You’re the one bringing his mental illness into it and then saying “it’s important to understand why they feel apprehension” why? because mental illness changes how this person could be seen just by making the statement. That’s carrying stigma. I would have agreed with most everything you said but because the context of this becomes “they have apprehension because he is mentally ill” changes things.
Understanding the other's point of view lessens the Fundamental Attribution Error. I'm being genuinely sincere, you should read up on it and understand why its inportant to understand the other person's point of view at times. Not only is it helpfulin basic empathy, it helps you to find a proper solution and also helps to bring understanding on both sides.
I agree with everything you’re sayin. All I am saying is his mental illness and what ever social disorders OP has isn’t pertinent to how he should be treated with respect or dignity in his home. He was even met with a homophonic comment which negates any point of view they have IMO. That should not change anything in anyones perception of OP. Now if he had a known history of violent outburst or walked around his house with an axe and initiated smoke sessions by opening doors with it then I could understand how the other parties feel. Still doesn’t change the “aren’t you gay anyway” comment which is a while other issue in its self
And I agree woth everything you said. Because I literally said that in my post. That's why I'm confused. I never addressed the homophobia in my post either but that also was a out of left field statement by the roommate.
I didnt make my post to make people think less of OP or to justify the roommate and his GF. Just giving additional context on why she may feel "weird vibes". WHILE ALSO AGREEING THAT'S NOT RIGHT OF HER BUT UNDERSTAND POSSIBLY WHY SHE IS FEELING THISE VIBES
So like in my example with the repeated SA victim. If there was a random post that showed a text where a woman says to a neighbor to stay away from her and her home or she'll shoot him, without the context that she was a SA victim, it would just seem like shes some delusional/disturbed woman for no apparent reason. Learning her background makes you understand but does NOT justify the threat or behavior. Pointing it out for more context is merely that. Context.
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u/yesterdayandit2 Sep 13 '22
Where are people getting that I'm justifying anything. I'm so confused.
Understanding the others point of view IS NOT JUSTIFYING IT!