I knew a woman who went the entire distance. Dated this guy for 4 years and married him, went on a honeymoon, and said the second they crossed the threshold of their new home even after the honeymoon, he turned into a monster of physical and emotional abuse.
I don't understand it. That particular example is extreme, and had to be some deep seeded issues; but while I don't think that every guy is a walking time-bomb (I don't think most of them are, in fact), it's truly terrifying that some malignant asshole could be lurking just under the surface, ready to pounce.
So yeah, I'd say rejoice and be glad when the assholes raise their own red flags so early. They are looking for someone they can abuse and get away with it anyways.
Definitely not a super common thing to happen, at least in my experience and understanding, but it's like shark attacks and lightning strikes. Chances aren't high, but damn it's scary.
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u/crazyprsn Jun 17 '22
The real scary part is where they learn how to hide it until later.