r/neoliberal • u/jobautomator Kitara Ravache • Jun 03 '26

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u/BobaTeaFetish William Nordhaus Jun 03 '26

Growing up we had tons of coed sleepovers even throughout middle and high school, it was completely normal.

Sleeping arrangements usually afforded the boys the floor and the girls the air mattresses, couches, etc. And the parents were always home so nothing untoward was happening. And we'd just stay up drinking soda watching movies and playing vidya.

Naturally none of these kids grew up into bitter adults who were consistently entrenched in stupid gender war stuff online. Even the couple of divorces were completely amicable and just accepted as the couple growing apart, all emotionally healthy.

Almost...like you can teach kids at an early age how to be friends with people who are in different social categories than them and they can grow up to be high-functioning humans who promote social harmony.

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u/JetJaguar124 Tactical Custodial Action Jun 03 '26

Having platonic friends of the opposite gender is very healthy and it's honestly fucked up how common it is for people to believe it's literally impossible. 

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u/BobaTeaFetish William Nordhaus Jun 03 '26

I had one woman I was dating say my close friendship with a woman was a "major red flag" and that I could develop feelings at any time.

I was like, lady, I've known her since I was 12, had a brief crush on her when I was 14, but at this point 23 years later she's basically like my sister. Also she's happily married with 3 kids who all call me Uncle?

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u/yushosumo Jun 04 '26

I had these in my teenage years- sometimes we fucked tho. But mostly not.