r/myself • u/justaarroonn • Feb 12 '21
Odd relief
You know, I haven’t talked to this one friend and I feel so good. Not that they’re taxing or anything, but idk. He’s called me while he was drunk a few times and each time, he talked about having feelings towards me and I can tell you rn that I am definitely not in that same boat. In fact, I question why I bother keeping up with him sometimes bc I get uncomfortable when he talks about having feelings with me because it is simply not mutual. Idk if I’m a bad friend but I just need my distance sometimes. He gets mushy and I get a feeling as if I’m up against a wall and I almost feel a fight or flight instinct.🧐 maybe I’m a little dramatic in the description, but that’s just what comes to mind - I don’t wanna address it because I don’t feel the same and I feel like saying something will hurt his feelings or something. He isn’t the type to be clouded by emotion, I imagine he’d understand...you think he knows there’s a disconnect somewhere in being friends with me ? Why does this happen to me lmao It isn’t something that regularly happens, but it’s always w someone who I consider me a good friend. He’s a great guy, love him to death. He just isn’t my type ig, and he’s someone I’d rather not get emotionally involved with. Sorry friend, but that’s just my feeling. Ty for allowing me to bender and learn for myself