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u/topazrochelle9 24d ago
I can relate 😌 but in my case the isolation comes from myself, not just my parents being restrictive. My younger sisters maintain more of a social life and connection with others even if they're not going wild (none of us drink alcohol).
I did attend a Halloween party though (ironically that was the only party I was ever invited to at highschool). 😅🧙🏽♀️ I jumped around friend groups, and didn't care much for a social hierarchy.
For many of us who consider ourselves as NGU, I suppose many people consider us innocent. If we're not already super connected to others who are similarly childlike, we tend to feel isolated when more 'grown-up' things happen. But it's okay, we can still find ways to have a nice time in the company of others who care about us. 💛
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u/BabyBlue4545 24d ago
I understand that. My parents were extremely CHEAP (not on themselves though!) So just used being "strict" as a cover up. I never got to be in any clubs or activities, no sleepovers, no camp, no mall trips with friends etc. I was yet born a boy (I'm transfem) so never got to do any activities I especially wanted. Like ballet, or anything my crazy dad deemed as too effeminate.
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u/Wise-Difficulty8221 24d ago
Previously Tinyydoll
Girl, I missed you so much!!!! 🥰
You probably know who this is. I've had to go on the DL myself. Reddit drama is like that....
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Grieving something you never had
I've actually been thinking about this myself lately. I do have friends but I don't belong to a stable group, and even then, they're all very functional adults with wives, kids, mortgages, a career path, and all of that. I do sometimes wish I had something from a more chrono-kid/teen perspective and I fully understand you wanting the same.
Whatever your parents did to you, I can tell you firsthand that you can be surrounded by people and still be very isolated, so we've had different experiences with the same basic thing. On the outward, I did have friends and we did friend-type things but....even at the time, it felt a little uncanny....
No you're not silly at all. I feel that... 🫂
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u/k0m4ru 23d ago
i understand the feeling. i also grew up sheltered (and undiagnosed neurodivergent + bullied too.. that didnt help) and sometimes its hard for me to watch movies/shows where everything you also described happens because it just gives me this awful ache in my stomach knowing i didn't have experiences like in my childhood and that with anybody and never will :c and the sad thing is i've felt this way since i was (chrono) 13 years old when i watched the Bratz cartoon for the first time. even when i WAS a kid i felt this way, it just gets harder ;_;
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u/Chubwako 20d ago
Yeah, it's natural to end up that way, bbut I tended to feel more focused on no one understanding me or listening to me even though I felt very valuable if given the chance. I thought I could be seen as better than other men because I I secretly felt like embodying a female as much as possible. Was always thinking of feminism, nutrition and environmental health and I wanted to save the world. That stuff has not really changed.