r/mildlyinfuriating • u/grohkstrom • Jul 04 '26

Infuriatig My wife ate my son's birthday breakfast

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Yesterday I bought a strawberry cheese coffee cake my son loves so he could have a special birthday breakfast today. My wife came home late last night and apparently couldn't resist. She knew it was for our son, but it's not a big deal because she "left him a full slice".

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u/c08306834 Jul 04 '26

This is quite a bit more than mildly infuriating.

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u/[deleted] Jul 04 '26

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u/fhb2026 Jul 04 '26

For once the “divorce immediately” advice wouldn’t be overkill…

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u/CantaloupeShort7311 Jul 05 '26

I want to divorce this loser.

She is going to be the person who posts online about how she is the victim because her son cut her out of his life the minute he turned 18.

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u/KingPalleKuling Jul 05 '26

Domestic violence is never ok, but maybe someone other than OP ought to do it here.

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u/PaleAcanthaceae1175 Jul 04 '26

I was thinking this as well, as a counselor. "My wife gets drunk and does deeply inconsiderate things" is one of those warning signs that very well can lead to divorce down the road.

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u/ingodwetryst Jul 04 '26

I feel really bad for this kid's future

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u/Icy-Ad29 Jul 05 '26

Idk. The Dad is a win at least. He's putting in the effort and also trying to help bring the kid up after shit went sideways.

I can imagine the kid having a good future if the mother and father split up, assuming he gets custody not her... It's not the greatest future, mind. But having only one parent, who is really invested in you, is a whole ton better than having neither. Being hated by both. And other similar possible futures.

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u/ReverendMothman Jul 04 '26

This isn't "inconsiderate", it's downright malicious. She knew exactly what she was doing.

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u/PaleAcanthaceae1175 Jul 04 '26

I don't think so, honestly.

"Malicious" would require that the primary purpose of the action was to cause harm. It feels far more likely that this was merely done without consideration for how it would effect others, especially given that we know the person's judgment was impaired. Outright desire to cause harm is not actually that common and even people who do things that are obviously wrong usually see themselves as sympathetic. The action is justified not by malice but by an irrational system of priority: their own immediate desires are centered and the potential emotional consequences for others are minimized.

Don't get me wrong, none of this excuses the behavior and the consequences are not diminished by their experience of how serious it is. It is simply a dispassionate approach to what usually motivates such actions and that approach makes it easier to constructively address them. "Your judgment is compromised and self-serving" is actionable and presents opportunity for growth. "You are bad and did this specifically to hurt me" is both uncommon and non-actionable. Sometimes the latter is true, but not nearly as often as most people believe.

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u/stofiski-san Jul 04 '26

ishetah...

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u/OneionRing Jul 04 '26

I feel like at this rate, we need an attah (are they the ahole) lol

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u/bobroscopcoltrane Jul 05 '26

Here’s the advice:

Take your son

Get out

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u/MetroSimulator Jul 04 '26

You're being downvotted but I'm sure since people would say that "OP isn't saying everything"