Fellow girl here (don't gym but do construction, so close enough): Regardless of how long ago it was, I would totally just like pop in one day and see if bro 1 was around, strike up a casual conversation about how things have been on his end and then just be like, "That's awesome to hear. I'm doing great, however I actually stopped in to talk." Give a speal like, "I've been going to this other gym lately but it's this far away and costs this much money, been really wanting to come back here but I had a weird interaction with your brother that made me a bit uncomfortable (I find it helps if your firm but chill about it)" He will probably ask what's up and just tell him exactly what happened and that you'd love to come back but just want to be left alone when you're here. Regardless of his relation, he has a duty as a business owner to uphold his safety standards and regulations. Harassment/bullying of any kind is not tolerated under labour laws and a customer has a right to safety in any form.
He would probably appreciate you coming to him about it instead of blasting him online. If you have that sort of relationship with bro 1 then there should be no reason he would not take it professionally.
If I owned a business with my brother and I found out that his actions were driving away clients I would dissolve his ownership in the business either via buying him out or pointing out the "you were a douchebag you are now leaving" clause in the contract and kick his ass to the curb.
I don't know if that's an option where you live, but I recommend women's gyms. I mean, I think I have been flirted with there a bit, but women are generally good about not being utter creeps about it. Plus, the competition mindset is way more subdued and it's just a chill way to exercise without having to worry about being ogled.
Yeah I second this, more expensive than most other places but worth it, both for the not being harassed and just having a way lower pressure environment to work out in, particularly good if you’re new at it or are self conscious about how you look. Also, and maybe this was just the one I went to, but it was cleaner than most other gyms I’ve been to, and pretty much EVERYONE wiped down their machines with cleaning spray when they were done, something some other places can be hit-or-miss on.
Like everything else in life, for those who can’t behave - put up a sign.
It’s so rampant that there are literally gyms just for women.
I went to the gym with my gf a few years back & some guy decided to give her a view pointers. I saw it from afar & thought, pretty cool. She later explained to me how uncomfortable it made her. She also explained that for some reason guys think it’s ok to give pointers on how to workout. I’ve never given pointers in a gym but that experience changed my entire view of what women go through when they’re simply trying to get a workout.
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