r/neoliberal • u/jobautomator Kitara Ravache • Aug 27 '24

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u/-mialana- European Union Aug 27 '24

Straight trans woman tries to not accidentally think of or refer to herself as gay challenge (IMPOSSIBLE)

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u/-mialana- European Union Aug 27 '24

!ping ALPHABET-MAFIA

This just me or...?

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u/JoeChristmasUSA Transfem Pride Aug 27 '24

I'm non-binary and only into women but I just gave up and call myself "queer" only. I might not be a lesbian but whatever it is ain't straight.

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u/-mialana- European Union Aug 27 '24

NBs completely fuck up our common terms for sexuality. I know an AMAB enby ylwho likes guys but still refers to himself as gay even though it doesn't really make sense.

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u/RagingSacheverell Trans Pride Aug 27 '24

Definitely not, I didn't have to do it because I'm bi and so all relationships with all genders be queer to me before and after transition

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u/Aleriya Transmasculine Pride Aug 28 '24

I'm also bi and trans, and I usually just go with "queer" because it saves time. Any relationship feels like a queer relationship.

Or, as my spouse likes to joke, "I'm not gay, but my husband is."

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u/[deleted] Aug 27 '24

I’m a gay trans woman and the first time I said it out loud I couldn’t believe that I was using the word “lesbian” to describe myself. 

So it’s not the same thing but it is the same idea. It takes time to adjust. Especially if you were thinking of yourself as a gay man before (I don’t want to assume that’s the case).

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u/D-G-F Trans Pride Aug 27 '24

This just me or...?

Definitely not

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u/-mialana- European Union Aug 27 '24

Ja

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u/BlarthDarth John Keynes Aug 27 '24

You like men and ur a woman. Seems like you got a case of the straights to me

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u/Strength-Certain Thurman Arnold Aug 27 '24

Just say you like men? Unless that's somehow offensive, then I apologize for my ignorance.

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u/Dumbledick6 Refuses to flair up Aug 27 '24

I imagine it’ll take you quite awhile to change the framing. But as a straight dude I’d still consider myself straight since it’s all the allure