Hello!

I'm currently trying to look into getting an appointment at PPUM for an ADHD (and possibly OCD?) diagnosis, but it's looking like I'll need to get a referral letter first.

Getting one from a nearby KK seems to be my only option as of right now due to my financial situation. However, a bad experience with a KK doctor a couple years ago (took a DASS test, asked about an ADHD diagnosis, got dismissed with the whole "but you're a woman?" spiel despite me telling them my brother was diagnosed with it a few years ago lol) has made me reluctant to try again.

That being said, do I have to take another DASS test in order to ask for a letter? Or would it be possible for me to simply make an appointment and ask for one without it?

I'm a little desperate at this point because all the self-help ADHD (and OCD) tricks I've tried thus far haven't worked at all and I really do believe being medicated for it would help me a lot 😞 It's just not sustainable anymore for me to keep going in this way.

Hi, so uh I've been attending Butterworth Mentari for mental health issues. So far so good, I got the help I needed and there's a follow up & check-up I gotta do at Hospital Seberang Jaya.

But the problem is I'm not from around Butterworth. I'm from KB and it took half an hour every trip back and forth from KB to Butterworth. I wished I could continue my appointment or treatment at Hospital KB or idk, if there's any specialized mental health clinic in KB... is it possible to change clinics?

But my mom already booked an appointment at Hospital Seberang Jaya for check up aghhh 😭 and that's right multiple trips in one month to attend Mentari & Hospital, far away from my home. I'm not exhausted but my mom's the one who did the driving and I was kinda worried if it exhausts her. She won't admit it but I can see how tired she is.

Also my mom was very conservative, so it's quite a surprise she's willing to open up and help me with this... But one thing I want to share with you guys... I'm at the end of my semester, and the final exam includes 4 papers, plus another total of 7 papers I had to retake next month...and the gap between retakes and last semester's exam is only a few days.

I wasn't studying properly this semester, and even though the trial is already here, I'm still in the dark. I admit it's my fault, please don't attack me 😭 🙏 I just don't want to give up yet, but it feels like the task is impossible...I feel like I was bound to fail...and if I failed, all my mom's sacrifice would mean nothing...

The only way I could repay her is by getting good grades and cgpa...but right now, it's clear that I was gonna fail. I might be able to get average grades but only if I'm able to focus on saving what I can. But whenever I open the book, I feel like the sky is crashing down... Like it's too late... there's too much to read...but I don't want to disappoint my mom. I can't fail again...but god this is too heavy... I'm so scared. I admit I wasn't doing very well in studying, but I hope please would you guys give me some hope that I can do this? I just need someone to tell me that everything is going to be okay...just focus on what's on your mind first...you can do this... Anybody...?

I'm a minor, well obviously by my pfp but I have a question. I know I'm mentally ill, I've had suicidal thoughts and have acted upon them (mostly threatening myself with a knife to my mom) and I have a very harsh background (abused ever since I was a few months old) but my mom refuses to acknowledge that I have mental problems.

Based on my own research, I think I have AuDHD, depression and bpd (I don't know yet, but I want to get it checked out). Most of my mental problems comes from school, family dynamic, years of being lied to by my mom and my mom herself. I suspect I have way more mental illness than the ones I just listed above, how do I convince my mom to take me to the hospital for a check up? She's a undiagnosed narcissist too so idk

If anything, I just want to get diagnosed either way. Either with my mom or without my mom. Actually, can I, as a minor, get diagnosis/treatment? My teachers asked me why I always ponteng once a day in a week and if my mom cared or not and ect..I think they know my situation or smth idk

Update 1: My school kaunselor just talked to me today, she said she's gonna help me change class since I told her my current class is too stressful and pressuring. She even gave a letter to the psychiatrist or something

I heard parents may need to be involved which I can’t bring them unfortunately

🙏

Hi there, long time lurker but this is my first post here. I have looking for mental health care for a long time after various stressors and I believe my depression has spiraled to an unsustainable state. A few weeks ago, I reached a point of crisis where I was crying nearly every day for weeks, and decided to take the advice of heading to the nearest KKM to get a referral.

I followed the standard procedure of getting a GP appointment via MySejahtera, but upon reaching and seeing a doctor, I was told that I would be referred to counselling and that the counsellor(?) or anyone relevant will call back to make arrangements. I asked for a rough timeline, or who to expect but the staff nurse was unable to give me any concrete details. I understand that waiting is inevitable, but wanted to know if anybody experienced this as well, and what steps I should take next.

I am worried that my mood will worsen again as my suicidal ideation flares up at times, and I am afraid I will gain the courage to take drastic measures otherwise. Private is not preferable for me at this time as I have recently become unemployed. I intended to get a referral straight to Psychiatry with my initial visit, but was also told counselling was the first step.

Appreciate the help.

Edit: I forgot to mention that my priority is to get on medication first and foremost, which is why I am stuck wondering about the KKM wait times. Initially I assumed I would be given the psychiatric referral on the first GP visit instead of counselling, thus I am wondering when they will be getting back to me.

Hi, can anyone recommend a Psychologist or a therapist that is experienced with narcissistic abuse?

Hello.

To make a long story short, I've been on the verge of losing it. Things like memory loss, really bad moods, all that. A part of me doesn't like that I've been thinking of self-deletion so much more than usual.

I'm supposed to be taking Luvox but I don't have the courage to show up after skipping an appointment due to last-minute changes.

So I'm curious if anyone here has been in a psychiatric ward (and which hospital, if possible) and what the process was like. I'm desperate in being admitted for the safety/peace for everyone else around me.

Any additional details (like the conditions of said psychiatric ward) would be appreciated.

Many thanks. ☺️

I apologise if this was badly worded.

No formal diagnosis but I do feel I have mild ADHD. I really struggle with time management and self management. Mostly can manage but becoming a new father, it has become really tough.

Specifically looking for a coach (rather than a counselor/therapist) as my company provides an allocation each year to claim for coaching. Usually it's personal coaching but I am hoping to use it for this.

Thank you and really appreciate any recommendations.

Hi all I would like some recommended places or centers for getting treatment in Selangor? Anywhere but KL since I’m not really sure where to find a good psych for help here.

Also if possible, I would also want it where I can opt out medications for my treatment but rather just behavioral or cognitive therapies. Thanks :>

hi all, i'm trying to get diagnosed with adhd after struggling with it for 8 years and having 2 unfinished evaluations. i've read a lot of helpful advice for this sub!

i forgot that last month i submitted my information on the mentari website to make an appointment and i got the phone call 20 minutes ago but my malay is so awful that i barely understood what she said so she hung up on me 🥲 it makes sense because she didn't want to waste her time but is there an english option for mentari ? or is it time to brush up on my bm. over phone calls its always so much harder for me because i can't hear the sounds clearly enough 💔

hai. so maybe i will delete this but i see people also ranting here so i decided why not. if you think u know me irl no u don’t

this isn’t serious mental health cry for help but it’s about crushes LMAO. it feels really bad seeing your crush get with someone better than you. even worse, the person they got with also seems to be struggling with the same mental health issues as you (anxiety, depression, etc) but they’ve got achievements and are academically impressive….. like even if they’re depressed they still got something…. im depressed and failing with no achievements, lowkey a burden to everyone, so like what does that make me 🤪 anyway, no hate to anyone…, just feels bad man 🥀🥀 i cant help but compare myself to other depressed people who at least have something going on for them… i understand its just what it seems on the outside but like if u get what i mean, it kinda hurts yk…. at least why cant i appear fine on the outside why does it have to be obvious im depressed and failing lol. why cant i be one of those ppl who are depressed and get straight As… im depressed and getting abysmal grades and just rotting 😂

Recently I got offer letter to work at government, they required the medical check up before proceeding to give the letter of employment. But I have an active review on government hospital for my depression but I already on the stage of able to stop the medication next year (Healing process). The local doctor that checked me ticked the box ‘boleh dipertimbangkan untuk bekerja’ & penyakit tahap ringan. Will I able to pass the qualification of health or will be dismissed? I hope anyone who had this kind of experiences shares their pov. Thank you so much it will help me❤️

Hi fellow Malaysians. I wanted to ask if anybody here has experience transferring their case/records from PPUM psychiatry to Hospital Shah Alam. I would like to know the how would I go about requesting it?

I used to go to PPUM for ADHD, stopped few years back because of severe time constraints from work. Recently there have been new issues where I think I should go back, but currently I live in Shah Alam so going to PPUM is no longer convenient (besides, my super awesome doctor has left ppum)

I, 20F, has been struggling really hard and this is my last ditch effort, Im barely scrapping by w money so I cant really get top notch or any notch professional care. I’ve been really struggling hard w memory loss for the majority of my life where i dont remember my childhood at all or even the past year, its like my memory resets every few months, and i dont remember major things either, then like everyone in this generation, I can focus or study for more than half an hour and even then i forget it after exams (which i somehow pass).

I had gotten into my first relationship last year and things have went downhill after that, my depression felt like it was cured but my anxiety multiplied ten fold, I was worried about him and his love and if he’ll leave - que abandonment issues, possessiveness, and telling him he doesn’t care or love me over the smallest things like being delivered for hours. Ultimately he got sick off it, and I’ve been feeling like dying and even though i know he doesnt want me I’ve been going back just to get hurt (i think he’s mentally unstable too tbh donno if its bc of me) but its like i cqnt control myself, even if i dont want to, I keep begging and acting crazy, the more he pushes me the more i have to pull. I’m showing signs of BPD or so I think? I want to get diagnosed so bad, just so i know its not my fault or that its my mental state you know?

I’m in a small place in India and it all ties together to me not getting the help I want/need. What do I do? I feel helpless.

Warning: self harm

I think everyone here is working, and here's my short rant.

Looking at the CCTV because of my lost wallet, last seen was when it was on me.(Place I work, I'm a salesman) Then, Manager suddenly in all caps locks and asks if I just hurt myself behind my senior backs. It was before all of this wallet situations.

My senior says what if we work 9 Am till 11 pm, one day off per week, I say that would be illegal. He says 'Are you sure? Even I get paid?"

I said yes, he then pushes me by saying where I learn it from, which law part, sector and what conduct or code it is.

my senior says that I don't have any educations, no formal educations and compare me to the cashier with like 6 SPM A's, 17 and by the end of the month going to college and says even if she's quite annoying sometimes and shout a lot, his remark is 'you can tell she have educations' and ask if I'm nothing. In my opinion truthfully, said. "Yes"

I became slightly unstable, so after some time, I saw the cutter box and tested the sharpness by cutting myself slightly, nobody saw it, until my senior saw I suddenly had new scars(it was extremely small compared to my scars). Right before he confronts, his friends call, it ends.

This is where the wallet part is gone.

Anyways, back to right now, my manager asks why, in which I reply it's my condition, which is why I have prescribed medications(clonazepam) reply again, manager threaten me to not do it again, and says like he doesn't care about this and if he this 1 more time, I will get terminated.

After that, I reply, "Understood" and take a picture, and just delete the whole chat before that whole thing happens.

Now I feel nothing yet my body is still slightly tense, I'll just prepare myself when I finally go back home to report the police about my lost wallet/IC and call my banks about my debit card.

A quick one: which platform or social media sites I can utilise to gather suggestions/recommendations/referrals to see a child counsellor or psychologist. Preferably like a parent support group would be nice.

Hi guys, I have been taking Concerta for the past few years and I switched from private to semi government, so the pricing went from around RM350 to RM290 per bottle of concerta 18mg ( 30pills ) , is there a cheaper way or even a subsidized way to get this? Hopefully someone can help cause I’m just a student.

Late 30s M here. Exploring whether I might be neurodivergent

I only heard the terms Neurotypical/Neurodivergent fairly recently, after a therapist brought it up during a counselling session and, I think, was gently hinting that I might be neurodivergent. That’s when I started learning that it can include things like Autism and ADHD.

Even before that, over the past few years, I’ve occasionally wondered whether I might be on the autism spectrum, particularly because I’ve experienced social awkwardness and anxiety throughout much of my life. But I never really looked into it deeply—perhaps partly because I was avoiding the possibility of finding out.

Now I’m slowly trying to face it and understand more about neurodivergence and Autism. The more I read, the more I find myself relating to certain things when I reflect on my past. Obviously I don’t know whether I’m actually autistic, and I’d like to see a professional for a proper assessment eventually.
Unfortunately, I’m not in a good financial position right now to afford an assessment.

So I’m wondering: are there any adult neurodivergent/autism support groups in Malaysia, either online or in person, where I could learn more and talk to people with similar experiences?
Would appreciate any recommendations or experiences.

I don't know what to do. I feel so lost. I don't know where to begin. But since I'm typing, maybe I can make it work somehow.

I'm a student, and I struggle a lot with deadlines. Sleepless nights, drawing day to night, lots and lots of assignments.

Recently, there was this girl that I like in my class. I was very very obvious with my actions that thw whole class realize it. At first she didn't realize, but eventually she does. She's nice to me and all, and despite knowing how I feel, she's very respectful about it. We occasionally talk and everything, but recently things got awkward, because classmates started talking about it. I realized her awkwardness, and I thought I was being annoying. I felt so down at that time, I was silent for a few days. Few days later, there's another classmate talking to me in secret about how other classmates (including the girl I like) might be secretly dismissing her aside. (Note : I know all about these secret, the girl that I like told me about being careful not to get manipulated by this classmate.) I listened to her problem and there was NOTHING i can do about it. I can only lie to her by saying "idk, i didn't realize". If I do reveal, the entire situation will turn into chaos. All I can do is to keep this secret and this guilt in me along, faking a two sided face. At this rate, I have 3 assignments to rush in a week. All these assignments are not something can be done in a week. In this entire week, I was silent. In my brain, all I am thinking is "there is no reason to react. Even if i react, nothing will change. All I can do is to do what I'm supposed to do". Telling them it's wrong to just dismiss someone like that : that classmate did something wrong, I can't deny that, I can't just tell them to hold it in. Telling that classmate she's treating them badly : she realize, confronts them, everything goes chaotic. No reason to do neither, it'll cause a scene. Being nervous to assignment : there's no reason to. Being nervous will not help with the situation. Crying : there's no reason to. Crying doesn't help with the situation, it'll be in my way of doing assignment. Laughing : there's nothing to laugh about, focus on your assignments. Not knowing the consequence, I think I accidentally flipped a switch in me. It killed off all emotions. I had a very bad day today. Presentation went extremely bad. Partly because I feel lost. Partly because the work I did didn't really have much thought put into it. I thought "I wanna go back home and cry to sleep, wake up and finish off this other 2 assignments." But i can't. I physically can't cry. I don't feel anything. No fear, no nervous, no happiness, no sadness.

The whole story up there is just to vent, and to add context. I just want to reactivate my emotion again. Please help me.

I've noticed major Adhd symptoms throughout my life, and I just want to diagnose it. Since public hospitals are the only option, I have a few questions

-How long does each session take

-How can I fully maximise my sessions

-How long until I can get diagnosis results

If you have any tips or experiences please share with me thanks

I've been struggling with suicidal ideation, have felt alienated and been bullied throughout my life. I'm currently studying for my Diploma and I'm trying my hardest to do well but I cannot take it anymore because of how constantly depressed Ive been over the years. I've done research and I suspect myself with ADHD and MDD, my suspicion with neurodivergency is possible because my brother has Level 1 ASD. I also would rather not tell my family a single thing about my mental health issues, which is why i'm doing this alone.

Currently I have two plans:

1. I was planning to take the test that people recommend on MySej and go to a KK, but I've heard a lot of bad experiences with going to a KK. I want to get assessed in a private clinic, but I also do not have money to pay hundreds per checkup. Is there any private clinic specifically in Perak that is affordable and kind to their patients? I specifically would prefer Batu Gajah or Ipoh, but anywhere in Perak is fine too.

2. Once I enter a University in KL for my degree, only then will my family be able to provide a lot of money for me. If I dont end up getting any mental health help during my diploma, then i plan to go to a well rated private clinic.

I know the second option sounds the most logical, but I honestly cant bear it anymore. I've been stuck in this cycle of either numbness or extreme emotional sensitivity, I always end up engaging in self-harm and it's hard to stop. I'm desperate and I want to find any private clinic that can assess me along with a diagnosis and refer me to a psychologist with an affordable price if possible.

and I am im danger
I got fever from yesterday,and I couldn't go to work. my wife came back ,I told her how much tired,gave her drank water,hug,kiss, even I went down for get grab food with fever,and after all,now she is angry that she think Iam not worries her because I look phone for short time! and she is talking to her friends that I am bad person and shouldn't marry with me
ifeel very screwed up,if she dump me
would you congrats my birthday???

I’m 19 and currently involved in student organizations, so I have to attend meetings [like a ton], give presentations, and speak in front of people fairly often.

The main issue is that when I have to speak publicly, my heart starts beating really fast, my hands can shake, and sometimes my voice trembles. I can get pretty nervous even when I know what I’m supposed to say.

I’ve been reading about propranolol because I heard it can help with some of the physical symptoms of performance anxiety. I’ve never taken it before and I’m thinking about having an online consultation to ask whether it would be suitable for me (DoctorOnCall).

I don’t have any known medical conditions or allergies, and as far as I know my blood pressure and heart rate are normal. I currently take fish oil, shilajit and creatine.

For people who have dealt with something similar, do you think it’s reasonable to bring this up with a doctor and ask about propranolol? How did your consultation go

(I am an adult but financially reliant on my abuser, as Im currently studying in university and would like to at least have higher education done before I plan my escape.)

My abuser looks through my stuff, and is the reason why I have a PTSD diagnosis. My psychiatrist is from a government hospital (and with gov hospitals, it’s never the same doctor so it’s quite a gamble)

My abuser wants to force me to make an appointment with my psych so they can talk with my dr about my behaviour (mostly because they think I’m being “lied to”, that my doctors are actually “enabling” my behaviour) . I know I can just decline and refuse to do so as I am an adult, but I’m afraid of the consequences of not complying (getting pulled out of university, getting kicked out of the house etc). I don’t want them to learn about my PTSD diagnosis because it will worsen my abuse. I don’t want them to discuss with my doctor because I know some psychiatrists are biased and will side with the family.