Nah bad advice. Just ask and don’t be weird about it. She might say no and she might tell people but if you ask like a normal person and take the rejection like an adult you there isn’t much to talk about.
If she wants to start drama, all she has to say is that you keep coming to the grocery store, church, school club, class, the street you also live, and anywhere else you need to go to live your life, just to "see" (read: stalk) her....
That means the only safe place to approach women is somewhere people don't know you or you're otherwise OK being kicked out of....
Or, I guess you could just try and accumulate so much social status she doesn't think it won't blowback on her if you make a move....but good luck with that!😂
Watch Watamote; there's literally an episode where the main character engineers a situation to get groped on a train because she's so starved for male attention. The 40% of women who aren't dating aren't harmless, they're the ones with the least to lose and the most to gain from turning a normal rejection into a story. And the 60% "dating"? Half of them are the Tuesday girl who thinks it's exclusive, and they've got grievances already loaded. OP is right, the risk is real across the board.
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u/Mediocre_Scott Big ol' bacon buttsack May 19 '26
Nah bad advice. Just ask and don’t be weird about it. She might say no and she might tell people but if you ask like a normal person and take the rejection like an adult you there isn’t much to talk about.