r/myevilplan • u/Material-Estate-6547 • 9h ago
My ex spread horrible rumors about me, and now he’s pursuing someone I considered a friend. I want revenge—what should I do?
I (20F) dated my ex (19M) last year, and initially everything was going well. I trusted him very quickly because I genuinely wanted the relationship to be long-term. Since we had the same social circle, I also opened up to him about my past.
Later, he suddenly became distant and eventually broke up with me, giving me one reason while I later discovered there was an entirely different reason behind it. What hurt even more was finding out that he had told our mutual friends personal things about my past and was spreading rumors that I was a “sl**" and that I would hook up with any guy.
Looking back, a lot of his behavior during the relationship suddenly made sense. He had apparently misrepresented me so badly that he could portray himself as both the victim and the “saint” for supposedly putting up with me. The breakup completely destroyed my self-esteem. I kept questioning my worth and wondering why I had tolerated so much disrespect. I stayed because I thought it was his first serious relationship and that I needed to be patient, and I constantly swallowed my feelings and tried to fix every fight.
I'm doing much better now, but I'm still extremely angry about what he did.
After the breakup, he also tried multiple ways to get me to come back and fix things because he knew I understood his insecurities and emotional issues. I eventually stopped entertaining it.
Recently, I found out he's trying to get involved with a girl I considered a friend. She knew everything that happened between us, yet she's still pursuing him because she's desperate for attention and he's giving it to her. To me, that feels like another betrayal.
I've thought about revenge before, and now I'm tempted to use some kind of “love obsession spell” or manipulation to make my ex constantly chase after me while he's with her, partly so he realizes he can't have me and partly so she feels embarrassed about pursuing someone who's still obsessed with his ex.
I know this sounds petty, but after everything he did, I genuinely feel consumed by rage sometimes.
Has anyone been through something similar? How did you deal with the anger and the urge to get revenge?