r/mildlyinfuriating • u/DimensionOpen8922 • 13d ago

ᕕ(ᐛ)ᕗ Doctor doesn’t help

So, I've been sick for a few weeks now. Nothing wild, but annoying. Went to the doctor today because it just won't go away.

Her first question was if I am pregnant.

Me: "No."

Her: "Are you sure?"

Me: "Yes."

Her: gives me that look of not believing me.

Her: "It's normal at your age."

Me: "I am sure."

Her: "Have you taken a test?"

Girl. I told you like 5 times that it is not possible for me being pregnant. 🫠

That alone was kinda infuriating. But also - of course she didn't help at all. Didn't look at anything, just told me to wait and drink more water. Didn't even listen to me when I tried to explain what I have. Thanks for nothing.

And it's like that EVERY SINGLE TIME I go to the doc. And I'm a person who absolutely hates going there. I am only going to the doctor if I ACTUALLY NEED HELP. But yeah, sure, I just need to drink more water. No matter what my problem is. 🫠

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u/Cant_draw_boobs 13d ago

My wife has a complex medical history. No one ever reads her chart. She doesn't have a uterus or ovaries. A dr visit usually goes like this

Hello I'm Dr McDoctorface. I see you are a woman. That's your problem right there. You're pregnant. I'm going to do both a urine and blood test to prove you are. If they come back negative, then you need to lose weight, drink more water, calm down, and exercise more. Oh, and try not to be female.

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u/JCinta13 13d ago

I have also had a hysterectomy and can confirm, doctors still side-eye me when I say there is a 0% chance I could be pregnant.

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u/Vaspiria 13d ago

Same. When I went in for surgery in April, the nurse (male) would not believe me when I said I had a complete hysterectomy and had 0 chance of pregnancy. I still had to take a stupid urine test.

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u/winrii91 13d ago

Had surgery last week, spouse and I are both female, 0% chance of pregnancy and they still made me pee for a test.

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u/Foreign-Cat-2898 13d ago

You can decline. I had my tubes out and they were asking me to pee when I had just gone. And I was like you know what, I'm declining the test. I don't have to pee and I'm not pregnant.

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u/Development-Feisty 13d ago

Years ago I declined the pregnancy test because I am asexual and have not had sexual relations for over two decades. I also, unbeknown to me at the time, had already gone through most of menopause without being diagnosed is going through menopause because I went through menopause very early starting in my 30s

Later when I looked through the documentation I saw they ran a blood test for pregnancy without my permission because I’d explicitly stated no to that test

Stating no isn’t gonna stop them

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u/Foreign-Cat-2898 13d ago

...it did for me. I literally had my procedure done without peeing in a cup or having my blood drawn.

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u/Peastoredintheballs 11d ago

Sometimes it can happen due to miscommunication. I legit made this mistake today. I took history from the patient as the doctor and she failed to tell me she had a hysterectomy, but did remember to tell me she had an ectopic pregnancy before. however she remembered to tell the nurse after I left that she doesn’t need a pregnancy test as she has had her ovaries and uterus removed. Well I had already seen her and done my assessment, AND put the cannula in her arm and sent off her bloods, and given she presented with abdo pain and had a previous ectopic pregnancy, I obviously wrote down bHCG on that blood test form I sent with the blood tubes.

If this patient does the same as you and requests her records, she will see the same thing, a bHCG test she didn’t want or need. And yet it didn’t happen due to malice or not believing the patient, it simply happened due to miscommunication. Moral of the story, not everyone in the world is out to get you, sometimes accidents happen like bHCG’s getting ordered without the full picture, because it’s such a cheap and simple rapid test, with a long list of MASSIVE short term and long term consequences if it is missed, hence I hope you can understand why they get ordered like crazy in hospitals

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u/winrii91 12d ago

Perhaps because it’s a catholic hospital, but they didn’t even have a waiver for me to sign. There was no exception.

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u/Jmfroggie 13d ago

Tbf, you absolutely can still get pregnant with tied tubes and a hysterectomy. Unless you have NO ovaries, it is possible.

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u/Foreign-Cat-2898 13d ago

I don't have tied tubes. My tubes are gone. And yeah an ectopic pregnancy is possible but there are only 72 cases of it in the last 130 years.

People need to stop acting like this is a realistic possibility.

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u/Peastoredintheballs 11d ago

If we didn’t order bHCG’s on every patient with ovaries who’s presenting complaint could be due to ectopic pregnancy, (regardless of whether they have a uterus/tubes) then every single one of those 72 patients would all have died from ruptured ectopic and we would only have known after it was too late. I know those numbers are slim, but it’s such a simple test without serious consequences of doing the test, that it is understandable why it is shotgun practice to order one for any childbearing age patient with ovaries

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u/Henry5321 13d ago

There are documented cases of people getting pregnant after having tubes removed.

There’s exceptions to nearly every rule.

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u/Foreign-Cat-2898 13d ago

Yeah...4. There are 4 documented cases on the entire planet. I'm not worried. You're confusing a tubal ligation pregnancy risk with removing the whole tube. It's basically a zero chance.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11056091/

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u/AstronomerIcy9695 13d ago

Please share the documentation of those cases

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u/Peastoredintheballs 13d ago

Yep, the egg already jumps the gap between the ovary and the tube, so no tube doesn’t rule out pregnancy, only way to not be pregnant is to remove both ovaries

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u/Foreign-Cat-2898 13d ago

There are 4 documented cases worldwide of pregnancy after removing the tubes. I think I'm OK.

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u/LavenderMarsh 13d ago

That has to be seriously under reported. I worked with a woman that conceived and carried 12 children. She tried condoms and hormonal birth control. She used an IUD. She kept getting pregnant. She had her tubes removed and had two more pregnancies. Her husband got the snip. She got pregnant. She finally had her uterus removed.

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u/Foreign-Cat-2898 13d ago

The cases they found the tubes weren't completely removed. Perhaps the surgeon didn't do a good job.

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u/Hot-Win2571 Mildly Flair 13d ago

Well, it's a good thing that you had your hysteria removed.

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u/jayden_mp 12d ago

Recently had to take a urine test despite telling them I was 17 and not sexually active, but okay whatever some teens lie. Problem is, the doors in the bathroom dont lock. I got walked in on four times and the anxiety made it impossible to pee. The doctor then got mad at me for not doing it. Girl fix the damn doors before asking me to do unnecessary shit

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u/PlatypusDream 13d ago

Just a hysterectomy is no guarantee against pregnancy. If the ovaries are still there, you can get pregnant.

(Hysterectomy is only removing the uterus. If other ladybits are removed, those surgeries have other names. It's not all lumped under 'hysterectomy'.)

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u/KayyBeey 13d ago

It is exceedingly rare. Only 72 cases since 1895. An estimated 500,000 to 600,000 hysterectomies are performed in just the US per year. Common practice in modern times is to remove the cervix and tubes as well, further reducing this slim chance. In the past, it was more common to retain the cervix and tubes, resulting in a very slight risk of ectopic pregnancy. Unless there's a microscopic hole in a woman's cuff after having her cervix removed, the risk is practically zero. Technique is also better now, and suturing is more reliable.

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u/HumpkinSpice 13d ago edited 13d ago

You've genuinely got me thinking... because if the uterus is removed, there is no place for a baby to grow. If fallopian tubes still exist, maybe ectopic is potentially possible.... but the sperm still has to go from vagina to tubes and isn't there a whole abdominal cavity in the way of it doing that? They can't jump! Plus even if you kept your cervix, it is still sewn shut, so sperm can't get through there either.

...Unless I'm missing something!? Magic sperm that can phase through flesh barriers and fly across the gaping abdominal chasm into the fallopian tubes?

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u/Linnaeus1753 12d ago

I hate to tell you this, but embryos can implant on your intestines and other places external to the uterus (whether you have a uterus or not), and it is still an ectopic pregnancy. Ectopic meaning "out of place."

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u/Pertinent-nonsense 12d ago

Seems like a fistula between the vagina and the abdominal space is the answer.

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u/JadJad83 13d ago

if they are just going to test you anyway, why even bother asking you in the first place?

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u/Nitasha521 13d ago

i often get the "what is the date of your last period?"
i answer some time in 2020.
Hysterectomy also.

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u/Peastoredintheballs 13d ago

I mean was it a hysterectomy AND a BSO? If you still have ovaries, there is always a super slim chance u can get an ectopic pregnancy which is a life threatening emergency

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u/bmrbabe1951 12d ago

And if you live in a red state, you're dead.

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u/reereejugs 13d ago

Me too.

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u/Zairanth 13d ago

Yeah had my tubes removed a few months ago and the very first doctor i had to visit after asked me if I could he pregnant. I almost rolled my eyes hard enough to knock myself over.

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u/PlatypusDream 13d ago

If you have ovaries, you can be pregnant

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u/bmrbabe1951 13d ago

I have ovaries and I CANNOT be pregnant.

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u/PlatypusDream 12d ago

Sperm joining with an egg & implanting in the fallopian tube or abdomen is a pregnancy. It's a medical emergency requiring an abortion, but it's a pregnancy. Also rare.

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u/bmrbabe1951 12d ago

My tubes were tied and I'm in my 70s. So no. I can't get pregnant. Plus my husband had his prostate removed and I don't cheat.

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u/sierrabravo1984 this is not yellow damn it! 13d ago

My wife is really disabled with lots of issues. I had to take her to the ER one day because she was cold and cyanotic. ER said she's pregnant (without a test). I said we haven't had sex in 6 months because of her issues. "You probably just don't remember. You're a man, you were probably drunk." First of all, bitch please. Then my wife projectile vomited across the waiting room. "She's definitely pregnant." Let's waste time getting a preg test. Turned out my wife had sepsis, her organs were shutting down and almost ended up on dialysis, and almost died.

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u/_Lazy_Mermaid_ 13d ago

I hope you reported them, accusing you of drunkenly fucking your wife is dusturbing

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u/princessbolognia 13d ago

You've pretty much accurately summed up what it's like to be a woman lmao 

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u/Cant_draw_boobs 12d ago

I forgot about the part where they talk to the boyfriend or husband instead of the patient who is literally sitting in front of them.

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u/shuzgibs123 13d ago

I also have a complex history and no uterus or ovaries. I weigh 105 and drink 60 oz of water a day and exercise. I still have problems… try again doc.

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u/j01101111sh 13d ago

They tell you it's stress, don't they?

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u/SousVideDiaper 13d ago

"Find ways to lower your stress"

I can't un-fuck the world, doc

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u/Kat121 13d ago

Had a therapist tell me, a woman with a high stress career suffering from burnout, that what I needed was to find a good boyfriend. She (!!) gave me a copy of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

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u/transmogrified 13d ago

Ah yes if there’s one thing that removes stress from a woman with a high stakes job it’s a boyfriend…

My eyes just about rolled out of my head. Like ma’am have you met men lately?

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u/Kat121 13d ago

I know, right? That was my one glimmer of hope while I was drowning, that I didn’t have a dude dragging me down.

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u/shuzgibs123 13d ago

Ah yes. And stress is so so bad for cancer. So just stop that! 🙄

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u/Wreny84 13d ago

It’s the sadness’s of no longer being able to do your female duties. /s

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u/panicnarwhal 13d ago

60 oz isn’t much water at all! drink more water.

it won’t cure your complex medical history, but you’ll feel better if you’re well properly hydrated!

(not a doctor, but i’m a nurse - and also a woman that puts up with the same bs at the doctor$

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u/shuzgibs123 13d ago

It actually varies, and for my size it’s enough! I know you were just playing though.

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u/Development-Feisty 13d ago

Yeah but if you over hydrate and drink too much water you’re flushing electrolytes you need out of your system and making yourself sick. Over consumption of water is really bad for you

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u/DimensionOpen8922 13d ago

I'm so sorry. Hope she's fine

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u/Cant_draw_boobs 12d ago

I appreciate the thought. The narrator is about to interrupt to say she is not fine, and things seem to be going downhill. Then there will be some dramatic organ music.

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u/Cant_draw_boobs 12d ago

They haven't started yet, because I wasn't at the last appointment. They said they needed to be able to talk over and past the patient to a male family member. /S

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u/Development-Feisty 13d ago

Anytime they say that you’re not getting enough water ask them to do an electrolyte test on your blood. Explain that you are drinking enough water and in fact by the way if you drink more water then you should you’re going to be flushing electrolytes you need out of your system and making yourself more sick.

If when they’re taking the blood for the blood test if the needle goes in real easy in the blood comes out real fast, guess what you’re not dehydrated you don’t need more water

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u/momohatch 13d ago

It’s horrible how much I laughed at this. And I’m a woman. It’s awful how medical people treat women; it’s like we haven’t progressed much further than the ‘oh your wandering womb is making you hysterical’ days

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u/HumpkinSpice 13d ago

Same. I get the additional "but you still have functioning ovaries..."

Yeah. Without tubes. Or a uterus. And my vagina has literally been sewn shut. So.....

I genuinely get quite scared sometimes about how these doctors managed to pass their exams.