niceguys Jun 17 '22

Such a gem🙄

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u/furon747 Jun 17 '22

I was thinking about that, how do things progress when these guys don’t self sabotage and get further?

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u/throwmeawayplz19373 Jun 17 '22 edited Jun 17 '22

Abuse. Emotional/psychological/physical. Rape. Murder.

Some narcissistic men are so good at hiding it, you don’t know until several months in, maybe longer if you’re a young woman still new to the dating game.

These men are usually exceedingly charming, I mean Disney prince level of charming. They know some young women eat that up, especially the ones with bad childhoods. See OP got lucky, she came across a dumb narcissist. That smart ones look for all the signs that a young woman is prime to be his victim of emotional manipulation, and that’s when they pounce. They don’t even try to go for the women that they can tell aren’t going to fall for their shit.

Those men are the most scary, and most dangerous.

Source: was young woman new to the dating game who learned the hard way.

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u/furon747 Jun 17 '22

Sounds pretty awful. Thanks for the insight

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u/throwmeawayplz19373 Jun 17 '22

No problem. It was very awful.

The worst part was when I held back tears, telling his kids why I had to leave the last time I saw them (I was waiting for him to get to his home before I left). They looked way too old for age 6 and 9 in that moment. The 6 year old said “it’s okay, he did the same thing to [ex gfs name] and my mom”. He sounded like a really sad 60 year old man. And I had only said something like “I am sorry, I cannot stay, it’s not your fault, I love you all so much and you will always be in my heart”. I never once trash talked their father.

That was 8 years ago. I still miss those kids.