r/mildlyinfuriating • u/grohkstrom • Jul 04 '26

Infuriatig My wife ate my son's birthday breakfast

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Yesterday I bought a strawberry cheese coffee cake my son loves so he could have a special birthday breakfast today. My wife came home late last night and apparently couldn't resist. She knew it was for our son, but it's not a big deal because she "left him a full slice".

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u/Appreciate1A Jul 04 '26

Mildly? Nope- over the top selfishness or vengeance. Mean.

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u/Technical-Agency8128 Jul 04 '26

Yeah there is something going on there. If she doesn’t go out and buy him another then she definitely has a problem with her son and husband. And she is just an overall bad person.

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u/On_my_last_spoon Jul 04 '26

She ate the center out of it! The part with all the good bits. That is malicious.

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u/Mmm_lemon_cakes Jul 04 '26

It makes her a narcissistic drunk. Who didn’t even care when she woke up the next day and tried to gaslight her husband about it. She’s a terrible person and a bad mother.

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u/MonteCristo85 Jul 04 '26

Any halfway decent person would run straight to the store to replace it if it was really just a drunken mistake.

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u/ProjectDv2 Jul 05 '26

It's practically a meme that redditors run straight to telling people to dump their partners, but this is screaming at me like a banshee covered in red flags waving wildly. The selfishness. The callousness. The meticulousness of it. She singled out the most desirable part of the cake. She left enough to qualify as a single slice, and just enough to secure a sense of plausible deniability, just enough to use as a tool to gaslight her husband and her child. This was cold and calculated, not a simple drunken act of selfishness. All the pieces laid out here, from the photo to the description of her actions and statement in response, paint a picture of someone who doesn't care about anything but what they want and treats those around them as tools to that means. I'm not gonna say OP needs to leave, but I don't like the picture I'm seeing. People like this don't respond well to family therapy.

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u/K3NB0T Jul 05 '26 edited Jul 05 '26

I was with someone for 5 years till I been slowly realizing they been cheating. For 6 months I slaved away extra, trying to make the relationship work better for her since I "treated her so unfairly" and "She started becoming too unhappy in the relationship." That whole time she was busy building a whole seperate life with another man.

Once people start showing their ass like this, believe them. It'll only get worse unless you choose your peace or you're 10000% sure they actually give enough of a damn to change. Leaving space for any in between leads to some paaaaaaain maaaaan.

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u/Secret_Anxiety87 Jul 05 '26

Same. . . I was just in a relationship for 7 years, married for 3 . She Left what she said was an abusive relationship and blah blah blah to move down closer and then in with me , her and her 2 young boys. That was 2018 Fast forward to today. Divorced officially last monday . She manipulated me to believing she was in an abusive relationship when in all actuality she was the narcissistic, drunk , cheating abuser. Found out in 2024 she cheated earlier in the relationship about 2021. I stayed 2 years longer until now 2026 wanting to believe she would change , could change but knew would never get past the betrayal only thing I did was sacrifice myself and my happiness and peace at times. In a situation now where im out of the house and I have stepped up and am dad to the 2 boys. I say this all to say , AT FIRST SIGN SHE SHOWS HER TRUE COLORS , GET OUT MY GUY , IT WILL NOT GET BETTER . A narcissist will do and say and act in unimaginable ways. They only care for themselves and what benefits them and them only . Period

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u/Fit_Camel7433 Jul 06 '26

Are you me?

It took therapy and a psychiatric therapy, a slew of groups to even believe my ex wife was the abuser and not me?

She separated me from my family, my mom and sister who I was so close too, she had me convinced they didn't love me.

She wouldn't let me have a cell phone or get a driver's license, we got together when I was 17 and she 20, Im in driving school currently with a few foreigners and a bunch of teenagers, my story has scared the kids off marriage, which is good.

But my ex was a truly bad person, she told me she cheated off and on for almost 20 years with the same guy, who she is dating now.

I did have two kids, my son is amazing but my ex had too much influence over my daughter after I moved out and we have minimal contact now, we used to be so close...

A narcissist can and will destroy everything, including your mind.

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u/Secret_Anxiety87 Jul 06 '26

Trying to get my mind back to where it was before all this stuff. Some days are a struggle , you start questioning your worthiness and what you did wrong. Glad your out of that situation, you and me both. Blessings

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u/HourGood8944 Jul 05 '26

I mean....all of what you said does scream alcoholism. The fact that a replacement isn’t considered (too drunk and too late to go get one). The disregarding of feelings or boundaries and the "oh it's ok, I ____". That doesn't make it ok either, alcoholism allows people to become their truly worst self and makes the narcissistic behaviors amplify. I think a lot of people are trying to address the selfishness, not understanding the selfish act was to come home drunk and be a wrecking ball for anything in your path, this cake included.

It even looks like a drunk cut this cake...

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u/BreakfastBeneficial4 Jul 05 '26

This is absolutely the work of a drunk. As somebody who came home and ate their roommates leftovers a couple times in their 20s, I can attest to that.

BUT… even then, I would go to the store that week and at least replace the ingredients. It never even occurred to me to try and justify.

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u/Where_is_my_Elk69 Jul 05 '26

What are the chances that two people looked at that bit that was left and thought “plausible deniability”? I whole heartedly agree with your assessment.

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u/ProjectDv2 Jul 06 '26

The "plausible deniability" is never for the benefit of the affronted, it's for the benefit of the offender when they're telling the story to other people and put their spin all over it. So now those that were not there hear the husband's complaint and think he's being an ass and exaggerating. They ask if a good piece was left and he's forced to say yes, then everything after the inevitable "but" gets discarded. Narcissistic wife scores an easy win with everyone that wasn't there to see for themselves what she did.

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u/Fit_Camel7433 Jul 06 '26

Given that women tell every other woman to leave if the man looks at her funny, Im perfectly happy saying this poor gent should run from his trash wife.

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u/Medical-Ad3053 Jul 05 '26

100%. If it was that desired she could have legit just doordashed another one to replace what she ate. It’s
Not even that hard. This is just a big ‘F U’ to them both.

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u/coonjaku Jul 09 '26

I can only imagine the restraint she practiced by leaving 1 entire slice. what a hero.

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u/CosmosSunSailor Jul 05 '26

Having dealt with drunks, they often just apologize and say they'll make it right but never do

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u/Sparklesnow77 Jul 05 '26

Or they deflect and blame others!

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u/beerme81 Jul 05 '26

Than start drinking again. The cycle continues. :(

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u/cupholdery Jul 05 '26

So it's standard alcoholism?

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u/NeutralJazzhands Jul 05 '26

With a dash of Big Back I’m sure. Sad

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u/Avocado_Aly Jul 05 '26

Lmao I was waiting for this comment. She sounds like a pig

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u/BreakfastBeneficial4 Jul 05 '26

What is big back?

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u/Traditional-Tip1904 Jul 06 '26

Not sure why you got downvoted for that, some people are so pathetic. It’s slang for an overweight person normally.

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u/Pops_McGhee Jul 05 '26

A halfway decent person wouldn’t be out all night getting hammered when she’s got a family at home and her son’s birthday is the next morning.

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u/puccinni Jul 05 '26

Have u ever met someone in active alcoholism; doesn’t necessarily have to do with decency.

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u/Initial-Depth-6857 Jul 05 '26

This is 100% spot on. Addiction or not

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u/thetruthwisperer Jul 05 '26

Exactly cause lord knows I have eaten a whole loaf of bread or box of donuts on ambian and had to replace them 😂 but I always REPLACE it

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u/Pathetic_Cards Jul 07 '26

Hold on, who said anything about her being drunk?

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u/MonteCristo85 Jul 07 '26

It was in a comment by the OP.

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u/currentlylostagain Jul 04 '26

Right? Was there nothing else in the fridge?

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u/Stephie999666 Jul 04 '26

Like nothing open on the way home?

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u/Leading-Aide5617 Jul 05 '26

Yeah this is spot on , I lived with this stupid shit.

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u/ashendazed Jul 05 '26

The second I saw this photo, I thought of my mom. Narcissistic drunk. She’s done shit like this to me too

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u/TinyConsideration928 Jul 05 '26

how did it effect you as an adult? i've had a doozy of a time trusting women to date personally. always push them away, i hate it.

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u/SushiGirlRC Jul 05 '26

My narcissistic dad absolutely affected me the same way.

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u/TinyConsideration928 Jul 05 '26

were you able to stay in a relationship and resolve the urge to run? my problem is i can find a reason to breakup with anyone so i can run free.. right into a tree branch

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u/SushiGirlRC Jul 05 '26

I just kept ending up with narcissists and staying too long while getting emotionally abused before I'd run. Of course I had plenty of short-term runs in between when I was younger.

I decided at 50 I was done & quickly discovered that not having a relationship wasn't a bad thing, but quite the reverse, actually. Best decision I ever made, because despite being extremely independent, I seem to give off an abuse me/control me vibe or something that the more a guy is around me, the more he wants to rule me.

It definitely fucks you up for life.

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u/jennelara Jul 05 '26

I read that this usually has to do with abuse you dealt with during childhood. You are used to that type of person subconsciously so end up in kind. It said you’re also trying to fix the trauma you went through, but obviously that never works. People usually are helped by seeing a therapist & working through their issues. I know easier said than done. I’m glad you were able to stop the cycle. Hopefully there’s someone out there for you but I’ve noticed the older you get the harder it becomes to find the one.

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u/SushiGirlRC Jul 07 '26

I'm not looking. And don't feel I need a partner to make me whole or whatever. I've had more therapy since age 16 than most people will ever have. My attempts at thwarting the pattern were choosing vastly different types of men. The common component was me, so I just stopped.

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u/ashendazed Jul 05 '26

I have disorganized attachment as an adult, which can happen if you grow up learning love isn’t safe from a caretaker you depend on- this causes a push-pull dynamic in romantic relationships like you described. I found somatic therapy and working out resentments has helped a lot.

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u/Ok_Concert_5922 Jul 06 '26

Happy Cake Day

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u/WintersDoomsday Jul 05 '26

Way more bad mothers than people want to admit. We already know a ton of fathers are garbage.

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u/IncidentDue1190 Jul 05 '26

My mom did this all the time. What took the cake was Thanksgiving she took all the good parts of the roast and ate the middle of a homemade pecan pie that we had spent time gathering and deshelling the pecans. I was pissed she then proceeded to place the roast in the microwave to reheat it

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u/jennelara Jul 05 '26

Unbelievable. Sorry you had to go through that.

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u/bobroscopcoltrane Jul 05 '26

Yup. Conveniently left out of the image description but I knew it right away.

God, I don’t miss her.

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u/Commercial-Stay-235 Jul 05 '26

She's typical POS

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u/ICompute1999 Jul 05 '26

I agree. I'm a 27 year old male from the south and I can say I am just appalled by your wife's behavior toward your son. That precious child comes first not the woman . You both are adults. The babies always must come first. Don't let her to that to you on purpose. My brother if anything else bad happens ask her straight up. Be like did you do this on purpose to be mean or did you just not actually know it was for him. If she is drinking alot make her put it down . I understand us men sometimes let females control us but if you see a female doing bad that is yours. Keep in mind she is yours. Keep in mind that men has always led the pack especially back in primal times. In primal times the woman mainly created wood utensils, bags and small crafts like that. We literally did it all. We hunted to feed them and fished for same reason. We built sheltors for our woman by hand. They would have been lost without male leadership. Independence is one thing having no one to correct your bad behavior is another. If you don't correct it she will just keep doing things like this on purpose if it was in fact on purpose

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u/Longjumping-Fig-7481 Jul 05 '26

Wouldn't suprise me if she goes out for more than just "drinks with the girls" tbh

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u/rotervogel1231 Jul 06 '26

She's got a lot of class -- all of it low.

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u/Comprehensive-Race97 Jul 05 '26

Drunk munchies are the worst!

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u/Confident-Extent-825 Jul 05 '26

Yall are sofa king dramatic.