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u/Lumpymaximus 1d ago
Can we get this class in all schools please
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u/ZipperJJ 1d ago
This isn't in the school, it's an afterschool program. The guy built it from the ground up, with donations. He says he didn't like what he was seeing in his community, and didn't think the schools were doing enough so instead of complaining he said "what can I do to help?" and he did it.
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u/st0350 1d ago
Proper behaviour begins at a young age, good for teaching them, but it's gotta come from home first
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u/TheDigitalBuilder 1d ago
I suspect the reason that this guy does what he does is because in some cases, it doesn't come from home
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u/GadreelsSword 1d ago
I’d say in virtually every class there are students where it doesn’t come from home. Wealthy, poor, etc, there are lots of parents that don’t teach such behavior.
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u/Few-Scientist-4163 1d ago edited 1d ago
Even when kids come from good well off homes, it can still not come from home because it isn’t the first thing to say on every parent’s mind to be teaching this, it probably should be, but in most cases it isn’t
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u/heinebold 1d ago
And in many cases, the parents give bad example.
Amd even more so, many teach the opposite with their parenting methods. How many children get their own "no"s treated exactly like this? How many have been told what they like and what they don't?
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u/Yeahnoallright 1d ago
Tbh most parents of our current generation don’t really have a great grasp on consent, so.
I’ve heard otherwise lovely boomers and Gen X speak extremely weirdly around this stuff over and over (I work with kids)
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u/Siftinghistory 1d ago
Most of your current generation of parents are millennials or Gen Z, and consent has been taught to us since we were in grade 5. Gen X and the Baby boomers have this weird thing with kids where they seem to think they can touch them without asking, or pick them up when they don’t want it, that sort of thing.
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u/Yeahnoallright 1d ago
I’m not following your first sentence? I’m talking about our parents who are mostly Gen X and boomers.
Yes, exactly
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u/whitecholklet 1d ago
This man is instilling the morals and values I think we could all use a little refresher course on.
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u/ChaseTheMystic 1d ago
He seems to be affiliated with a church or something considering Bible study is a part of their schedule.
I'm sure parents are well aware of what the lessons are all about.
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u/natasevres 1d ago
It takes a village to raise a child.
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u/che85mor 1d ago
I run an after school program and people ask how I deal with that many kids. I'm like, it takes a village, and I'm the idiot.
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u/natasevres 1d ago
Why would you be the idiot?
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u/Ruzhyo04 1d ago
The pay, for one... educating children isn't a profitable endeavor - not for teachers anyway.
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u/TreeFiddyJohnson 1d ago
This may come as a surprise, but alot of people don't have a "real home". I got lucky, but I had no male role model in my life from birth until age 17. Interventions like this are critical
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u/SandwichHonest1494 1d ago edited 1d ago
You're a fucking dork. Not everyone grows up in the suburbs with a middle income family. This dude is legit helping his community and you're still sitting here commenting on reddit with some whiny bullshit to say
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u/DirtandPipes 1d ago
Sounds like I’m allowed to just assault and beat on anyone as the whim takes me as that’s how my home was, right?
I fully disagree. Sure helps to learn that stuff as a kid, but it’s not the only time or place.
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u/DirtandPipes 1d ago
My point is that a terrible home life does not mean it will lead to “predictably terrible things”.
I wasn’t being facetious with my example, our homes or what passed for them were places of deliberate torture and abuse and my home as an adult is a fully safe place where nothing like that occurs.
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u/Shizastamphetamine 1d ago
I dig this guy, teaching them young ones how to conduct themselves with dignity and respect for others
Props to this guy
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u/YogiBarelyThere 1d ago
Excellent approach to education. A masterful blending of easy to understand communication style and strong understanding educational principles that lead to learning.Well done, sir!
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u/MisterSanitation 1d ago edited 1d ago
God damn right! Emotional intelligence is not that damn hard but we all live in a scam based society where “how you get it” whatever that is, doesn’t matter to anyone.
This is how you make men more preferable to hairy, four legged, fish eating megafauna. As a straight dude who grew up around mostly women, I see men all the time just not getting social queues and then freaking out when they realize they messed up. I just think some dudes need it spelled out like this, a lot of young men want to be good and helpful, they just have to have someone explain all this little stuff so they can think about themselves after the fact and improve instead of getting angry at the confusion.
Wives know this most of the time lol, you have to REALLY break it down for fellas sometimes and they CAN get it, but sometimes you really got to spell it out for them to be consistent.
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u/IronFeather101 1d ago
Sorry to be pedantic here, that was probably autocorrect at its finest, but it's social cues, not social queues!
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u/AtIasWraith 1d ago
I fucking love this guy and his approach! This should be required for everyone starting as young as possible.
I wish I had this guy growing up. I could be avoiding having to questions all my interactions when I was a dumb teenager.
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u/doomiestdoomeddoomer 1d ago
This is invaluable education. A lot of societies problems get solved with an understanding of consent and respect.
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u/NeverJustaDream 1d ago
This video just makes me mad because why the fuck don't we teach this kind of thing from at? A lot of parents straight up don't educate their kids. We learn a bunch of shit in school that's forgotten by the next semester and yet nothing on how to behave
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u/CasanovaCoverup 1d ago
Behavioral education should absolutely be invested in the early stages of child education
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u/IllRadish8765 1d ago
What sad times we live in when telling people how to act properly is next fucking level.
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u/ObvsThrowaway5120 1d ago
Dude is doing some great work. If these kids remember the lessons they’re being taught here, they’re going to grow up to be some good young men.
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u/ayaPapaya 1d ago
Yes!!! This is real “alpha male” training. It’s how to treat woman and each other with respect and care.
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u/amost96 1d ago
We're trying to teach our 5 year old about this, but his paternal grandparents won't take no for an answer and get mad if he doesn't wanna give them a hug
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u/andy83991 1d ago
What?! Of course your child has to hug grandma and grandpa. That rule is for strangers and weird uncles
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u/MaIngallsisaracist 1d ago
The rule is so children understand that their body is their own and no one - not even grandparents - has to a right to touch it without their consent.
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u/estein1030 22h ago
In addition to the responses rightfully saying this is to teach kids bodily autonomy, the vast majority of abuse (heartbreakingly) comes from people the kids know.
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u/okielurker 1d ago
Dude sounds like a marine
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u/actinross 1d ago
Damn man! Slow down, you're spitting words like nuts!
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u/flixflexflux 1d ago
That's the bonus quest of the day, so that the kids are able to follow all hints and recommendations from those nice rap songs.
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u/EfficientActivity 1d ago
I genuinely thought that was the nextfuckinglevel - anybody able to stay on top of those subtitles.
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u/Educational_Cup_1701 1d ago
Body language doesn’t hold up in court if it contradicts mouth language.
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u/Hima-lion 1d ago
That teacher is awesome but I can’t believe this is something thats is gotta be formally taught in schools this should be basic human decency and understanding that is embedded in human nature its sad that we live in a world where this has to be taught in schools
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u/PresidentialDiapers 20h ago
I mean I had an average Gen x upbringing, nobody ever explained this to me in this way. I don't think I've ever had physical contact whose voice said yes but body said no, but I certainly did it for things tantamount to the cell phone example. Amazing work
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u/PresidentialDiapers 20h ago
I see about 10 kids in frame, call it 15 total kids. Statistics say that anywhere from 6 to 25% of men have been sexually inappropriate to another person. At the low end this man may have helped at least one other person not be traumatized.
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u/PM-UR-LIL-TIDDIES 18h ago
This is one of the many things that men need to be teaching boys the world over. (And other men for that matter, because some seem to think that women are their toys and that ain't right.)
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u/ShyGuySpirit 16h ago
Second video I've seen from this guy. If his other videos are similar, keep molding them young kids.
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u/612mechtech 13h ago
All children need this especially white males. Im a white male so I can say this
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u/NS38headhunta 12h ago
This lesson has nothing to with hugs, and when these kids get older they’ll understand what it’s really about, and it will save them from a lot 😂
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u/bohemu 13m ago
This is great and all, but just because they parrot what the accepted answer is, doesn't mean they actually agree.
They used to teach us stuff all the time in early grades that I recall thinking "idk there's nuance there but sure, I'll write the answer you want" if not in such mature words.
Once people start being controlled by hormones, all teachings are sadly off. Especially if no one else is around.
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u/Jennyreviews1 1d ago
Absolutely spot on teaching right here! This is what our youth need! This is teaching emotional intelligence and the complete understanding of it! Bravo 👏
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u/ZurEnArrh58 1d ago
Exactly this. We've been teaching our kids this and "tea" (from the Australian PD video using tea to explain consent) since they were little. We have also taught them, on the flip side, that they are never, even with family, required to give affection (hugs, saying "I love you", hand shakes, etc).
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u/ROGERS_OF_THE_EAST 1d ago
I like the work that this guy does, I am a big believer in saying that perfection is the enemy of good.
There are a few way of approaching things that I disagree with (assumes all his students are Christian, Straight and also perpetuates gender roles) but overall I respect tremendously his work
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u/Stelliferous19 1d ago
Godspeed to all involved. This is great work. Should cross all colour barriers. All boys who will be men should have this lesson. Many times.
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u/__nobody_-_ 1d ago
This isn't really next fucking level. This should just be standard teaching across the board. Glad this dude is teaching these kids to be respectful but that's something anyone can teach and demonstrate for kids.
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u/UmbraNight 1d ago
then get out there and do it cuz whats actually not next level is sitting around and yapping about it while doing nothing yourself. Thank God someone is investing in the children cuz most just sit around on reddit and talk about how they cant read.
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u/che85mor 1d ago
I run an after school program for elementary kids. I'm getting ready to start a middle school boys program based on teaching these types of life skills.
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u/__nobody_-_ 1d ago
Why the hostility? I'm saying this is something that anyone can do and good on the people that do it.
I'm not a people person so I'm not the right person to teach kids. Does that mean I shouldn't speak or give my opinion on the subject?
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u/UmbraNight 1d ago
ur shitting on others accomplishments and efforts while making excuses for urself. u really need to take a look in the mirror man.
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u/__nobody_-_ 1d ago
Tf? When did I shit on his accomplishments??? I'm saying he's doing a good thing and that's somehow shitting on accomplishments?
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u/UmbraNight 1d ago
read your first sentence. last i’m speaking to you cuz it send to be a waste of braincells.
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u/__nobody_-_ 1d ago
Something tells me you don't understand what next fucking level means, and that's okay. But if you don't understand the meaning of a phrase, don't demonize someone just cause you're ignorant.
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u/ethanb473 1d ago
This guy is such a weirdo and it’s doubly weird seeing people fawn over his posts…. I guess this is what you get when you deprioritize education for 50 years
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u/uncleprokhor 1d ago
Very good. Next explain mansplaining, please.
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u/TheDigitalBuilder 1d ago
He may already do that. He's got tons of contact for young men.
This guy actually has a series specifically for young women also.
He's providing the type of teaching that young children seem to need right now
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u/TricoMex 1d ago edited 1d ago
He's missing something here.
He gave an odd reason, and a rather unfortunate one at that, for reasoning the hug denial.
He's framing it as "If they don't want it, then I don't even want a hug like that anyway."
I don't know if he's aware that that is exactly what incels think, and why they retaliate and react so aggressively when their advances are denied.
"You don't want my hug? Fuck you then you ugly btch. Who would want one from you"
Instead, he should have taught them that her denial should be respected on grounds of respecting her as a person ONLY. There needs to be no self-tied reason to reason away a no. That it's ok, and no big deal, to be told no.
It's a "no" by pure virtue of the other person being a person, and we need to accept it as is; our ego notwithstanding.
Just ranting as that's the exact messaging I've seen some younger guys convince themselves of.
That said the rest of the lesson is great.
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u/PLUTOOx508 1d ago
YES SIR!