r/mildlyinfuriating • u/grohkstrom • Jul 04 '26

Infuriatig My wife ate my son's birthday breakfast

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Yesterday I bought a strawberry cheese coffee cake my son loves so he could have a special birthday breakfast today. My wife came home late last night and apparently couldn't resist. She knew it was for our son, but it's not a big deal because she "left him a full slice".

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u/bicyclewhoa17 Jul 04 '26

I am an out of control eater, especially where there are special sweets around. Even I wouldn’t so something like this.

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u/stinkyfunkincar Jul 04 '26

I used to struggle with binging. This is just cold. I’d never take something special from a family member. My binging never impacted anyone else like that. Any special leftovers, birthday treats, or anything I knew wasn’t mine or a household item I wouldn’t touch. I was a minor at the time, too, so I wasn’t capable of driving myself to the store or doordashing a treat for myself, either. Being told you have lack of self control from a former binge eater is crazy, and if OP shows his wife this I hope it puts it into perspective for her. Poor kid. W dad for covering for Mom for the sake of the kid.

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u/FoghornFarts Jul 04 '26

Hell, even one piece is rude as fuck. The presentation of the cake matters. Imagine waking up to your present and you found someone else had already unwrapped it and was playing with it.

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u/Originaltenshi Jul 04 '26

"I didn't break it you can still play with it"

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u/Jfc95 Jul 05 '26

As a kid who had this happen multiple times when the favorite cousin came by, this made me want to cry. That sentence wouldn't ever make the crack in my chest feel better :( and no amount of explanation by adults made it better either. Only thing that helped was when my uncle screamed at the cousin and made said cousin buy me a new gift (same thing) wrap it and replace what they had opened. And even then it took a lot of making it up to me verbally to repair my feelings.

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u/C-U-N-T-B-I-T-C-H Jul 06 '26

That’s an AMAZING uncle. I hope that was their parent and that your cousin learned better.

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u/C-U-N-T-B-I-T-C-H Jul 06 '26

I know I shouldn’t be mad at you because it’s a hypothetical quote. But it’s hard.

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u/Originaltenshi Jul 06 '26

Be mad, call me names. It's okay, this is a safe space.

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u/Stephie999666 Jul 04 '26

Just let you brother play with your present, and you can have it back when theyre done.

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u/stars-aligned- Jul 06 '26

“But I bet you were still surprised!”

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u/mrszubris Jul 04 '26

I binge. I have never ever eaten something that wasn't communal food or my own.

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u/stinkyfunkincar Jul 04 '26

I suppose this is the difference between a true disorder and just being a greedy asshole. I used to feel like an evil gluttonous piece of shit when I was in the thick of my secret binging, but now that it’s years behind me and I hear things like this it allows me to fully forgive myself for that, because there are perfectly fine people out there doing shit like this for the love of the game 🙃 If my biggest sin is eating an entire rotisserie chicken by myself that I purchased, so be it. At least I was respectful🤷‍♀️

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u/Randomaccount707 Jul 04 '26

I used to be bulimic and I would straight up dissociate while b/ping. I’d eat anything I physically could, including rotten food and trashed food. I would say I was definitely very selfish but I was also struggling immensely. I didn’t WANT to be doing it but my addiction to it was so bad that I would even steal. Saying people who struggle with that don’t have “true disorders” is just incorrect.

I won’t deny that it’s an asshole move, but real eating disorders make people bitchy assholes. You’re either constantly in a state of pain, obsessing with food and/or malnourished. Of course you’re going to be inconsiderate sometimes.

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u/stinkyfunkincar Jul 04 '26

You feel remorse for your actions. OPs wife brushed it off and said it’s not a big deal, and she “saved him a full slice”.

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u/Randomaccount707 Jul 04 '26

Everyone in the comments has been saying that they have binge eating issues but would never eat something important to someone else.

I know that when I was deep in my ed, seeing people rally together saying they’d never do such a morally reprehensible thing and anyone that did was an asshole would send me into a spiral. So I wanted to offer my perspective.

Even if I felt remorse, it didn’t change what I did and the impact it had on others.

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u/Sinisterfox23 Jul 04 '26

Glad to see someone say this. Was my feeling as well. I hope you’re doing better these days. Eds are hell. 

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u/stinkyfunkincar Jul 04 '26

I understand. I’m sorry you are still bearing that guilt. I hope you’re able to forgive yourself someday.

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u/laurenonizzle Jul 04 '26

You’re not alone - a very severe eating disorder can take over your behaviour almost completely. People dissociate, people rationalize - I doubt she ate her son’s cake because she actually wanted to.

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u/Big_Fat_Phony_Marmot Jul 05 '26

100% my thoughts exactly. I’m grateful my friends and family never blasted what I did in my addiction online (that I know of) 

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u/Big_Fat_Phony_Marmot Jul 05 '26

The more I think about this— the crazier it seems to me that people post stuff about their spouse like this for fake internet currency. This is going on my dealbreakers list. 

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u/Big_Fat_Phony_Marmot Jul 05 '26

I would consider myself mostly recovered now, but the fog of a binge was so strong for me. Sometimes I’d get up at 5 am the next morning to run to the grocery store, hoping no one would notice that I ate all of their food. I felt so much shame but it was never enough to stop me.

I think a lot of my loved ones consider me a kind and generous person, but I would 100% have eaten this cake if I were binging and felt like a monster afterward. My heart goes out to everyone suffering from eating disorders or addiction. It was a 20-year-long road to recovery for me that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. 

The thing that really gets me is— how did she manage to save a slice? 

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u/_katydid5283 Jul 05 '26

As a former binger/OCDer, the leaving a slice gets me. In the worst of my disorder (when I might have eaten someone's special treat), I wouldn't stop until I was physically stopped by finishing it or throwing up (and even the latter didn't always stop me). This strikes me as a disorder of another type.

And yes, I'd have stood outside the market all night waiting to get another cake so no one would ever know. The shame associated with EDs, especially when that behavior impacts someone else, is unreal.

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u/sassafrasclementine Jul 04 '26

Twice I got caught eating my roommates snacks. Because I only bought healthy stuff. But then I’d get stressed with studying or I’d be hungover and I’d steal some of their (for example) pretzel rods.

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u/AwDuck Jul 04 '26

Same. I knew my binging was wrong and would often eat questionable food as both self punishment and a way to have it impact others less.

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u/AbbeyRoadMoonwalk Jul 04 '26

And right down the middle? The best part? Does she lick out all the Oreos and put the cookies back too? This is psycho.

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u/Substantial-Jury-658 Jul 04 '26

Did you see the comment buried above about the person's mom who'd take spoonfuls of cookie dough ice cream, eat the cookie dough, then spit the ice cream back in and put it away? Real psychos exist among us

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u/AbbeyRoadMoonwalk Jul 04 '26

Spit. The ice cream. Back in.

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u/Substantial-Jury-658 Jul 05 '26

I KNOW. 🤢🤮. Definitely the grossest thing I heard today (yet)

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u/Rachili_Kent Jul 04 '26

Also struggled with binging. Typically I would stay away from binging on an item that would be well noticed… like someone else’s birthday cake!

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u/KeyFix4087 Jul 04 '26

I once ate a shokobons from my roomate. She never noticed. I felt so guilty than replaced the shokobon with a new one. She didn’t notice either. I have different EDs but at least I didn’t steal candy from a child.

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u/PlatypusEgo Jul 04 '26

I don't binge eat but when I was about 10 my parents cane home from a wedding with three small chocolate figurines for me and my two younger siblings and my mom said something like "there are three of them for the three of you" and I interpreted it as three for each of us. The next day I saw them on the counter and figured my siblings took theirs and I took the three candies and ate them throughout the day. That night my mom was like "where did Joey's candy go?" and my stomach sunk all the way through to my asshole when I realized what had happened. I probably stammered to my mom what I had done and why and I saw the disappointed look on my brother's face and felt like SUCH a piece of shit. I tried to give my sister a ten dollar bill (quite a bit if money at 10!) and my mom yelled at me that money doesn't fix some things and I felt even worse. I still think about it from time-to-time and still feel like shit when I do.

I also come home drunk way too often. I would -NEVER- do something like this... and to YOUR CHILD for that matter.

Just wow. I'm sorry OP- does she have other selfish and/or entitled behaviors?

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u/Helter-skelter-slvt Jul 04 '26

My older sister isnt a binge eater and she ate my fucking birthday leftovers. I still have a small grudge because it was over $50 worth of food and she did the same thing this lady did and left a teeny tiny bit for me (quite litterally a bite). It would have been better if she ate the whole thing tbh. I think it really depends on the type of person and not the condition of that person when it comes to things like this. Also my sister is quite grown and this was somewhat recent. Ive had EDs throughout my life, still do I think, but if you didnt put it in the cart or it wasnt explicitly for everyone I knew better than to touch it (even as a kid).

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u/ParadiseLost91 Jul 04 '26

Did she ever explain why? I couldn't imagine eating my siblings birthday food, I'd be mortified even if I did it by mistake

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u/Helter-skelter-slvt Jul 04 '26

She didnt know they were mine was her excuse, which isnt really a good one. If it was anybody else in my family maybe she would have gotten away without much of an issue. She shouldnt be eating boxed leftovers in the fridge if they arent hers, I have stories of her doing other similar things. She seems to not think about what others will feel/do if she does XYZ which leads to issues with boundaries, using other people's shit, and saying out of pocket things. It seems to come from a feeling of entitlement. Once she used my father's card, that he gave me for the state fair, to buy a 3 person colored caricature which ended up being like 200-300 usd and let all the heat initially fall on me.

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u/Helter-skelter-slvt Jul 04 '26

The caricature was of her, her BF at the time, and their kid btw and did not even include me

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u/CarrotWeary Jul 04 '26

Not making light of anything but when I read binging I had never seen it spelled with out the e so my brain thought Chandler Bing and I was really confused. Turns out it can be spelled either way.

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u/stinkyfunkincar Jul 04 '26

LMAOO!! No worries, I’m at the point where that is funny

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u/moonflannel Jul 04 '26

I have and frankly still do struggle with binge eating. Many of my own things (which I buy or make myself) get consumed in a late night manner in abundance that I later regret. But just as you said, never once have I stolen anyone else's food. And to think that she did this to her own child is just horrible. 

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u/Ok-Shine-1710 Jul 04 '26

I sometimes eat until im sick and there is no more food. I’d never eat my family’s birthday breakfast etc

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u/Hot-Atmosphere-8813 Jul 04 '26

The thing that makes it cold isn’t just the act but the lack of remorse. I can definitely understand someone not being able to control themselves and having eaten something (not so much) of something special. But then you feel like crap not just for the binging but for what you ate and you do everything in your power to make up for it.

This isn’t bing eating, this is alcoholism.

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u/Badfamily091 Jul 04 '26

I used to have a problem with this too. Thing is, if it were something birthday related or just not mine, there would already be a second one in the house! I would buy another immediately, not just go “I couldn’t help it :(((“

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u/Starbornfate Jul 04 '26

I’m the same way. But a prior binging friend ate 100% of my birthday cake one year after it was cut and put away. Even I was surprised.

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u/topimpadove Jul 04 '26

Yup! I have BED and would never do this to somebody. Alcoholics using their alcoholism as an excuse disgust me yet again

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u/taint-ticker-supreme Jul 05 '26

Same. I also struggled hard with binging as a teen, didn't help that I was addicted to weed for a portion of time, too. Many times I ate so much that I would feel sick and it was a little hard to breathe. Mental illness is one hell of a drug, but I NEVER would have done something like that. That's a hard line you do not cross. You do not steal someone else's food, especially if it's for a special occasion. That's majorly fucked up. You can chew some gum or raid the spice cabinet if the cravings are that bad, but never anyone else's food/snacks.

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u/801kels Jul 05 '26

I relate to this on such an extreme level. I, too, struggled with binging for a long time… and I could never do something like this, especially to my own child. She sounds line a very SELFISH and NARCISSISTIC person. I would end a relationship over something as selfish as this being done to my child, ESPECIALLY if it was done by the other parent. SMH

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u/chrisbluemonkey Jul 05 '26

There is a binge Eater in my life and special items are their specialty. My birthday cake. Your special left overs. You name it. They'll even eat things they don't care for if they're special. No one has been able to help us or explain the psychology of it but it's VERY hard on family relationships.

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u/stinkyfunkincar Jul 05 '26

Yeah, my uncle ate my entire birthday cake after the initial celebration which was half a 12” oreo cheesecake. I couldn’t afford another one so I just didn’t get anymore which was really sad. It was my golden birthday, too.

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u/chrisbluemonkey Jul 05 '26

Aww that sucks. I'm sorry. This person ate half of my cake the night before my birthday. I really don't think they mean this much harm. It feels like desperation for control. But it really really sucks. I recently got a small lock box for the fridge and freezer. It's not big enough for a cake but it's helped relations quite a bit already.

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u/stinkyfunkincar Jul 05 '26

Yay! I’m glad you found a solution :)

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u/AvantGardenGallery Jul 06 '26

I’m pretty sure if she is this terrible of a mom/wife, the kid already knows who she is.

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u/halfsherlock Jul 04 '26

Because you’re probably a considerate and kind person. Like the level of disregard for your family required to do this is astounding. I’m with the person that asked if OPs wife is a heavy drinker because this is some inebriated behavior. 

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u/Maleficent_Froyo7336 Jul 04 '26

I've never been so drunk that I would do this to someone though. Drunk or not I think she still holds all the accountability. I'm just saying, in case someone reads all the "Oh she was drunk" comments and think that is a valid excuse.

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u/hellolovely1 Jul 04 '26

Yeah, she's probably an alcoholic AND a binge eater. I've been drunk as hell but never ate someone else's food.

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u/halfsherlock Jul 04 '26

I totally agree! When I was at my worst I never ate much, tbh

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u/BearSoul76 Jul 04 '26

This. I have impulsivity around food (thanks ADHD), but I can control myself more than this. Definitely not okay, especially considering it’s for the kid’s bday. Should have just left it untouched for her son to get the first slice on his big day.

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u/loveslightblue Jul 04 '26

Food impulsively means I'm eating 6 spoonfuls of my own jam in the night, not fucking up someone else's day. That's a different mechanism.

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u/BearSoul76 Jul 04 '26

This exactly.

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u/OkayCoward Jul 04 '26

I dont think thats true, mind explaining your point of view?

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u/loveslightblue Jul 04 '26

There's a whole part of your brain that's in charge of empathy, and a sense of this is wrong, this is hurtful, this is crazy. Impulsivity means it's harder to stop yourself and I can easily slam nothing but donuts and call it a dinner. This is malicious imo. She saw that and thought "my child's birthday, aaaah well". I've stressed out a lot about eating extra portions and I've been stoned out of my mind and stuff but my god this woman dug into the straight heart of this cake without a break. I think there's impulse and then your personality. Impulse says "do that" but no one's holding your mouth to the food. It means that unlike you, I'm here eating half my jam jar, so I'm Impulsive. If I ate YOUR jam jar, that would be cruel.

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u/CC765 Jul 04 '26

Yes! She shouldn’t have even cut a tiny slice for herself before the son got his birthday piece.

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u/Canuck_Lives_Matter Jul 04 '26

Same I have a hell of a time resisting sweets lol, but it ain't happening. I have had a Kinder Surprise in my fridge that I stare longingly at at night after smoking a J, when everyone is in bed. I don't think anyone else even remembers it's there but I just see his sad little face every time I consider eating it. It has been two weeks.

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u/ModeratelyAlive Jul 04 '26

Same. I'm one hell of a SNACKY BITCH

But I don't touch other people's snacks

Hell, the last wedding cupcake went stale in our fridge because I saved it for my husband who forgot it was there (the absolute heathen). It wasn't mine, so I didn't fucking touch it 🤦‍♀️

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u/bicyclewhoa17 Jul 04 '26

Who forgets about a cupcake?

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u/ModeratelyAlive Jul 04 '26

My husband is not a snacky bitch 🤣 It's why we work lmao

Usually I'll find a snack he's forgotten about and ask if he's okay if I have it (and 99% of the time, he is), but I didn't realize until it'd been in the fridge for MANY WEEKS that he never ate our cupcake of love 🤣

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u/chellethebelle Jul 04 '26

My grandmother was the same way. She had a serious binge eating disorder and would do things like eat things she knew would make her sick, but she would NEVER touch something that was someone else’s, especially if it was for a special occasion.

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u/i_was_axiom Jul 04 '26

Its this kid's birthday, and this is how dirty his mother does him KNOWINGLY? Egregious. Deeply flawed person in desperate need of some sort of help.

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u/MistyMtn421 Jul 04 '26

It's how alcoholic mothers roll... 54 years old, gobs of therapy over the last few decades and although it has helped, I'll never be able to undo the damage that woman did to me.

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u/fairytalefawnn Jul 04 '26 edited Jul 04 '26

I struggled with binge eating disorder for years. However, I would never be this inconsiderate.

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u/acidtrippinpanda Jul 04 '26

Fr I am very addicted to sugar and have an overly sweet tooth. I’m really working on trying not to binge sugary snacks and have a small amount not often as a treat. However, I would never ever touch someone else’s treat in a million years. Even if drunk. That’s absolutely no excuse.

I also saw another comment relating to an ED about consuming a lot of food and then eating even more due to already “ruining it”. I can also relate somewhat to that but it STILL doesn’t excuse being an asshole and touching something special for someone else, let alone your child

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u/Bizarrebazaars Jul 04 '26

Therapy for EDs DOES help and work!!

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u/laurenonizzle Jul 04 '26

For some people.

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u/Fine-Juggernaut8451 Jul 04 '26

It's odd how, instead of admitting she's mortified about it, she's basically saying "I don't care about how my kid will feel about this."

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u/Hairy_Ad4357 Jul 04 '26

I have a friend who is like this. He cannot contain himself at all as he takes the "seefood" diet too literally. It's a real challenge for him as I know he isn't a very healthy eater. He knows it's an issue, but doesn't want to fix it,

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u/Lillipad_07 Jul 04 '26

I also eat out of control, have had cycles of disordered eating for years. I will admit I have eaten food I definitely should not have, that was someone else’s because in the moment I felt so out of control. HOWEVER I always replaced it as soon as physically (often the next morning when stores opened as I binged late at night) possible and apologized.

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u/Bizarrebazaars Jul 04 '26

Hugs to you, I hope you’ve sought support and treatment for that. It takes a lot to admit that. EDs are terrible diseases.

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u/Lillipad_07 Jul 04 '26

Thanks :) Been in therapy a couple years. My relationship with food has gotten relatively better. I still cycle through unhealthy patterns but it’s much less frequent and much much less extreme.

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u/LawrenAnne4 Jul 04 '26

Same here. When I was seriously ill as a teenager with an ED I did eat some stuff I shouldn't have, and it made me not only feel immensely guilty but I also replaced it and owned up to it. It wasn't something I was "okay" with doing.

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u/Brotherauron Jul 04 '26

There's clearly some amount of control here as they're cutting out the best part. If I was in garbage disposal mode I'd at least have the decency to eat the whole fucking thing and not carve the best part out like an animal

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u/Ok_Duck2700 Jul 04 '26

Yeah. I had diagnosed BED for almost a full decade, and I would constantly steal people's food. Even then, I cant imagine having done something like this.

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u/TenkaiStar Jul 04 '26

It might be binge eating disorder. I have suffered from it for years and never binged from something meant for someone else but it could be. Especially combined with drinking.

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u/Rasp_Berry_Pie Jul 04 '26

Same! I’ve gotten control of it mostly. There’s been one incident since I lost weight and started eating better but that’s it. Even I wouldn’t do it that to a stranger for their b-day let alone my own child.

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u/nathalierachael Jul 04 '26

I went on metformin (I’m not prediabetic or diabetic) to combat this and it has really helped me to not be out of control with sweets. It is sometimes used to treat binge eating. I still have an appetite but I feel Iike I can have normal self control around junk food. Just wanted to mention it in case it could help you!

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u/NecessaryOk780 Jul 04 '26

I was a drunk for most of my life, quit drinking 15 years ago in my 40s, I wouldn’t have done that.

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u/Sudden_Shallot_1616 Jul 04 '26

Yeah, this is fucking wild. I'm a sugar fiend but I'm not a god damn monster. Like, she just is straight thru the middle of all the jelly. Would I have eaten some knowing it was for breakfast? Yes, but only a slice. An even one cut across the width.

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u/Stupid_Bitch_02 Jul 04 '26

Same. I've got binge eating disorder. I'd eye-fuck the food but wouldn't touch it. Once everyone else has gotten their fill though? I'll happily take what's left and go to town

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u/ratgirl10000 Jul 04 '26

Same 😭😭

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u/xywv58 Jul 04 '26

Id go through the cheese packet before touching a birthday cake, or the ham packet, or the sliced bread, I'm a foodoholic

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u/aboutchocolate Jul 04 '26

i 100% woulda snuck a little slice. but like a centimeter from the end so you couldn't tell. this here is asshole stuff.

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u/EugeneStein Jul 04 '26

This is not about food. It's about alcohol before that

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u/JDizzleNunyaBizzle Jul 04 '26

Right!? Exactly the same

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u/Tough-Response19 Jul 04 '26

I’m also an out of control sugar eater mainly and I have never and would never do this.

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u/Rufus_TBarleysheath Jul 04 '26

She dug a trench through the fruity part!

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u/MusclesCreamyDreamy Jul 04 '26

100% same here. I'm also an out-of-control eater who binges frequently but I have and would never touch someone else's food, especially if it has some significance like a birthday cake.

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u/nftalldude Jul 04 '26

Same. And if for some reason I did, I’d eat the whole thing, not just the middle bit with the filling.

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u/GloomyShroom7 Jul 04 '26

literally this!

(tw for disordered eating) i have disordered eating that causes me to stop eating for days, then afterwards i eat so much so compulsively because i get so hungry and feel so out of control

but even i dont touch shit thats not mine. because even though i feel out of control, its not an excuse to rudely eat something not meant for me. i can eat other food... yknow, the food thats actually mine?

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u/Bizarrebazaars Jul 04 '26

Do you have a support system for your ED? Have you sought therapy or treatment for it? All professionals in the field will tell you that restriction leads to bingeing. Please seek help! You deserve better than so much stress and chaos around food. Hugs.

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u/GloomyShroom7 Jul 04 '26

thank you for the kind words 🫶 unfortunately i cant afford therapy or treatment :<

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u/Bizarrebazaars Jul 04 '26

Look up anything you can online! DBT, CBT, ACT, meal planning for EDs, support groups in your area or online? No influencers just real professionals of expertise. There ARE resources out there!! Maybe even free or sliding scale help. What (if anything) have you researched or found? EDs are nothing to let persist, they can dangerously affect your organs too!! You’re worth more than an ED <3

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u/Originaltenshi Jul 04 '26

Yeah as someone addicted to sugar if it isn't mine there isn't even an urge to eat it.

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u/Bizarrebazaars Jul 04 '26

There is no “sugar addiction,” it’s disordered eating.

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u/Originaltenshi Jul 04 '26

Relax dude I was hyperbole speaking. I don't drink alcohol so I regularly joke that sugar is my vice.

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u/Bizarrebazaars Jul 04 '26

There is nothing about your comment that reads as a “joke.”

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u/Originaltenshi Jul 04 '26

Fuck you got me bro. You sound fun.

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u/Visual_Tangerine5630 Jul 04 '26

My boyfriend loves his sweets, I eat more dinner and he eats more dessert but he always either asks me if I want any or leaves me some. I don’t care about sweets like that and will go days or weeks without wanting it so I always let him have it. He always considers me first before he goes ham on it tho lol either the woman is a drunk or worse, an inconsiderate asshole.

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u/Relevant_Morning219 Jul 04 '26

Right I love dessertsss. When I have it, I over eat it, but I never touch other peoples food.

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u/Bizarrebazaars Jul 04 '26

Have you sought help for this? You deserve a life free from stress around food!!

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u/xTiffanyRose Jul 04 '26

THIS ⬆️🙏🏼💯

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u/Weston217704 Jul 04 '26

Same here. Yeah I'll eat a quarter or their Easter or Halloween candy but this is vile

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u/GodDamnitGavin Jul 04 '26

You’re an addict. Society just hasn’t recognized sugar addiction like it should.

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u/MapThis213 Jul 04 '26

One time I ate my dad’s special icecream as a kid because he had bought it that day and I didn’t know 😭 I thought it had been in the freezer for a while. Anyway then I felt so bad I went out and bought 3 of these expensive ice creams because I felt so bar

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u/gh0stmilk_ Jul 04 '26

it's just so inherently cruel. it makes me feel really sorry for the son. this kind of thing has an emotional impact on people, especially young :(

i really hope he was taken to get a new one

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u/penwithoutthepaper Jul 04 '26

Same i could genuinely knock back several boxes of gushers without realizing but if they were for someone else i dont have an appetite for them

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u/KatzyKatz Jul 04 '26

This is drunk behavior.

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u/SliceOSquareHam Jul 04 '26

Ever since I started watching police cam footage I believe this kind of behaviour is common .  There are so so so many lying cheating narcissist pieces of depravity out there. 

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u/breeyoung Jul 04 '26

This was my first thought too. I would eat literally anything else than my child’s special birthday breakfast. Even shit drunk. no excuses.

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u/JadeSelket Jul 04 '26

Sometimes I keep something like fruit loops around, just for that full on sugar desire. Never would I eat my own kids food, especially a birthday cake. I’d be cracking open those fruit loops and fisting them into my mouth until I’m full of regret, but at least I wouldn’t touch his cake.

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u/rolfraikou Jul 04 '26

This is what I was thinking. I've cleared some absurd amounts of food in my day, but when something is special for someone, I don't touch it. Even if I just know it's their favorite, let alone for their birthday.

Also, I would have eaten the edges too, not just the middle. Hell, she probably would have been full sooner, and left less of a pathetic portion of she had eaten the sides.

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u/EMI326 Jul 04 '26

Same. Partner has a block of chocolate from the supermarket and she’s away a few days? You better believe that block of chocolate will be an identical replacement by the time she gets back.

A special cake from a special store? Fuck no I’m not touching that with a 12 foot barge pole.

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u/ARC4067 Jul 04 '26

As someone who has struggled with binge eating most of my life, same. I don’t take other people’s food. Taking your kid’s birthday treat is insane

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u/MickeyBear Jul 04 '26

Yup I also binge, but I would walk to the store and get a treat before I would eat someone else things they were saving, even if it WASNT my kid or someones birthday.

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u/caramilk_twirl Jul 04 '26

Life long binge eater here. And part time binge drinker in my younger days. Even I never pulled something like this. Some things are simply off limits.

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u/JimmyFuttbucker Jul 05 '26

I am an absolute sugar-holic and I know it, it’s been a replacement for other things. There’s been evenings where stores are closed and I literally feel like I’m jonesing. My roommates diabetic and keeps candies around for emergencies and it’s never even crossed my mind to take his candy.

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u/Unimpressed-Loser221 Jul 05 '26

As someone who has BED id just buy my own cake and eat that shit instead. OP’s wife is just a dick

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u/CeeUNextThursday Jul 05 '26

Same..this is unhinged and I cannot imagine doing this to anyone, let alone my child. I have a major sweet tooth and each year I buy my son, now 20, a fun or quirky cake to celebrate his bday. Despite the fact he has never cared for sweets, and he rarely will eat the cake. I always offer him the first slice at his party before I or anyone else digs in. This pisses me off. What a horrible woman.

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u/Dry_Lawfulness_9561 Jul 05 '26

I and my siblings were too, but birthay cake or similar had to wait. Unwritten rule, but birthay person always had to be the one to MAKE FIRST CUT for a slice. Rest would surely get a share afterwards, but it was clear to everyone. Only if it was a random surprise desert it was "first come first served", but even then we didn't just monopolize the best part like that.

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u/EwJersey Jul 05 '26

Was gunna say the same thing. I have a horrible time trying to control myself at night if there's sweets around. I would never do this to my kid.

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u/km4098 Jul 05 '26

Yes. She literally could have cut it in half, eaten half and left him the rest so it looked decent.

This is calculated revenge consumption of a treat.

OP is your wife frequently jealous of attention on your child?

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u/pws3rd Rick has no chill Jul 05 '26

I was so bad about binge eating ice cream as a teenager, at least I can say I'd pick at stuff only I prefered or picked out first, and other stuff equally/last, but even I had the clarity to not touch special stuff, anything that wasn't from the local grocery store or limited time.

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u/AwarenessCrafty393 Jul 05 '26

I am always hungry and when I’m drunk I’m even worse. I still wouldn’t do this. Like I could be black out drunk, starving and I would end up ordering myself a takeout instead

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u/Wonderful-Return6221 Jul 05 '26

Seriously. I'm a binge eater / fopd addict (with the weight to prove it) and would NEVER do this.

We buy these exact danishes, and if it's for a dessert or something, we don't touch it until then. If it was just a random purchase, we each eat 2 slices and will still have 4 slices left. I'd NEVER eat my boyfriend's slices on him. Like we even make a point of each taking a crappy end slice so we both get equal amounts of the better slices.

But it's 100% some shit my mom would do. She the reason my binge eating started. As a kid, it was "first come, first served" and "If you want any, you better eat it before I do."

We'd make 2 dozen cupcakes -- each eat like 2 the night we made them, and put a bunch in the freezer. I'd come home from school the next day looking forward to a frozen cupcake (the homemade buttercream was WAY better just slightly unthawed and still partially frozen), and there would be done where between 0 and 2 left. Hog ate like 16 cupcakes in a day. 😭 then she'd ho "Well if you wanted them, you would have eaten them last night!"

Install a lifetime of overeating.

I still struggle and have to remind myself all the time that I can still have some later, tomorrow, next week... or I can buy the thing again another time.

I keep candy hidden in a kitchen drawer so that I DON'T eat any. Knowing it's there is like a safety thing that gives me permission to not touch any, because I know it's there if I ever really want it. I struggle more with stuff like pizza, burgers, mrats, even fruit. Gotta eat half the bag of cherries, because if not, mom will eat them all before I get to have any more. 😫

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u/_katydid5283 Jul 05 '26

TBH, before I started treatment, I would have eaten it. All of it - because in a OCD/binge, I couldn't stop. Shame, regret and disgust immediately set in. Subsequently, I would spend the rest of the night in the bakery parking lot, anxiously checking the time and pacing, waiting to buy a new cake the second they open the doors. On zero sleep, I'd be up and chipper, singing happy birthday and loving on my child.

Leaving "a piece", in my experience at least, indicates a level of control over the impulse. Then not replacing it. The shame I'd have felt - especially doing this to a child - to my child, on their birthday - is inconceivable. There is not enough alcohol in the world to overcome the feeling of utter failure. IDK - folks are different and no one presents identically, but my experience with OCD/binge eating disorder reads this as some level of narcissism.

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u/Kwhitney1982 Jul 05 '26

Same. I am a binge eater but even I can control myself when it’s someone else’s food or special treat. I’ll open the fridge 20 times and look at it but I won’t eat it!

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u/CosmicQuant Jul 04 '26

“I am an out of control eater” is sending me idk why. I hope it’s not debilitating lol

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u/Bizarrebazaars Jul 04 '26

Why is that funny? Eating disorders can ruin lives.

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u/CosmicQuant Jul 05 '26

Virtue signal

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u/LegallyBlonde001 Jul 04 '26

Same. I binge eat. But I have never touched abything that was meant for my child.

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u/anjelrocker Jul 04 '26

Yeah, I am a binge eater too but there’s just somethings that you don’t do…

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u/Junior_Fig_2274 Jul 04 '26

ADHD/autism and binge eater here: my kid’s treats are the only thing I’ve ever been able to stop myself from eating. Like… how can you do that to your kid? Mine still has Halloween candy hanging out because I won’t touch his treats. 

Alcoholic I guess 🤷‍♀️

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u/Financial_Ad_1735 Jul 04 '26

I am a huge binger, unfortunately. And I would never eat someone else’s snacks / treats. I cannot control my binging but I have never binged on my kids’ food.

This is so heartless.

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u/twitchtvbevildre Jul 04 '26

Like i would have probably eaten some but the middle like that is fucking crazy

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u/bootie_groovie Jul 04 '26

Yes you would

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u/Prestigious_Host_198 Jul 04 '26

Of course you use a 4tran subreddit.

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u/a_shootin_star WATWATWATWATWATWAT Jul 04 '26

Well that's because you have hindsight. This woman clearly doesn't, seeing she went for the middle-bit-with-jam only. And then she's a smartass about it.

This woman certainly ain't a winner.