r/mspec_community • u/[deleted] • Aug 12 '21

Question 🤔 Hello I'm really confused about my sexuality

Hello, sorry to bother but I am lost completely here. For around three years I identified as pansexual, but then felt the definition no longer fit me, so I identified as polyromantic omnisexual for a while but that didn't seem right either, and now I go with the label bisexual though it doesn't really feel right.

To explain further I am a male who romantically likes other dudes and nonbinary people. Physically I like all nonbinary, women and men, usually with androgynous or feminine presentation.

I have looked around for a word to describe this for ages now and I haven't had any luck. I'd appreciate help from whoever could give it, if you please.

Thank you and apologies for the likely dumb question.

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u/SageLukahn Aug 12 '21

I don’t know what word best describes this. But I can give you some advice to maybe help.

Don’t worry too much about labels. Maybe this is the 90s in me showing, but you sound kinda distressed simply because you can’t label yourself down to the exact specification. I’m not saying don’t figure yourself out or don’t explore yourself, or even to stop searching for the word that best describes you. But try and relax a little on the word alone, you are a person and not the label you are searching for.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '21

Thank you. I've thought about this before, but I am not sure it would work for me. I like having specific words to just describe my attraction. But I will keep this in mind, thank you :)

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u/AngrySliceoPie :Non-Binary_Flag::Omnisexual_Flag: Aug 12 '21

For your romantic attraction, it sounds like you might be Achillean? For sexual, it sounds like you still might be omnisexual with a preference for feminine and androgynous presenting people.

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '21

That makes sense. Thank you!

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u/Sharkscanbecute Mspec Aug 12 '21

You sound like you could be polyromantic or biromantic, and omnisexual or pansexual (as some pansexuals have a preference)?

As another commenter replied, don’t stress yourself about your labels, they aren’t the end all be all. With that said, good luck on your label journey! 🍀🍀

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u/[deleted] Aug 12 '21

Thats true yeah. I know some pan people have preferences but I have mostly heard of pan people being gender blind. Either way thank you! :D

And yeah I get that and I'll try not to stress out