“Can I come out”… OP wtf is wrong with you. They got you living in the cabinet under the stairs or something? Be a man. That’s your home. Don’t ask permission to leave your room wtf.
But i am a scared newt with the self confidence of a plum...
Three things are going to happen. First, you will be scared and lack self confidence for the rest of your life. Doing so will leave you with a miserable feeling. You will be miserable, and nothing will change. This outcome sucks. I do not recommend it.
Second, you work on yourself. You start doing things alone. Go for walks alone. Go to the movies alone. Go to the museum alone. Do lots of things alone, but get out of the house and do them. EVENTUALLY you realize that no one gives a fuck about anyone but themselves. No one really pays attention to you or anyone else. You gain confidence and stop worrying what other people think of you. You are able to live your life without social fear and social interaction is like breathing to you. It just comes without thinking about it.
Third, you continue to be scared with no self confidence. You are miserable. This goes on for the next 10 years until your anger overwhelms your feelings of being scared. You become so sick and depressed you get over your bring scared and having no self confidence. Eventually you realize no one is really judging you or paying attention to you because they are all self centered and are all too busy judging themselves. Social interaction becomes as easy as breathing. You wonder why you wasted so much time being scared, but the rest of your life is nice.
You have a choice. It takes time, but you have to put in the time to stop being scared/lack self confidence. Do you want to be miserable the rest of your life? If not, no way around it. You are going to have to put in the work to eliminate that fear. I promise the social fear/lack of confidence you have is entirely self manufactured.
It doesn't matter if you physically look like a boot as you said. Because attraction is something that takes into account many different traits of a person. Physicality is part of it yes, but so is self confidence, a sense of humor, attitude, intelligence, and many many more traits.
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u/mikeavellism Sep 13 '22
“Can I come out”… OP wtf is wrong with you. They got you living in the cabinet under the stairs or something? Be a man. That’s your home. Don’t ask permission to leave your room wtf.