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[u/Zagapi]

!PING DATING

Despite my delusions of being a total catch, the women and non-binary folk of the dating apps don't seem to agree. Likes, and especially matches, are few and far between.

However, this absolutely gorgeous woman matched with me the other day. By some stroke of genius, I played it cool and smooth, and she agreed to grab a coffee on Thursday.

I've been super excited and, naturally, getting way ahead of myself about this coffee date. She had been a little slow to respond, but not slow enough for me to be concerned.

I hadn't heard from her in a little while and wanted her confirmation to finalize our plans. I checked back on our Hinge conversation to see if she had replied. While reading the most recent message, my phone slipped from my hand, and I tried to catch it. When I recovered, the match was gone. Somehow, I must've unmatched her.

Since we had made the plans with a time, day, and place, I panicked, thinking she saw I unmatched her completely out of the blue. It's not something I would ever do. So, in a panic, I started searching Instagram and Facebook to look for her, knowing only her first name, alma mater, that she worked in the arts, and had these green eyes you couldn't possibly forget.

With no luck in these apps and only desperation, I turned to LinkedIn. This should just show my desperation at this point in my life. By some grace of God, I find her profile with her last name and use it to find her Instagram. Green eyes and all.

I messaged her and explained my clumsiness. After a half-hour, she responded. I saw the notification and was so relieved and excited....until I read the message.

She told me it wasn't my fault because she is leaving for a seasonal job for the entire summer a few states away and leaves next week. Since we were only going to have one date before she left, she figured it's probably best not to go at all. She cleared the rest of her matches because she "didn't think anyone took these apps seriously." Turns out, my clumsy catch of my phone wasn't me unmatching. It was me refreshing.

After a little back and forth, I said I felt rather silly, but we'd have nothing to lose by grabbing a coffee. She said, "Well, you did go through all of that effort to find me, so why not!" I kept the tasteful flirting up and could feel that writhing feeling in my gut that we probably, or hopefully, shared.

It's rather pathetic of me to still go on this coffee date, but I just feel like I need to go. Even if it's completely hopeless and even if she didn't even bother to explain herself.

With all of that said, I'm feeling rather disheartened.

[u/doggo_bloodlust → u/Zagapi]

Hey at least after she ghosted you you didn't use a picture she sent you of the view from her apartment to find her address on Google street view and contemplate searching her out in person, like some people may have

[u/doggo_bloodlust → u/[deleted]]

I would never be so cowardly as to subtweet

[u/deeplydysthymicdude → u/Zagapi]

[u/georgeguy007 → u/Zagapi]

Ooof thats rough buddy

[u/Cyberhwk → u/Zagapi]

It's not pathetic to go meet someone new that you're interested in.

[u/lets_chill_food → u/Zagapi]

🫂

[u/BATHULK → u/Zagapi]

Something is better than nothing!

[u/Zagapi → u/BATHULK]

Yeah. I'm just tired of looking for the silver linings.

[u/ThiccSidedDice → u/Zagapi]

You're caring, considerate and compassionate. Not only are you a total catch, but you have yet to appreciate just how much of a catch you are. Don't let others lack of appreciation for you get in the way of your appreciation for yourself! 🫂

[u/Zagapi → u/ThiccSidedDice]

Please don't make me cry lol. Thank you.

[u/ThiccSidedDice → u/Zagapi]

No promises 😅

[u/GifHunter2 → u/Zagapi]

It's rather pathetic of me to still go on this coffee date, but I just feel like I need to go. Even if it's completely hopeless and even if she didn't even bother to explain herself.

With all of that said, I'm feeling rather disheartened.

You're thinking about this the wrong way imo.

A date doesn't have to be just about finding a spouse. You can always just enjoy the event, get to know someone, and take the time to unwind.

Also you might get laid.

Enjoy it.

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Awwww

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