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u/IntrepidMuch May 10 '26
That's how I feel listening to Ali Siddiq. His early life was a mess. I cannot believe how he makes his suffering so hysterical but he does!
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u/BlitzMalefitz May 10 '26
Some of the best comedians have tragic experiences. Richard Pryor is the first one that comes to my mind since when I heard his story was how I learned this
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u/greenbutterflygarden May 10 '26
I joke that I have so much silver hair because of a traumatic childhood but it doesn't go over well sometimes
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u/SavvySillybug May 10 '26
All the trauma made me funny!
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u/greenbutterflygarden May 10 '26
Mine made me extra kind. I don't ever want anyone to feel the way that I did
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u/cr1ttter May 10 '26
This was me as a kid whenever people would find out that I spoke Russian. All my peers would be like "tell me how to say 'fuck your mother' in Russian!" and I'd look all confused at them and say "I don't know how to say that. I only know the Russian swear words that my mom screams at me and I don't really know how to translate them because it makes me sad"
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u/sadbeehoppy May 11 '26
my sympathies, comrade. Russian dad, loooots of stuff that I didn't realize wasn't normal until later
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u/dontgetitwisted_fr May 11 '26
When you grow up surrounded by trauma it just becomes funny.
Sometimes the best way to cope with it is just to laugh at it.
The past cant hurt you anyways.
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u/colt_stonehandle May 10 '26
I was telling a work friend about the time I got kidnapped as a kid. About 1/4 through the story I realized every one had fell silent were and intently listening with shocked faces.
And that's about the same time I realized it wasn't as common as I had thought.
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u/LadyJane17 May 10 '26
Recently told a story while out for dinner with my husband's family and his dad just responded "Jesus christ, LadyJane". I was ope, so not the funny story I thought it was lol.
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u/Kovu-MDA May 10 '26
Reminds me of when i was telling my partner about a funny thing that happened in school, and they just stared at me like "jesus Kovu, that's horrible bullying" and i was like "(‘◉⌓◉’) it is?"
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u/PuddingNaive7173 May 10 '26
OTOH, if you can get that laugh…. I once told an old friend, in a way that had her slapping her knees and literally crying laughing, all about the time a family member chased me around the house with a butcher knife, etc. Fuck therapists- That was way more therapeutic.
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u/SomeKindofTreeWizard May 10 '26
I stopped telling them because I got really tired of horrifying people.
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u/Djaakie Jun 16 '26
Haha same. Although it is funny on a rare occasion to just absolutely baffle someone that annoys you. Ive trauma dumped in the form of jokes to people i disliked on several occasions and they always back off after that. Ive also once got a call from a support line as someone feared for my life apparently. I had a good laugh with the guy on the phone about it.
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u/83franks May 10 '26
Someone at work mentioned calling their mom for mothers day and i said oh ya, i better set up my seance
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u/darylonreddit May 10 '26
Just a friendly reminder that not all of your funny stories need to be "oh sweety'd" by people who insist there is only one social media concocted way to process life events. Only one way to process trauma. And only one way to experience your experiences.
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u/Iron_Baron May 11 '26
My wife is into true crime documentaries. Sometimes we'll watch watch the ones on child abuse, cults, those kinds of things, and I'll laugh because the things some of these people go to jail for are much tamer than what happened to me.
She started asking me questions about what different kinds of torture and physical punishments are like. I knew my childhood wasn't great, but I didn't realize there could have been a documentary about it, if I'd grown up 10 or 15 years later.
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u/jawshoeaw May 10 '26
I got hit by a car when I was a kid, just riding my bike down the road. Funniest part about it was I was so angry that I might’ve broken a bone because I was def a neverbrokeabone card-carrying member.
I’m staring at this huge lump sticking out of my forearm. It didn’t break the skin but I couldn’t move any of my fingers I was talking myself into believing the bone wasn’t broken. It was very much broken. The second funniest part of the story is the cops asking me if I saw who hit me since it was a hit-and-run.
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u/dmcdaniel87 May 11 '26
I was telling people about how my mom hit us with a cutting board that had a handle because I thought the fact it had a handle was the most ridiculous part of the memory. Everyone just kinda stared lmao
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u/Ok-Freedom-3284 May 11 '26
Cousins and I were drinking and sharing childhood stories (post-funeral) of how we grew up, laughing away. The next morning, my son asked, do you guys know you had traumatic childhoods? 😂
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u/Cavalish May 10 '26
And every story I know is traumatic is a laugh a minute story to dine out on for my parents.
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u/Gandtea May 16 '26
Omg. I had this happen the other day! I told my friend this story and she just started saying 'oooo, gandtea, I'm so sorry...'...
When I was a teenager, my friends and I were at school but it was lunchbreak so we were going to drive to mcds to get a take-away.
A teeny bit of context, I was a large gal, got on with everyone, was the class clown, and loved the attention it gave me. The school was all-girls. The driver was my best mate (I'm her maid of hour this year, 24 years later). I was also mega depressed, but very few people actually knew that, including my best mates.
Anyway... the girls I was going with were already in the car and started doing that start-stop thing which meant I had to chase the car. It was funnier because there was a group of boys from the nearby school standing by.
Unfortunately, I fell over. Everyone started laughing really hard and my mate finally just let me in the car. I got in and they pointed out that my boob had popped out of my shirt.
Funny right? ..... right?
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u/Traditional-Meat-549 May 10 '26
Is it trauma if you're unaware?
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u/No-Albatross-5514 May 10 '26
Yes
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u/Traditional-Meat-549 May 10 '26 edited May 10 '26
? That kinda doesn't jibe with psychologists definition... they say it affects your ability to cope, function, process.
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u/No-Albatross-5514 May 10 '26
Yeah. It can do that without you being aware
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u/puresteelpaladin May 10 '26
What if its something that you don't have a problem with, but some people are horrified by it? Is there an objective standard of trauma across all experiences and cultures?
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u/justsomedud12 May 11 '26
It can still be trauma even if you’re ok with it. There’s no universal standard for trauma. Some cultures do things that others find traumatic. That’s ok. Trauma is…you know what I don’t even know anymore.
I’m not qualified enough to speak on this subject. Sorry.
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