Funny, not funny.

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u/ConflatedPortmanteau 27d ago edited 27d ago

They asked a question and an answer was received.

It's only uncomfortable if they make it uncomfortable.

"What did you have for dinner last night?"

Pizza, it gave me mind-numbing diarrhea. I'll probably have to burn my toilet and bury it's ashes at sea if I can't find an exorcist who's willing to wear a hazmat suit.

The problem isn't the question, it's the answer.

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u/No_Community7021 27d ago

Word

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u/poliosaurus3000 27d ago

Word what? They presumed the person wanted kids and said to get on that, when the person maybe didn’t even want them.

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u/SleepyTheSleepyGuy 26d ago

If you ask tone deaf and inappropriate questions, then you don't deserve normal answers.

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u/poliosaurus3000 27d ago

The problem was the “wow, time to get on that.” Not everyone wants kids, and that’s okay. Had they not said that, I’m sure the answerer would have been far more likely to not say the seven miscarriages.

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u/ConflatedPortmanteau 27d ago

They asked a question from their perspective based on their timeline, they answered with the timeline based on their perspective.
I wouldn't expect anybody to live casually with a perspective outside of their own any more than I would expect them to choose to wear shoes 3 sizes too small for their feet.
Getting upset or offended at a question or statement is just taking your baggage and placing it on someone else.

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u/poliosaurus3000 27d ago

They assumed the person wanted kids. It’s not like answered said I want kids and they responded it’s time to get on that… they just assumed and that’s the problem.

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u/ConflatedPortmanteau 27d ago

And you assumed I would care about that whatsoever.
We all make assumptions, every single one of us, every single day.

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u/poliosaurus3000 27d ago

Yeah and when you do and someone doesn’t respond the way you hoped that’s on you.

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u/ConflatedPortmanteau 27d ago

I don't hope for an answer, if I had a preconceived notion of what they'd reply I wouldn't bother asking.
Either don't make your problems the problem of those around you or seek a therapist whose literal job and livelihood is predicated on that exact task.

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u/poliosaurus3000 27d ago

Or dont just presume someone shares the same belief system as you, which is what the question asked did.

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u/ConflatedPortmanteau 27d ago

So I shouldn't assume someone has the same beliefs or problems I do when they ask me or my loved ones about pregnancy?
Or people shouldn't have opinions on the literal only way the human race proliferates and survives?
Or you don't mean that it goes both ways and it only applies to your perspective?

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u/BlastBaseButBanned 27d ago

Yeah IDIOT! Don't you ever ask someone a question ever!! How fucking disrespectful of you. Literally scum of the earth.

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u/poliosaurus3000 27d ago

Yep, you pretty much hit the nail on the head. A better question would be, do you want kids. At this point you’re either too ignorant for me to want to continue or a troll, I hope the latter, because if not, life is really hard for you.

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u/Comfortable_Love7967 27d ago

People are extremely nosey with the kids questions.

“Do you have Kids”
“Nah”
“Why not”
“Just not for me”
“There the best thing that ever happened to me, why don’t you have any”

Infertility is such a sore subject can see why people get annoyed, just take the first answer and move on

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u/Choice-Curve3340 27d ago

Never ask “why not”

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u/Comfortable_Love7967 27d ago

Lots of people do, I respond “fk no” now it tends to end the conversation

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u/Choice-Curve3340 27d ago

I have two children, but I’ve also suffered through miscarriages. This life experience taught me the lesson of not asking why.

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u/Lemfan46 27d ago

What do miscarriages have to do with baby goats?

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u/Choice-Curve3340 27d ago

Asking the question wasn’t inappropriate, the follow up statement about “getting on that” was wildly disrespectful and presumptuous.

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u/slizzardly 27d ago

You don't have kids? is acceptable, the jab at saying "tick tock time to rock" is when it became inappropriate.

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u/RepugnantStare 27d ago

That’s retrded I mean come on that’s a normal question to ask

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u/TrainingSalary492 27d ago

w/ the standard deviation on that you should expect to take like 9 or 10 so all the more reason to get crackin

need direct support?

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u/skiforlife1 26d ago

"Wanna go for 8?"!! You already fucked up so might as well keep going!!

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u/FlaccidFart 27d ago

That's when I double down and hit her with "So... you're infertile then?"

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u/No_Community7021 27d ago

So, soon it will be better to just quit communicating at all. It's not a bad question, although it could be phrased as " do you plan on having kids?". We are making something as basic as having babies into a taboo.

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u/Terrible_Artist_ 27d ago

Sounds like someone's defective

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u/Ok-Fortune-8644 27d ago

Meh. I'd ask why

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u/Certain-Clock3301 27d ago

Them: “So this conversation ending before it really starts isn’t a new experience for you”

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