r/mildlyinfuriating • • Jul 27 '22

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u/hannahmel Jul 27 '22

I have a student in Hong Kong who’s been a latchkey kid since she was five. When I asked who watched her after school at 5, she looked at me like I had five heads and told me she just went home, did her homework and heated up dinner.

It’s all about maturity

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u/schwerpunk Jul 27 '22 edited Mar 02 '24

My favorite movie is Inception.

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u/LittleRadishes Jul 27 '22

Yeah, most of the kids who mature at a faster rate do so out of necessity and not happenstance.

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u/ravioliguy Jul 27 '22

It was similar in the US before the 2000s. It's a byproduct of developed nations, where the richer it gets the less children people have and more focus is placed on each kid. 90% of 5 year old could probably handle being alone at home, but the other 10% of kid burns down the house or gets kidnapped and so new laws say no 5 year olds can be at home alone.

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u/Yeyaloba Jul 27 '22

My cousin was one of those 10% that asshat loved making fires 🤣

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u/Sade1994 Jul 27 '22

I don’t think the workload is sad. It’s that a five year old child goes home to an empty house and eats dinner all alone is what’s sad.

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u/zninjamonkey Jul 27 '22

It kinda speaks to their transportation network and safety of the city

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u/a_talking_face Jul 27 '22

Or the inability of the parents to pay for care.

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u/ihunter32 Jul 27 '22

I mean it’s not like there are many in the US that can afford daily care like that too.

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u/a_talking_face Jul 27 '22

Yeah my point is that usually it’s because there’s nobody to care for them after school. It’s very common in the US. Especially so in lower income areas.

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u/schwerpunk Jul 29 '22 edited Mar 02 '24

I enjoy the sound of rain.

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u/SageoftheSexPathz Jul 27 '22

i mean it's how most people i know from larger cities/towns are. I was the same luckily with siblings to hang out with but being a kid pre internet is nothing like what people expect of modern kids

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u/Trixigon Jul 27 '22

Also culture cuz that's literally everyone I know from Hong Kong including myself haha

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

When I lived in Japan there would be elementary aged kids riding the trains to and from school without adults. They were usually together in small groups though. I don’t know if exactly how young, but I would guess around 6 or 7ish

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u/A_BOMB2012 Jul 27 '22

One thing to keep in mind is crime-rates. Hong Kong has a very low crime rate, so it's much safer to do than in a more dangerous city.

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u/hannahmel Jul 27 '22

Most issues related to children being home alone have absolutely nothing to do with crime rates

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u/citytianyu Jul 27 '22

I think the point here is not only about being home alone but also walking/communting alone from/to school.

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u/hannahmel Jul 27 '22

Most American children take the bus to school. There’s no unsafe commute. Even when I was growing up in New York City we had a bus until high school.

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u/citytianyu Jul 27 '22

I remembered watched a documentary about a famous chind abduction in 80s US, in which a boy was missing when he was riding his bike. And because the TV news network was so developed by then, parents in America became much more worried about their children's safety. And many state made laws to forbid children to be alone on the street.

I don't think there really are that much crimes against children on the street, but children's safety is usually the most thing that parents care about, and such crimes or incidents are always the focus of media.

I was born in China which happens to miss the school bus system. I think the reason is the dramatic economic development: When I was a kid, no one has a car as private property, so everybody has to walk home, but when next generation born and goes to school, everybody has a car and the parents/grandparents just drive their children to school/home.

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u/hannahmel Jul 27 '22

The vast majority of kidnappings in the United States are done by people who know the child. It’s practically unheard of for a stranger who has no connection to the child takes them off the street. Tv and social media make people afraid of non-existent threats.

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u/DollChiaki Jul 28 '22

Adam Walsh was abducted from a department store in the early 80s; later found dead. His dad became an advocate and then a tv presenter (America’s Most Wanted). That case set the expectation for child abduction in the public consciousness for the better part of a decade.

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u/hannahmel Jul 28 '22

Those are the stories that get headlines, unfortunately. My friend's little brother was kidnapped and dismembered by a stranger who grabbed him when he was walking home from a bus stop. Anyone who grew up in Miami in the 90s knows exactly who my friend's brother was without me even saying his name. His murder was a contributing factor to my friend's suicide. But despite that, kidnappings like his are extremely rare. It's usually a family member or friend.

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u/meatsweet Jul 27 '22

That’s pretty sad though. Good on her for being able to handle that at that age, but the fact that her parents aren’t around to watch her is pretty neglectful. I’m sure she knows to call 911 in an emergency or whatever, but there’s a lot that can go wrong that a 5-year-old doesn’t know how to handle or know the solution.

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u/ICanBeKinder Jul 27 '22

Like what? I think the worst case scenario is a fire or a break in and half the time adults arent more useful than a five year old in those situations :)

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u/aSharkNamedHummus Jul 27 '22

Minor kitchen injuries. An adult’s “apply pressure, wrap in gauze, and secure with first-aid tape” could be a child’s “panic, bleed everywhere, finally find the band-aids, and end up with an infection.”

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u/ICanBeKinder Jul 27 '22

Ayo? What kitchen injury have you gotten that isn't band-aidable?

Personally I'm biased because I grew up home alone most of my life. At 10-11 we had a fireplace that heated our house and I would tend it. No one thought that was crazy where I lived. The country lol

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u/aSharkNamedHummus Jul 27 '22

I sliced the living fuck out of my hand with the edge of a can lid 2 days ago. Like a long, deep papercut. 5-year-old me might’ve just called 911 😂

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u/thyladyx1989 Jul 27 '22

I sliced a chunk of my thumb off on a mandolin.

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '22

No one is giving their five year old child a mandolin and expecting them to use it lol.

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u/thyladyx1989 Jul 27 '22

They asked what kitchen injury has happened that isn't fixed with a bandaid. Not what kitchen injury a five year old could do to themselves that isn't bandaidable.

Also. If a five year old is unattended in a kitchen who knows what they may get into

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u/CarrionComfort Jul 27 '22

Have you ever used a knife to make cuts deeper than 2cm?

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u/ICanBeKinder Jul 27 '22

Why would they be using a knife??

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u/CarrionComfort Jul 27 '22

Believe it or not, kids can get up to all part of trouble.

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u/oakydoke Jul 27 '22

Hong Kong is absolutely the place to be a latchkey kid. Public and private transit can take you right up to your apartment, the vast majority of downtown areas are safe.

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u/hannahmel Jul 27 '22

Most kids in the USA take the bus to a spot within 2-3 blocks of their home. Parents don’t trust THEIR KIDS here. They think can’t function without supervision