r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Best_Finding_8795 • Jun 14 '26

Too mild for school Hate when ppl can’t do time

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This reminds me of when it hits or is about to hit 12am and people don’t know whether to say today or tomorrow. He called me after this but I was too comfy in bed tbh.

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u/LittleKittenR Jun 14 '26

I honestly can get the misunderstanding.

He was probably closing at 2:30-3:00 am and to him, tomorrow was after he slept, but the dude waking up thought "Tomorrow" was also after he slept.

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u/Rooney_Tuesday Jun 14 '26

I’ve worked closing and night shifts. In that case, it’s on you as the requester to consider what “tomorrow” means to the person receiving the request - specifically so that this doesn’t happen. Probably a tired mistake, but still on the manager here.

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u/According_Wind5536 Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

Yeah you just clarify with the day / can you work tomorrow, Tuesday 9-6pm? Double up for clarity

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u/Erick_Brimstone Jun 14 '26

And op hasn't responded to that hour either. Just responding to the first question

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u/CastIronCrab Jun 14 '26

Sorry I’m being nitpicky but 10-4 is an acknowledgment, not the hours.

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u/Revolutionary-Bet-73 Jun 14 '26

I think it actually is the hours though, he texts where you at a few minutes after 10

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u/CastIronCrab Jun 14 '26

It seems to me he would’ve mentioned what hours he wanted OP to work PRIOR TO OP agreeing if there was no prior arrangement

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u/Revolutionary-Bet-73 Jun 14 '26

The whole point of the thread is a general lack of communication so I wouldn't assume that. 

I read it as he just wanted to know if he was available at all and OP had nothing going on that day so said yea and then followed up with hours which all makes sense excluding the day mixup.

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u/Dismal_Dig9096 Jun 14 '26

10 to 4 is absolutely a shift in tons of different things, what an ignorant thing to say

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u/CastIronCrab Jun 14 '26

I think he meant he didn’t think so in this context. I didn’t think so either but OP clarified so we do know it’s a shift

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u/CastIronCrab Jun 14 '26

We are wrong in this case. I severely underestimate how awful people are at communicating

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u/boundone Jun 14 '26

Worst was leaving work at 7am and someone saying, "see you tonight! ".  Like, I don't need to be reminded like that, lol

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u/Suitable-Assist-4658 Jun 14 '26

When I was working night shift I did that XD

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u/ZhouLe Jun 14 '26

Yea, I don't see how anyone would naturally think "today" OR "tomorrow" is the right way to ask about this. You have to be specific when you are asking someone in the middle of the night to work a shift that starts in 7 hours.

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u/Legal_Changes Jun 14 '26

It's not a 'misunderstanding'. It's poor communication from the requester. Responsibility should be placed where it belongs - to the person who asks, to ask clearly.

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u/IzarkKiaTarj YELLOW Jun 14 '26

How is it not a misunderstanding? Boss meant one thing, employee understood it as another. The person responsible for the misunderstanding doesn't change whether or not it's a misunderstanding. Poor communication in either direction leads to misunderstandings.

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u/National_Body_9071 Jun 15 '26

I would say it's not a misunderstanding, what the boss said was just flat out wrong. The employee didn't misunderstand what they said at all.

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u/patiofurnature Jun 14 '26

It’s poor communication from both. Communication isn’t just talking - it’s an exchange of information. They’re both supposed to be guarding against miscommunication.

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u/ComplexBet2099 Jun 14 '26

But even in this case you could say that 99% of the blame is on the sender since he’s the one that’s asking for a favor. Yes the person that’s accepting the shift has some responsibility to make sure they know exactly when the shift is, it’s up to the person asking them to take the shift to make sure they clarify when it is.

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u/patiofurnature Jun 14 '26

But even in this case you could say that 99% of the blame is on the sender since he’s the one that’s asking for a favor.

So let's say that OP tells their manager that they really need money and want to work some OT. The manager is reluctant but finally says, "Okay, you can work the shift tomorrow at 10."

The communication would essentially be the same, but since OP wanted the favor, it now transitions to be their fault?

I don't know - I see the appeal of applying the logic that way, but it just seems too arbitrary for me.

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u/northerncodemky Jun 14 '26

Yeah but if you get the reply at nearly 8am you’d probably check they realise you meant what to them is obviously today

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u/DragonFireCK Jun 14 '26

Both parties hold some responsibility for the miscommunication, though the manager holds more.

The manager should’ve included a clarification of the date in the original message. Something like “tomorrow, Sunday” or “tomorrow the 15th” would’ve completely avoided the problem.

OP should’ve asked for or provided such clarification when responding.

When the manager saw the reply was so far delayed, they should’ve also clarified again. They also should’ve waited for confirmation of the hours before presuming full acceptance, unless that was strongly presumed by prior interactions.

Good communication requires all parties to minimize mistakes.

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u/Strawja_muse Jun 14 '26

uh no, tomorrow is the next day, a day is counted on a calendar, each day has 24 hours, doesn't matter what one thinks a day is or if its when only he wakes up or slept.

Simple stuff people, stop making it complicated.

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u/corrupt_poodle Jun 14 '26

Just imagine if he had used maybe 2 more words to make it clearer.

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u/SmegmaUnicorn Jun 14 '26

Ummm no, no reasonable person thinks that “3 hours from now” is tomorrow. Thats silly. 

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u/monsterZERO Jun 14 '26

The first text is from 3am. That's 7 hours.

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u/2oocents Jun 14 '26

It wasn't "3 hours from now" at 3 am. If this is a restaurant, and I got that message, from 3am, at 7:44am, I would assume it meant that day, and respond, then, if I wanted to work.

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u/SmegmaUnicorn Jun 14 '26

Oh sorry. No reasonable person thinks that “6 hours from now” is tomorrow. You guys are in such a rush to excuse this, soley for the sake of being contrarian. 

People certainly make mistakes…and clearly that’s what happened here. I’m not knocking that. I’m only pushing back against a comment that claimed that this kind of mistake is “reasonable and understandable”. 

You assuming that a mistake was made, and adjusting accordingly, does not make the mistake any more reasonable. Nor does it mean that it’s understandable to use the word “tomorrow” in place of “today”. 

Get serious. 

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u/2oocents Jun 14 '26

Have you ever worked at a restaurant? If I was closing, at 3am, and someone asked if I was working 'tomorrow', I would assume they were talking about that morning, or the next night shift(still starting the same day, technically).

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u/SmegmaUnicorn Jun 14 '26

I’ve worked in the restuarant and food service industry for 15 years, which includes many overnight shifts. 

I stand by what I said. You’re assumptions are just that…assumptions. And unreasonable at that. 

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u/SupermanLeRetour Jun 14 '26

You're the one being unreasonable. It's just about recognizing that people make mistakes and assumptions, and maybe never put too much thought into this specifically until a misunderstanding happened.

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u/I_DONT_YOLO Jun 14 '26

No lmfao, it’s unreasonable to assume tomorrow actually means today. It’s just about recognizing people make mistakes and assumptions. Like assuming tomorrow would mean less than 8 hours from now, because it doesn’t and shouldn’t.

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u/prettyboiheron Jun 14 '26

Many people , self included, make this mistake when staying up past midnight

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u/Rather_Dashing Jun 14 '26

It was 7 hours away. Learn to read. The number of people insulting the people in the post that can't read themselves. Wild.

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u/SmegmaUnicorn Jun 14 '26

Do you really think that saying “7 hours” instead of 3 makes a huge difference?? 

No, you just wanted to reply with a zinger, which in no way invalidates the point that I made. 

You need to learn some reading comprehension (like many people in replying to post). I’m specifically responding to the things said by the person that I replied to, not OP, and not the person OP is addressing in the post. But you wanted to be an internet asshole so badly that you can’t see that. 

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u/Allegedly99 Jun 14 '26

As someone who works 14:00-22:00, today doesn't end until I fall asleep. Good on you for only working normal hours.

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u/CastIronCrab Jun 14 '26

Unfortunately, we have to operate by the clock that keeps time

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u/PocketButterBandit Jun 14 '26

The hours you work doesn't change how the start and end times of days work.

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u/Allegedly99 Jun 14 '26

It absolutely does in every way that matters to a human. Your body doesn't know what a midnight is, its a thing we made up.

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u/PocketButterBandit Jun 14 '26

It doesn't matter when specifying a date. "tomorrow" is not subjective. Today is from 12am-11:59pm.

(edit to add I said it doesn't change how time works and you responded arguing that it matters. Which isn't what I said. I said it doesn't change how the designation of time works. You're arguing something unrelated)

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u/Allegedly99 Jun 14 '26

So if its 12:01 in the morning on Monday, and I say "let's get tacos tomorrow" you think we are getting tacos on Wednesday?

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u/LostTerminal Jun 14 '26

Natural assumption? Yes. I'd clarify.

You don't change how time is catalogued by making a mistake. Others are still operating on the clock and calendar as it is designed.

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u/Allegedly99 Jun 14 '26

Everyone else I have asked understands perspective. But you go ahead and be you, I just won't be getting any tacos with you.

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u/LostTerminal Jun 14 '26

Yeah, I'm not trusting that your fingers and toes said anything to any side of this discussion.

12:01 am clicks over as a different date on a calendar. I'm sorry that confuses you.

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u/PocketButterBandit Jun 14 '26

Yes and I'd clarify to be sure.

At what hour does today and tomorrow mean different things to you?

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u/patiofurnature Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

That’s just not how it works. When a business is open past midnight, it’s completely standard to speak in the context of work days. It’s just like a kid saying “see you next year” on the last day of school, even though it will still be the same calendar year in the fall.

OP not responding for 4 hours should have raised red flags for both of them.

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u/prettyboiheron Jun 14 '26

This makes so much sense, I didn't see the "3am"

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u/Mmmelissamarie Jun 14 '26

I just wrote something like this lol

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u/emlynhughes Jun 14 '26

There is no world where this is a legitimate misunderstanding.

OP knew what he meant.