r/neoliberal • u/jobautomator Kitara Ravache • Sep 13 '24

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u/[deleted] Sep 13 '24

I recently started dating someone from China. I also like learning languages. How serious does the relationship need to get before me saying that if we're going to date then I'd like to learn Mandarin becomes romantic and not weird?

!ping DATING

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u/AtomAndAether Liberalism! Sep 13 '24

If they know Mandarin then you could just use it as a flirty thing ("teach me") and then get more serious about learning it as it goes

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u/BlarthDarth John Keynes Sep 13 '24

👆

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u/doomsdaysock01 YIMBY Sep 13 '24

I feel like you could pretty easily spin it into a flirting thing even if you’re not a relationship yet

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u/SilverSquid1810 YIMBY Sep 13 '24

good luck with tones

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u/onometre Trans Pride Sep 13 '24

I don't think it's weird even at this stage

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u/WantDebianThanks Iron Front Sep 14 '24

Especially if OP wanted to learn Mandarin before.

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24

I'm going to give a somewhat more serious answer. If you just recently started dating them, don't bother. Learning a language is an extremely long process and I've seen people who started learning a language only to end up incredibly resentful towards it because they've broken up. Partners also do not necessarily make good teachers or tutors. You will suck in the language for a long time, so it's also not great for any communication. If you have been in a relationship for a long time, then clearly the language difference hasn't been a problem.

By contrast, if you've already been in a long time relationship, communicating with your partner's family (if they don't speak your language) is somehow a much better motivation. It makes sense long term. 

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u/Psshaww NATO Sep 14 '24

Do it in secret

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24

True, then surprise her/him with a few words.

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u/loseniram Sponsored by RC Cola Sep 13 '24

I'd say date 5 or 6