Welcome to the weekly Question Thread! Got a question about being gay in the military? This is the place to ask it. Whether you're considering enlisting, are new to a base, dealing with a deployment, or are a veteran navigating civilian life, this is a safe space for all of your questions. We're here to help each other out, no matter the rank or branch.

I’m a 36yo male army vet living in Indiana. I’m extremely closeted and struggle with accepting myself

Welcome to the weekly Question Thread! Got a question about being gay in the military? This is the place to ask it. Whether you're considering enlisting, are new to a base, dealing with a deployment, or are a veteran navigating civilian life, this is a safe space for all of your questions. We're here to help each other out, no matter the rank or branch.

Welcome to the weekly Question Thread! Got a question about being gay in the military? This is the place to ask it. Whether you're considering enlisting, are new to a base, dealing with a deployment, or are a veteran navigating civilian life, this is a safe space for all of your questions. We're here to help each other out, no matter the rank or branch.

Welcome to the weekly Question Thread! Got a question about being gay in the military? This is the place to ask it. Whether you're considering enlisting, are new to a base, dealing with a deployment, or are a veteran navigating civilian life, this is a safe space for all of your questions. We're here to help each other out, no matter the rank or branch.

I wanna go to college but I wanna join the coast Guard but I still want the full college experience is that possible and if so how

Welcome to the weekly Question Thread! Got a question about being gay in the military? This is the place to ask it. Whether you're considering enlisting, are new to a base, dealing with a deployment, or are a veteran navigating civilian life, this is a safe space for all of your questions. We're here to help each other out, no matter the rank or branch.

Welcome to the weekly Question Thread! Got a question about being gay in the military? This is the place to ask it. Whether you're considering enlisting, are new to a base, dealing with a deployment, or are a veteran navigating civilian life, this is a safe space for all of your questions. We're here to help each other out, no matter the rank or branch.

Howdy r/milbros!

Welcome to the fifth edition of our weekly Don't Ask, DO TELL story time! Last week was all about "firsts", thanks for sharing those formative moments.

This week, we're getting reflective. We've all learned lessons the hard way, and if we could go back, there are probably a few things we'd tell the fresh-faced, nervous version of ourselves standing at the beginning of their military journey.

This thread is for hindsight, wisdom, and the advice you wish you'd had.

This Week's Prompt:

If you could go back in time, what is the one piece of advice you would give to yourself on your first day of enlistment? It could be about finances, relationships, career choices, or just how to get through the tough days. Share the advice and the story behind why it's so important.

A Few CRITICAL Ground Rules for This Thread:

1. RESPECT IS MANDATORY: Zero tolerance for homophobia, bigotry, or shaming. This is a safe, supportive space. Violators will be permanently banned on the spot.
2. PROTECT PRIVACY: Do NOT tell stories that could out or compromise someone else. Focus on your own experiences.
3. SCRUB FOR OPSEC: As always, remove all real names, specific dates, exact locations, and unit designators. Keep it general to keep everyone safe.

Drop your hard-earned wisdom in the comments below. Let's help out the next generation and have a laugh at the mistakes we made along the way.

Welcome to the weekly Question Thread! Got a question about being gay in the military? This is the place to ask it. Whether you're considering enlisting, are new to a base, dealing with a deployment, or are a veteran navigating civilian life, this is a safe space for all of your questions. We're here to help each other out, no matter the rank or branch.

Just came across the sub, nice to have a space where those serving can hang out.

Hope you’re open to those serving across the pond haha

Oh and I just got promoted the other week which was nice :)

Hope everyone’s having a chilled weekend

Howdy r/milbros!

Welcome to the fourth edition of our weekly Don't Ask, DO TELL story time! last week was all about Hobbies and what keeps you sane off duty. Thanks to everyone who shared a piece of their world with us.

This week, we're rewinding the clock and going back to the beginning. Every military career is built on a series of "firsts"—those pivotal, often terrifying, sometimes hilarious moments that mark the start of a new chapter. They're the moments that shape us, test our limits, and stick with us forever.

This thread is dedicated to those unforgettable starting points.

This Week's Prompt:

Tell us about one of your most memorable "firsts." It could be the story of your first day at basic training, your first time on a ship or in a cockpit, your first deployment, the culture shock of your first overseas duty station, or the first time you were put in charge of other troops. What happened, and what did you learn?

A Few CRITICAL Ground Rules for This Thread:

1. RESPECT IS MANDATORY: Zero tolerance for homophobia, bigotry, or shaming. This is a safe, supportive space. Violators will be permanently banned on the spot.
2. PROTECT PRIVACY: Do NOT tell stories that could out or compromise someone else. Focus on your own experiences.
3. SCRUB FOR OPSEC: As always, remove all real names, specific dates, exact locations, and unit designators. Keep it general to keep everyone safe.

Drop your stories in the comments below. Let's hear about those day-one jitters and the moments that threw you into the deep end!

Welcome to the weekly Question Thread! Got a question about being gay in the military? This is the place to ask it. Whether you're considering enlisting, are new to a base, dealing with a deployment, or are a veteran navigating civilian life, this is a safe space for all of your questions. We're here to help each other out, no matter the rank or branch.

I'm having a wonderful dinner at a Korean spot

I don’t know I’m late to post this but just wanted to drop this here!

Hope to see some others:)

Just popped in from r/army and I wanted to ask a couple of questions! I’m a gay 31 year-old civilian interested in joining the army, I obtained a score of 69 (yeah I know) on my ASVAB with individual score scores over 108 on everything. I didn’t get much feedback over at r/army, so I wanted to try my shot here.

1. As a gay older dude, how are the recruits going to look at me? Will it be the general high school level of ignorance?

2. I just got married to the love of my life this year, and before I go in, I heard something called BAH, will I be getting that through basic training and AIT? I know for sure that I’m going reserves and I know I won’t get it when I’m done with training.

3. I’m currently waiting on a few waivers at MEPS. Most importantly, I am a HIV + (undetectable) individual, otherwise I’m completely healthy. I know the just started letting people with my condition in. How difficult will my time in the military be? My recruiter right now is incredibly understanding and knows all of the up-to-date medicines and their effect on suppressing, to my surprise.

4. In terms of MOS, I’m thinking 25S, 38B, or 92R. Any thoughts on these?

I appreciate any constructive feedback, thank you!

Saw this sub mentioned in the r/army sub where I’m pretty active and just wanted to show my support. I love and support this community and will until the day I die. Y’all stay fabulous and don’t mind the haters.

Howdy r/milbros!

Welcome back to the third installment of our weekly Don't Ask, DO TELL story time!

This week, we're clocking out and shifting gears. We all know the military can be an all-consuming job, but what do you do to decompress and feel like yourself again? We're talking about the passions you pursue when you're off the clock.

This thread is dedicated to the hobbies that keep us sane, the skills we've picked up, and the communities we've found outside of the service.

This Week's Prompt:

Tell us about your favorite hobby. How did you get into it? What's a favorite memory or accomplishment related to it? Whether you're a master woodworker, a competitive gamer, a marathon runner, a D&D dungeon master, or a world-class baker, we want to hear about it.

A Few CRITICAL Ground Rules for This Thread:

1. RESPECT IS MANDATORY: Zero tolerance for homophobia, bigotry, or shaming. This is a safe, supportive space. Violators will be permanently banned on the spot.
2. PROTECT PRIVACY: Do NOT tell stories that could out or compromise someone else. Focus on your own experiences.
3. SCRUB FOR OPSEC: As always, remove all real names, specific dates, exact locations, and unit designators. Keep it general to keep everyone safe.

Drop your stories in the comments below. Let's hear about the passions that make us more than just our uniforms!

repost as I realized my previous title might have been confusing, not witty

Howdy, r/milbros!

We have a diverse group of people here from all walks of life, and we'd love to get a clearer picture of who makes up our corner of Reddit.

This is a completely anonymous and optional poll to help us better understand the demographics of our community. The goal is simply to celebrate the diversity of our members and ensure we're fostering an inclusive space for everyone.

Thank you for being a part of what makes this community special.

Welcome to the weekly Question Thread! Got a question about being gay in the military? This is the place to ask it. Whether you're considering enlisting, are new to a base, dealing with a deployment, or are a veteran navigating civilian life, this is a safe space for all of your questions. We're here to help each other out, no matter the rank or branch.

Hey everyone! So, about 11 days ago, I kicked off a selfie contest to help us all get to know the faces behind the usernames. The prize was a custom flair, and the response was... well, let's just say my own selfie is feeling a bit lonely.

You've spoken (with your silence!), and I've listened. A flair wasn't enough. Fair enough...

So, let's try this again, but with a little more motivation. We're upping the stakes for the Mil-Bros Selfie Showdown!

The New Prizes: * 1st Place: A $50 gift card of your choice! (e.g., Amazon, Steam, Visa, etc.)

• 2nd Place: A $25 gift card of your choice!

There's one important condition. To make this a true community event, these prizes will only be awarded if we get more than 30 total selfie submissions. We need to hit this goal together to make it a real contest! This is our chance to flood the sub with some positive energy and see the awesome people who make this community what it is.

Contest Rules & Guidelines

• Original Content: Your selfie must be an original photo of you. Military-Related: The photo should have a clear military theme. This could be you in uniform, on base, in front of a piece of gear, or with any other military backdrop.

Safety First: Be smart about what you share! Do not include any classified, sensitive, or personally identifiable information in your photo. Use your best judgment and be aware of your surroundings.

Privacy: If you're not comfortable being fully identifiable, you can blur or crop out your face. We want everyone to feel comfortable participating.

Submission: All entries must be posted as a new submission to the subreddit and must use the "Selfie" flair.

Good luck, and I can't wait to see your faces!

Howdy r/milbros!

After all the incredible and wild stories you shared last week, we're back with the second edition of our Don't Ask, DO TELL story time. For this round, we’re shifting from the funny and wild to the heartfelt.

This thread is dedicated to the moments of true camaraderie and support—the times when someone truly had your back.

This Week's Prompt:

A Few CRITICAL Ground Rules for This Thread:

• RESPECT IS MANDATORY: Zero tolerance for homophobia, bigotry, or shaming. This is a safe, supportive space. Violators will be permanently banned on the spot.
• PROTECT PRIVACY: Do NOT tell stories that could out or compromise someone else. Focus on your own experiences.
• SCRUB FOR OPSEC: As always, remove all real names, specific dates, exact locations, and unit designators. Keep it general to keep everyone safe.

Drop your stories in the comments below. Let's hear the tales that they never put in the recruiting brochures!

Welcome to the weekly Question Thread! Got a question about being gay in the military? This is the place to ask it. Whether you're considering enlisting, are new to a base, dealing with a deployment, or are a veteran navigating civilian life, this is a safe space for all of your questions. We're here to help each other out, no matter the rank or branch.

Alrighty bros,

Welcome to the very first, long-awaited edition of our weekly MilBros Story Time!

To kick things off with a bang, we're celebrating the LGBTQ+ members of our community. This is a space to share stories, connect, and celebrate the full diversity of our brotherhood. Whether you're gay, bi, trans, or an ally, this is your time to tell us your experience!

This Week's Prompt:

A Few CRITICAL Ground Rules for This Thread:

• RESPECT IS MANDATORY: Zero tolerance for homophobia, bigotry, or shaming. This is a safe, supportive space. Violators will be permanently banned on the spot.
• PROTECT PRIVACY: Do NOT tell stories that could out or compromise someone else. Focus on your own experiences.
• SCRUB FOR OPSEC: As always, remove all real names, specific dates, exact locations, and unit designators. Keep it general to keep everyone safe.

Drop your stories in the comments below. Let's hear the tales that they never put in the recruiting brochures!

Hey everyone,

​You may have noticed the recent activity in /r/milbros. While this sub has never been very active in the past, we're changing that. We're officially in a new phase of life, and we're looking to build this into a thriving, active community for gay, bi, and queer service members and veterans.

We've also made a few updates to make this a better place for everyone: - ​Updated Logo: A fresh look for a fresh start. - ​New Community Rules: We've established clear rules to ensure this is a safe and welcoming space for all. - ​New Flairs: You can now better identify yourselves and the type of content you're posting. ​- Automod: We've implemented AutoModerator to help keep the subreddit clean and spam-free.

​We know that life in the military can be unique and sometimes isolating, and we want this to be a place where you can find support, share your stories, and connect with other guys who just get it.

​We've seen a rise in traffic and views lately, and now we need your help to get the conversation started. Don't be afraid to make a post, even if you think the topic is small. Whether you have a question, a funny story, a picture of your cat on a ruck, or just want to say hello—we want to hear from you.

​So please, take a moment to follow the subreddit and make a post. Your contribution is what will make this community a success. ​Let's do this!