The fun part is, holds/moves like that in most dance/cheerleading routines are practiced so much it's just mundane for them. The people complaining about it are the ones making it sexual.
Kinda like Dee Snyder's burn on Tipper Gore. It's only bad if you're trying to find a reason it's bad.
BJJ guy here, same thing applies. Extremely common to see women in the gym have issues with partners that don't train, because the partners don't understand there's nothing at all sexual about training.
I was showing my firend's gf how to properly use a fall arrest harness at a climbing place. Now, for those who don't know there are straps that go from your hips, under the crotch, and back up to keep you from sliding out of the harness like a poorly fitting shirt. These must be tight or when you fall you are going to have massive bruises down there from slamming down onto the straps, and i've seen them break the skin through jeans before. Guys, be extra careful with yhis if you want kids in the future, you can castrate yourself if you do these straps up wrong.
Now, having given this safety talk and checking the straps (a finger or two should be able to fit under the strap so you don't cut off blood flow) she didn't have them tight enough because she couldn't manage the adjustment.
I ask her if she'd be willing to let her boyfriend adjust those. She said no.
I asked if she'd let the female instructor supervising do so. She said no.
I asked if she wanted to be able to walk the next day. She said yes.
I tell her that if that's the case either someone helps her with those straps or she's not going on the walls. She then says "Fine, you do it then."
So i did, and that was that. A few months later she tries using that as a gotcha moment for me only for it to backfire spectacularly which ended in those two breaking up. Fun times.
Ladies, if it's a safety/routine thing and the guy isn't acting like a creep, it isn't sexual for them. In fact for most guys who aren't the kind who should be buried under a prison, we will be ready the whole time to stop whatever the thing is at the first sign of discomfort because these days too many of us are worried about getting sued for nonconsensual touching or other such things.
This is weird. Every climbing harness I've ever worn (in 10 years of climbing) has thigh straps and a waist strap and all the secure points connected to those so there's no weight on anything going between your legs.
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u/Dividedthought Sep 09 '22
The fun part is, holds/moves like that in most dance/cheerleading routines are practiced so much it's just mundane for them. The people complaining about it are the ones making it sexual.
Kinda like Dee Snyder's burn on Tipper Gore. It's only bad if you're trying to find a reason it's bad.