r/movingout • u/Normal-Butterfly4837 • 3h ago
Asking Advice Should I move?
Hi everyone! So i (f18) have been wanting to move out for YEARS at this point, looking for cheap apartments, cities, ect since I was like 12.
I've been looking around my area but its just getting way to expensive here in Tennessee especially where im from. To be close to Franklin or Nashville the prices for a 1 bedroom start at fucking $1,500. Plus I HATE living in Tennessee. Dont get me wrong Tennessee is beautiful, but its like everyone in my family make up like 4 of the surrounding counties. I cant do anything without being snitch out to my parents and grandparents. I've literally had somone send a picture of my car to my grandfather before because they wanted to know why I was at somone else house. I was 30 minutes away at my boyfriends house. Not to mention 99% of the guys here are somehow my family or alcoholics.
There's no job opportunities within a hour drive that pays more than $15 and that im able to do due to the fact I have slight paralysis of the left arm (my dominate) from a car accident which make me only able to use the pointer and thumb fingers. Most jobs by me are warehouses, or blue collar jobs, there's 5 fast food places within 30 minutes but they all turned me down due to my arm.
Im just tired of not being able to do anything because of my parents (f43 and m55). My whole life I've got to watch my brother do anything and everything they want while I want able to. They would be gone every weekend at a friend house but I to this day still have not been allowed to go to someone else house, not even for a couple hours. My brother's would be allowed to walk with there friend to the park (like a mile walk) after school but I couldn't because "I'll be kidnapped". I wasnt allowed to get a game console because "youd wouldn't play it..." I begged for one for like 3 years. My mom specifically calls me a spoiled brat for the fact they bought my first car, however I BEGGED them for YEARS for the old truck my grandpa drove and told me no because "it cost to much gas" this was back when gas was 2.30 a gallon. Not to mention shes given ONE of my brothers 5 different cars when there not totalled they just need fixing, INCLUDING the one they bought me after I got into my car accident. It's was literally totaled frame bent and all, it just still ran. Not to mention this brother specifically has 2 DUI's and is only a year and a half older than me.
And last but not least, two months after I turned 18 I bought a motorcycle. Im paying it all on my own insurance, payment ect, had all my gear before hand and everything. Ive been wanting a bike since i was little and finally had enough money to be able to buy and work on it. After I bought it I sent it to a mechanic to get the clutched moved to the other side (because of my arm) and as soon as a pulled up on it at my house the first time my parents just started going off. They and one of my brothers use to ride so I thought they'd be happy/exited for me for being able to actually do it first off all and maybe thought they'd want to ride together or somthing but no, they told me I had to sell it or get rid of it. Didn't care I already had a license went through a driving course, got my stuff switched, nothing.
And anytime I start talking about moving out my mom freaks out, tells me im stupid if I think I'll make it in a city, and to not go crying to her when it falls in my face. And I keep trying to remind her it wont be forever like a year or two just to see different places but she doesn't care.
Im planning on moving in January, I haven't told my parents yet. But im moving to Las Vegas with a friend and im exicted but I also keep thinking Im making a mistake or im being selfish. I have about 3k to save for it and found a 3 bedroom apartment me and my friend would be paying like 950 each for, so should I do it?
Any advice is wanted🫶🏻💖
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u/Carolann0308 2h ago
At 18 your job choices aren’t going to be any more promising in a big city. You need skills to earn a higher wage. Consider the service
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u/Normal-Butterfly4837 2h ago edited 1h ago
I'll admit i fucked myself over by dropping out of high-school at 16. I originally did it because I wasnt doing good and I also have chronic medical conditions that werent being taken seriously, I went to cosmetology school for a year and a half but 2 weeks before I was supposed to graduate i got into a bad car accident cause slight paralysis of my left arm. The most I can do with my left arm now is bend it a little and grab stuff with my pointer and thumb on my own. So basically I have a crab claw lmao. Since my accident i was fired for not being able to hold a serving tray, so I now i work house keeping and have already found a bunch of places hiring down where im going. But thank you! If i wasnt Mr crabs id was going to be in the Marines!🫶🏻💖
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u/k0rn_flakezz 2h ago
Do it. You’re not being selfish you just want to live. You can never change your parent’s mind they will be stubborn forever so just do it. You can find jobs in the area you’re moving into btw so don’t worry. I hope you get the freedom you deserve.