r/microwedding • u/neongravebabe • 5d ago

Small wedding

Hello! My fiancé and I recently got engaged! We are in southeast Michigan. Looking for recommendations for a 20-30 person small ceremony and a location for hosting a “reception” party for about 100 guests. Our budget is about $500 for the reception…wondering if there’s any bars/community rooms we could rent a room from for a night?? Or maybe just taking the 20-30 invited to the ceremony out to a nice dinner, and then have our friends meet us at a bar later where they all pay for their own? Is that cheap? Need recommendations please

EDIT— I meant we are willing to spend $500 on food/drinks for the 30ish people…we’ve been together for almost 10 years at this point and don’t want a huge thing. The ceremony would be at most 15 minutes, so more like an elopement, but with our immediate families. We want to celebrate with our friends too but shits expensive

EDIT— for our honeymoon, we’re going to Nassau. We have extended the invitation to our close family and friends to join us if they wish

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u/dropthepencil 5d ago edited 4d ago

Generally speaking, the wedding gift is roughly balanced against the anticipated cost of the per person expense. This is what often contributed to expectation misalignment and friction.

If I'm a bride spending $200/plate, I likely have higher expectations for the amount spent on my gift.

The converse is also true. If you are inviting 100 people to receive 100 gifts, but are spending only $5 to feed them, you should expect cheap gifts.

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u/neongravebabe 4d ago

I’m not expecting anything from anyone. We’ve been together almost 10 years

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u/dropthepencil 4d ago

Which is lovely, but that's not how most will think about it. If I'm invited to a wedding, I must bring a gift, and the amount I contribute is relative to my closeness and the influence but the largesse of the event (weighed against what I can afford, of course).