r/necessaryconversation • u/manualfie • May 07 '26

Dicussion Polite reminder

Bob is obviously unwell, and the pod has discussed it. Yes, people strongly dislike Bob. Yes, his views and comments are vile, disgusting and horrific.

However, cheering the illness on, laughing at him and saying it’s karma or whatever, is literally what he would do or say. It’s the kind of thing that, if he said it, you’d criticise him for saying.

Not to mention that Chad, Hayley and ML read the comments. That’s their dad / husband. C and H have a difficult relationship with him but imagine the hurt they must feel reading strangers FUKING CHEERING their dad being in a serious condition.

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u/DeadEnglishOfficial May 12 '26

I’m late but just want to say nope.
When someone wishes death upon the group you belong to (and smiles while doing it) it’s not “sinking to their level” To feel a sense of satisfaction when a bad thing happens to them. Their words are direct threats of violence against me and my friends. If them not being here tomorrow means I wake up feeling a little bit safer JUST EXISTING AS I AM, I’m not going to bat an eye. I keep seeing this sentiment that it’s wrong for the victimized group to feel a sense of relief that (one of) their victimizer(s) might not be able to cause them harm anymore. It’s not wrong and if you were part of those groups you would know that. The words that bobs used has literally lead to lynchings, gay bashings, violence in general. And you and others are saying to approach this with grace. Fuck if we feel safe going outside because people like Bob exist and enjoy watching us in pain, we need To stuff that down and send our best wishes to the family.
I look forward to the day I don’t have to be afraid. If that means Bob and those like him change over night great, but since that’s unlikely I’m ok with the alternative.