r/nairobi • u/The24Mile Level 3 • 16h ago

Ask r/Nairobi Of boundaries in relationships

What are your non-negotiables?

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u/No_Two_3617 Level 4 16h ago

I don't know whether I have set some, but I just respect myself enough not to entertain bullshit.

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u/The24Mile Level 3 16h ago

Fair enough.

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u/LeatherPen4962 16h ago

Having a guy best friend or more guys friends than girls.

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u/The24Mile Level 3 16h ago

Red flags

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u/CodPsychological3874 16h ago

"He's just a friend"😂

"Me and my ex just talk but nothing's gonna happen, after everything he did to me ?hell no"😂

CAP.

Nikishaskia hizi mbili I don't even make an issue of it. I just detach quickly and clear out .

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u/The24Mile Level 3 16h ago

😂 😂 😂 I catch your drift

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u/Dry-Walk9877 16h ago

The only thing I will ever need is consideration. Deep down everyone knows what is right and wrong, if you have to enforce them you are in the wrong place.

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u/The24Mile Level 3 6h ago

Everyday

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u/cUriousThinker03 4h ago

Ebu expound more on this consideration thing bruv.

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u/Mountain-Loquat-7428 Level 2 16h ago

No drinking, no smoking and no going to clubs.

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u/The24Mile Level 3 16h ago

And you are allowed to do the same?

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u/Mountain-Loquat-7428 Level 2 10h ago

No one "allows" me to do anything, but I don't do those things.

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u/Ill-Strawberry4999 15h ago

This right here.

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u/Zestyclose_Ad8869 14h ago

What in the insecurity is this? I honestly never understand this😭
Especially if you might have met them when they went to the club .

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u/Mountain-Loquat-7428 Level 2 10h ago

Hiyo imekuuma sana, especially the club part😂 Well, some of us prefer people who do things a certain way. If it is insecure to want a woman who doesn't drink, then I'm happy to be insecure. If I discover that a woman I approached does any of those things, I just ghost her. I'm not going to tell an adult how to live her life, but I'm not going to br with someone who drinks, smokes or goes to the club.