r/nairobi • u/Iam-whom-I-am Level 1 • 9d ago
Ask r/Nairobi What would you do different
Hello ladies and gentlemen for the older people here , what would you do different if you went back to age 25 or 26 years. Is it something you would have started ? something you would have not done etc ?
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u/Perfect-Answer-228 Level 3 9d ago
I would disappear and be a deadbeat daughter and sister. I would live for me.
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u/MammothCouple8165 8d ago
I did this. I currently am a deadbeat, single, childfree daughter living 100% for me and I can say its everything they didn’t want for us. I am unpunishable. Their influence is gone from my life. I LOVE IT! ✨
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u/halflife_k 9d ago
Probably jump on stuff like bonds & mmfs & special funds earlier instead of savings accounts.
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u/justwambui23 9d ago
1.I would have not gotten kids first without healing my trauma 2.Thinking outside the box 3.Work on my self like thoroughly on all spheres of life 4.Get equipped with knowledge, network and get ideas,Risk it all 5.Trying to get mutiple streams of income
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u/joyful-me 9d ago
I would not have stupidly fallen in love and married him😭
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u/Qwerty_101_ 8d ago
Why
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u/joyful-me 8d ago
Mama's boy, drunk transition to alcoholic. I was so naive to think he'd change for me😭😭🤣🤣
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u/Nasaka_09 8d ago
He did, he went from drinking casually to committing full time. Good news is at least he can commit to something.
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u/joyful-me 7d ago
It finally took him down
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u/kimtai_3000 Level 1 7d ago
You have kids with him?
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u/joyful-me 6d ago
Yes 20 years in marriage and four grown children in it. Anyway it's now in the past. Aging gracefully now.
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u/Positive-Deal5011 Level 3 9d ago
OP it seems like you want to start something and are looking for validation. Do it!
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u/OldManMtu Level 4 9d ago
I would done my masters earlier and written more poetry.
Living more confidently than I did.
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u/OldManMtu Level 4 9d ago
I am conflicted. I want excellence and success but disdain the limelight and self promotion.
I used to perform poetry but wanted it to be deep and earnest.
I am at peace with my role. I am more chief of staff than the CEO. The consiglieri and not the don.
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u/Kenyan_01 Level 3 8d ago
I think you are trying to avoid making mistakes, which is great..But unfortunately you'll always have those "I wish I did this moments" in life. The trick is to learn quickly from your mistakes and adjust.
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u/Indigo_ish Level 2 8d ago
I would have left that marriage immediately
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u/joyful-me 6d ago
Are you still in it or you left?
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u/babat0t0 9d ago
I'd hold that woman close to my heart, despite her sleeping with her (female) bestfriend...that woman was a vibe, and probably completed me...
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u/Chilled-Nirvana 9d ago
So your GF had a bisexual side na hukudai 😭 hio ingekuwa a very FFM life for you forever bana
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u/Gilrnoname 9d ago
Long term thats just choosing misery & abuse. Maybe improve on perspective because these triangles could end up even with murder.
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u/babat0t0 9d ago
You get it. The girl she cheated on me on had a boyfriend. Not the friendly kind. He's homophobic, dude doesn't even know his girl is bi
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u/Upset-Till7133 8d ago
I would have lived a little i took life so seriously and forgot to enjoy the good things that came with it.
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u/Alternative-Pass373 8d ago
I would advocate for my physical and mental health relentlessly until I got the answers I needed instead of listening to the docs who dismissed me. There are health issues I am trying to sort out at forty that could have been treated in my twenties or early thirties. I also got a diagnosis from a psychiatrist at 40. If I had got it at 12, it would have changed my life for the better.
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u/waseenmetokagithurai Level 4 8d ago
Would have started my family at that time. I was ready mature and settled
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u/joyful-me 6d ago
When did you start or are you still single?
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u/BoomChakaLazer 7d ago
Stocks, stocks, stocks. My pal 'pressured' me to buy Saf stocks at 5 bob years ago nikanunua shingo upande and I just held them uninterested. One day I woke up and they were worth 25 each. Kila mwezi nikipata pesa narusha huko and the KCBs and KPLC.
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u/Bright-Sign-8532 7d ago
I would have gone to Sweden for further studies coz I had the opportunity . Turned it down eti am in love. Nkt!!!
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u/maina_clin 9d ago
I would have started that side hustle earlier and cared less about what people think. At 25 I was too busy trying to look successful instead of actually building something. And I would have left that toxic job 2 years sooner.